Topic: What Crap?
motowndowntown's photo
Wed 03/24/10 05:11 PM
One can be with people and still be alone.

papersmile's photo
Wed 03/24/10 05:14 PM


Yes, I'm a little sloppy. Yes, I forget things. Yes, I eat poorly and smoke too much. She should get used to it or move on.



i'm always amused to read how people refuse to change, anything, for anyone, and then wonder why they are alone?

what's wrong with trying to do something for something you love, if only to make them happy and to show them how much you care of their opinion?

i'm not talking about core values here, but what's the big deal about picking up your socks if she asks you to and tells you that it bothers her? she should pack her bags and leave? over that?


Firstly, I'm not alone. As a matter of fact, I had a date last night, I have a date tonight and I have another one planned for tomorrow. Two different women.

We're not talking about giving a gift here. We're talking about making a huge change in the way we've lived our whole life. Moreover, I don't ask a woman to change. Why should she ask me?

What the big deal about picking up our socks for us if they are bothering you? It doesn't trouble me to have my socks on the floor and I don't understand why it does you.

Is it really worth fighting about? I think not.


it sounds as though it's worth it to you. indifferent

second, it was my turn to be general; i was not speaking about you in particular, i just chose to use your quote to show an example.

the big deal is that people tend to feel special and loved when we think another is not only listening to what we'd like, but actually hearing it as well, and acting upon it.

TexasScoundrel's photo
Wed 03/24/10 05:32 PM

One can be with people and still be alone.


Perhaps, but it's less likely. I think it's fair to say I'm far less lonely than someone that hasn't had a date in the past year.

I also have about 30 friends I see at least once a week.

IndnPrncs's photo
Wed 03/24/10 05:36 PM
Edited by IndnPrncs on Wed 03/24/10 05:36 PM


One can be with people and still be alone.


Perhaps, but it's less likely. I think it's fair to say I'm far less lonely than someone that hasn't had a date in the past year.

I also have about 30 friends I see at least once a week.


I'm thinking Paper meant "not being in a relationship with a significant other" when she said "alone" but that's only my interpretation by the structuring of the sentence...


Some men talk crap some women talk crap, who cares.. Is it really that big of a deal? It's kind of like generalizing or stirring the pot no?

motowndowntown's photo
Wed 03/24/10 05:36 PM
There is a difference between being alone and being lonely.

TexasScoundrel's photo
Wed 03/24/10 05:38 PM



Yes, I'm a little sloppy. Yes, I forget things. Yes, I eat poorly and smoke too much. She should get used to it or move on.



i'm always amused to read how people refuse to change, anything, for anyone, and then wonder why they are alone?

what's wrong with trying to do something for something you love, if only to make them happy and to show them how much you care of their opinion?

i'm not talking about core values here, but what's the big deal about picking up your socks if she asks you to and tells you that it bothers her? she should pack her bags and leave? over that?


Firstly, I'm not alone. As a matter of fact, I had a date last night, I have a date tonight and I have another one planned for tomorrow. Two different women.

We're not talking about giving a gift here. We're talking about making a huge change in the way we've lived our whole life. Moreover, I don't ask a woman to change. Why should she ask me?

What the big deal about picking up our socks for us if they are bothering you? It doesn't trouble me to have my socks on the floor and I don't understand why it does you.

Is it really worth fighting about? I think not.


it sounds as though it's worth it to you. indifferent

second, it was my turn to be general; i was not speaking about you in particular, i just chose to use your quote to show an example.

the big deal is that people tend to feel special and loved when we think another is not only listening to what we'd like, but actually hearing it as well, and acting upon it.


It's not a big deal to me. I'm not the one starting a fight whatever the issue is. I don't argue about such mundane things. I ignore them.

It's my feeling that if something is important to you, you should take care of it.

TexasScoundrel's photo
Wed 03/24/10 05:38 PM



Yes, I'm a little sloppy. Yes, I forget things. Yes, I eat poorly and smoke too much. She should get used to it or move on.



i'm always amused to read how people refuse to change, anything, for anyone, and then wonder why they are alone?

what's wrong with trying to do something for something you love, if only to make them happy and to show them how much you care of their opinion?

i'm not talking about core values here, but what's the big deal about picking up your socks if she asks you to and tells you that it bothers her? she should pack her bags and leave? over that?


Firstly, I'm not alone. As a matter of fact, I had a date last night, I have a date tonight and I have another one planned for tomorrow. Two different women.

We're not talking about giving a gift here. We're talking about making a huge change in the way we've lived our whole life. Moreover, I don't ask a woman to change. Why should she ask me?

What the big deal about picking up our socks for us if they are bothering you? It doesn't trouble me to have my socks on the floor and I don't understand why it does you.

Is it really worth fighting about? I think not.


it sounds as though it's worth it to you. indifferent

second, it was my turn to be general; i was not speaking about you in particular, i just chose to use your quote to show an example.

the big deal is that people tend to feel special and loved when we think another is not only listening to what we'd like, but actually hearing it as well, and acting upon it.


It's not a big deal to me. I'm not the one starting a fight whatever the issue is. I don't argue about such mundane things. I ignore them.

It's my feeling that if something is important to you, you should take care of it.

Winx's photo
Wed 03/24/10 06:14 PM

There is a difference between being alone and being lonely.


Very true.

no photo
Wed 03/24/10 07:06 PM
4 me relationships r no good i just got out of the worst yet i just havent met anyone who is as even interested in putting as much into the relationship as i do theres too many people who pretend 2 b interested in what u have 2 say rather tham say they dnt care

no photo
Wed 03/24/10 07:07 PM

There is a difference between being alone and being lonely.


So very true. flowerforyou

Jtevans's photo
Wed 03/24/10 07:10 PM
maybe they're into Scat and like to be pooped on flowerforyou

no photo
Wed 03/24/10 07:15 PM

maybe they're into Scat and like to be pooped on flowerforyou


I never even knew what that was until one dark night on Mingle not too long ago..... ewwww!!!!!!surprised

navygirl's photo
Wed 03/24/10 08:25 PM
Edited by navygirl on Wed 03/24/10 08:26 PM
Nope, I dislike drama and drama queens or should I say drama kings? I don't get upset if he doesn't call, or doesn't accompany me to an outing; doesn't talk about his feelings, or forgets about my birthday/Valentine's day, but the guy sure does. I like my alone time and he sees it as me not caring or that I am seeing someone behind his back. I am a busy and logical woman; so don't have time to deal with drama. To me unless someone is hurt or dies; nothing is worse getting upset about. Then again after spending 20 years in the military; takes a lot to rattle me. LOL

lovet0havefun's photo
Wed 03/24/10 08:27 PM
Edited by lovet0havefun on Wed 03/24/10 08:28 PM

I've seen a number of women posting about the "crap" or "bullsh!t" they have to put up with from men, but I've never understood what it is. I'm curious to learn if it's something that's simply the nature of men, like not even seeing a mess, or if it's something else.

So please ladies, explain to me exactly what this BS is you have to put up with from so many men.



Oh dear..surprised
You just opened up a hole of complaining
A new tear in the universe, black hole of whining.
You don't know what you just did....scared

EquusDancer's photo
Wed 03/24/10 10:11 PM




Yes, I'm a little sloppy. Yes, I forget things. Yes, I eat poorly and smoke too much. She should get used to it or move on.



i'm always amused to read how people refuse to change, anything, for anyone, and then wonder why they are alone?

what's wrong with trying to do something for something you love, if only to make them happy and to show them how much you care of their opinion?

i'm not talking about core values here, but what's the big deal about picking up your socks if she asks you to and tells you that it bothers her? she should pack her bags and leave? over that?


Firstly, I'm not alone. As a matter of fact, I had a date last night, I have a date tonight and I have another one planned for tomorrow. Two different women.

We're not talking about giving a gift here. We're talking about making a huge change in the way we've lived our whole life. Moreover, I don't ask a woman to change. Why should she ask me?

What the big deal about picking up our socks for us if they are bothering you? It doesn't trouble me to have my socks on the floor and I don't understand why it does you.

Is it really worth fighting about? I think not.


it sounds as though it's worth it to you. indifferent

second, it was my turn to be general; i was not speaking about you in particular, i just chose to use your quote to show an example.

the big deal is that people tend to feel special and loved when we think another is not only listening to what we'd like, but actually hearing it as well, and acting upon it.


It's not a big deal to me. I'm not the one starting a fight whatever the issue is. I don't argue about such mundane things. I ignore them.

It's my feeling that if something is important to you, you should take care of it.


And that's the problem. It may not be important to you, or other issues are unimportant to other men, but after a while it does irritate and wear on the person.

How hard is it to pick up your clothes? Especially if there's a laundry basket nearby? How hard is it to take the trash out? Cook dinner, clean up? Why should a person be in a relationship, if they're forced to nag over it, or do it themselves? At least, if I'm not in a relationship, I'm only taking care of myself. So that's the "crap" and BS, I don't want to deal with.

One of my ex's didn't have a job, and didn't have the decency to keep up the place. He thought I should be grateful he took the dogs out while I was at work. Working through a back injury, dealing with doctors and such, I was still doing everything.

I do tend to lock up my emotions, so it would be very unlikely you'd know about it. In this case, I told him, asked him, and did get emotional over it. I'd get maybe a week of help and then he'd slide back into it. So, when he threatened to behead the parakeets, that was the final straw. I packed it up and left.

papersmile's photo
Thu 03/25/10 03:20 AM
It's not a big deal to me. I'm not the one starting a fight whatever the issue is. I don't argue about such mundane things. I ignore them.

It's my feeling that if something is important to you, you should take care of it.


your partner's wishes and feelings are mundane? wow! WOW!!

it's my thought that if something is important to my partner, it becomes important to me - because of his worth and value in my eyes. i may be forgetful, or busy, or something, but i'd never tell him that his thoughts are 'mundane'. wow! WOW!!

(i think i might know about to what crap you are referring!)

navygirl's photo
Thu 03/25/10 05:41 AM


Yes, I'm a little sloppy. Yes, I forget things. Yes, I eat poorly and smoke too much. She should get used to it or move on.



i'm always amused to read how people refuse to change, anything, for anyone, and then wonder why they are alone?

what's wrong with trying to do something for something you love, if only to make them happy and to show them how much you care of their opinion?

i'm not talking about core values here, but what's the big deal about picking up your socks if she asks you to and tells you that it bothers her? she should pack her bags and leave? over that?


Firstly, I'm not alone. As a matter of fact, I had a date last night, I have a date tonight and I have another one planned for tomorrow. Two different women.

We're not talking about giving a gift here. We're talking about making a huge change in the way we've lived our whole life. Moreover, I don't ask a woman to change. Why should she ask me?

What the big deal about picking up our socks for us if they are bothering you? It doesn't trouble me to have my socks on the floor and I don't understand why it does you.

Is it really worth fighting about? I think not.

navygirl's photo
Thu 03/25/10 05:45 AM
Edited by navygirl on Thu 03/25/10 05:49 AM


Yes, I'm a little sloppy. Yes, I forget things. Yes, I eat poorly and smoke too much. She should get used to it or move on.



i'm always amused to read how people refuse to change, anything, for anyone, and then wonder why they are alone?

what's wrong with trying to do something for something you love, if only to make them happy and to show them how much you care of their opinion?

i'm not talking about core values here, but what's the big deal about picking up your socks if she asks you to and tells you that it bothers her? she should pack her bags and leave? over that?


Firstly, I'm not alone. As a matter of fact, I had a date last night, I have a date tonight and I have another one planned for tomorrow. Two different women.

We're not talking about giving a gift here. We're talking about making a huge change in the way we've lived our whole life. Moreover, I don't ask a woman to change. Why should she ask me?

What the big deal about picking up our socks for us if they are bothering you? It doesn't trouble me to have my socks on the floor and I don't understand why it does you.

Is it really worth fighting about? I think not.


I have to agree with you on what you are saying. I don't beleive you should have to change for a person period. You accept them for who they are or just move on. I also agree with you that you shouldn't arugue over mundane things. As I said previous if no one is hurt or killed; then what's the big deal? I as a point do not argue or nag as its pointless. We are adults and I will not treat any man like he is a child.

IndnPrncs's photo
Thu 03/25/10 05:53 AM
What is important to one may not be important to another... What we think is mundane may not be to our SO.. IF it is important to them then we should respect them enough to give it consideration as we would want them to do for us...


Gossipmpm's photo
Thu 03/25/10 06:59 AM
Whatever my partner finds important is important to me!

It would just be that way!!! If it's not then my feelngs for them wouldn't be true!

Feelings just kinda intertwine. And if you find your partners feelings mundane then you are one cold fish baby!!!::heart: JMO