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I'd love to know what women think and how to influence someone in a positive way, after a date or a first time meeting.
There is this waiting game that goes on..and the feeling of uncertainty. Let's say, if you really like the person you just went out to a date, but it seems unclear what the other side thinks of you..it could make you have various conflicts in your mind. "Did she like me?" "She seemed happy and good, but was it just the mood set, did I have any role in it?" And then when the date is over and you go home, your brain starts to tick and you aren't sure if you should say anything else beside, that you felt good and would like to be together again. So anyway, I don't wish around like that, but I have already made the next move, so it's not "It would be great" but instead it's "So when are you free again and next time we will go see this and do that". So I'm not only wishing, but when I like someone I just say it out, that I am already making the next meeting and now it will just depend on you if you want to go along with it or not. Is that being pushy or do women like that sort of a mentailty? Or would it be just better off "wishing" things instead of stating it, that "I want to have this happen again so here is my plan". Does that scare women or attracts, I have no idea, but the worst part of this all is the waiting game and see what she will say about it. I think it takes a certain amount of balls for women to say either "yes" or "no", and I never like the "maybe"..because that means, she is not sure if she would want to go on another date with me, or perhpas I'm scaring her with my straightorwardness, or maybe now she is just not sure about the whole thing? Thinking about all this could be mind bending and also concerned..or even the thought comes up and I tell myself "Is it really worth to put this much energy into this very very early relationship, I might gonna get myself hurt again if things just won't work out. " So anyway..yes, this waiting game is the worst part of it. It's just like when you are watching the lottery numbers pulled and you either gonna jump from joy and your life changes, or you gonna throw away your ticket and you may just gonna stop buying lottery tickets forever. |
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Edited by
TonkaTruck3
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Sun 07/25/10 09:01 PM
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Dont let it boggle your mind too much...you have already asked her, now the ball is in her court.
The worst thing a guy can do is to be too pushy about it. You can ask her out again, but dont back her into a corner trying to get an answer out of her right away....give her time and space to consider it. If she's interested, she'll let you know, and if she's not, she'll let you know the hard way!! In either case, keep moving forward!! |
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Dont let it boggle your mind too much...you have already asked her, now the ball is in her court. The worst thing a guy can do is to be too pushy about it. You can ask her out again, but dont back her into a corner trying to get an answer out of her right away....give her time and space to consider it. If she's interested, she'll let you know, and if she's not, she'll let you know the hard way!! In either case, keep moving forward!! He's so right, let her know you would like to see her again, and if she says i'd like to too then ask her when the next times she's free if she keeps blowing you off then she wasn't really interested and if she is then she will usually get back to you right away. |
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Dont let it boggle your mind too much...you have already asked her, now the ball is in her court. The worst thing a guy can do is to be too pushy about it. You can ask her out again, but dont back her into a corner trying to get an answer out of her right away....give her time and space to consider it. If she's interested, she'll let you know, and if she's not, she'll let you know the hard way!! In either case, keep moving forward!! Sounds like I left off at the right place then. She gonna have to have a sleep over it and think about it. I always go like, "if women are taking 20 minutes to decide between 2 almost identical underwears in the store, I can't even imagine how much they work their brain over a guy". 
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Dont let it boggle your mind too much...you have already asked her, now the ball is in her court. The worst thing a guy can do is to be too pushy about it. You can ask her out again, but dont back her into a corner trying to get an answer out of her right away....give her time and space to consider it. If she's interested, she'll let you know, and if she's not, she'll let you know the hard way!! In either case, keep moving forward!! Sounds like I left off at the right place then. She gonna have to have a sleep over it and think about it. I always go like, "if women are taking 20 minutes to decide between 2 almost identical underwears in the store, I can't even imagine how much they work their brain over a guy". you have nooooooooooo idea 
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Edited by
Kings_Knight
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Sun 07/25/10 10:38 PM
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Duuuuuude ... this is WAY too overanalytical ... life really AIN'T that complicated. The old rule of sales still applies here ... After you give the price (in this case, the dating experience) - SHUT UP ... the first one to talk after the price is on the table - LOSES ... or, in this case, 'wins' ... There's such a thing as talking your way INTO a sale, and I've seen more than one salesman do that and then immediately talk himself OUT of the sale 'cuz he just didn't know when to STOP TALKING. Be cool, be smooth, but be PATIENT ...
Oh - we know you ain't gonna quit buyin' them lottery tickets, either ... |
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I've always just kept it casual. Walk her to her door. If the date was fun I would usually say something like "that was fun." Give a small fake hug. I'm not kissing on the 1st date chick could have herpes crawling outta her @ss all over her body..yuck
Then I say "Hey you have my card. If you want to do this again, you have my info. If not use it as a book mark." Then I walk away. turn around half way and say "G'night" then keep walking. Or you could go this route... "I said, "Do you love me?" and she said, "No, but that's a really nice ski mask." |
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Dont let it boggle your mind too much...you have already asked her, now the ball is in her court. The worst thing a guy can do is to be too pushy about it. You can ask her out again, but dont back her into a corner trying to get an answer out of her right away....give her time and space to consider it. If she's interested, she'll let you know, and if she's not, she'll let you know the hard way!! In either case, keep moving forward!! He's so right, let her know you would like to see her again, and if she says i'd like to too then ask her when the next times she's free if she keeps blowing you off then she wasn't really interested and if she is then she will usually get back to you right away. What they said. 20 minutes for underwear? Sheesh! Never. Course that may be because I loathe clothes shopping. |
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I love an alpha-male
he will take charge and say. Ya know I dig ya Tammy. When we doin this again and me being the alpha -female will melt to his feet and say whenever ya say Lol GO NAVY!!! 
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I love an alpha-male he will take charge and say. Ya know I dig ya Tammy. When we doin this again and me being the alpha -female will melt to his feet and say whenever ya say Lol GO NAVY!!! 
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I hate the waiting game! If I go out with someone, and I have a good time and enjoy being around them, then I tell them so! Nothing clingy or psycho...just..."hey...that was fun! I had a great time and would love to do it again!" Hopefully they agree and we decide on another date. If not, then oh well...at least I know not to waste anymore time or energy thinking about that person because they really aren't into me.
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I'd love to know what women think and how to influence someone in a positive way, after a date or a first time meeting. There is this waiting game that goes on..and the feeling of uncertainty. Let's say, if you really like the person you just went out to a date, but it seems unclear what the other side thinks of you..it could make you have various conflicts in your mind. "Did she like me?" "She seemed happy and good, but was it just the mood set, did I have any role in it?" And then when the date is over and you go home, your brain starts to tick and you aren't sure if you should say anything else beside, that you felt good and would like to be together again. So anyway, I don't wish around like that, but I have already made the next move, so it's not "It would be great" but instead it's "So when are you free again and next time we will go see this and do that". So I'm not only wishing, but when I like someone I just say it out, that I am already making the next meeting and now it will just depend on you if you want to go along with it or not. Is that being pushy or do women like that sort of a mentailty? Or would it be just better off "wishing" things instead of stating it, that "I want to have this happen again so here is my plan". Does that scare women or attracts, I have no idea, but the worst part of this all is the waiting game and see what she will say about it. I think it takes a certain amount of balls for women to say either "yes" or "no", and I never like the "maybe"..because that means, she is not sure if she would want to go on another date with me, or perhpas I'm scaring her with my straightorwardness, or maybe now she is just not sure about the whole thing? Thinking about all this could be mind bending and also concerned..or even the thought comes up and I tell myself "Is it really worth to put this much energy into this very very early relationship, I might gonna get myself hurt again if things just won't work out. " So anyway..yes, this waiting game is the worst part of it. It's just like when you are watching the lottery numbers pulled and you either gonna jump from joy and your life changes, or you gonna throw away your ticket and you may just gonna stop buying lottery tickets forever. sweety, there are SO many types of women, we really arent all the same,,lol some prefer the 'games' and 'rules' like waiting a specific amount of times to return a call or waiting until a specific date to give a kiss others arent into games and just prefer genuine emotion and personal values,,,there are no magic numbers for those of us who arent into the games,,,,there is just chemistry and propriety and when there is one , you can be pretty sure the other will be made clear as well. |
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Your pimp hand just isn't that strong yet
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Bone up and tell her. Wishing isn't going to make anything happen. You have to live life and say what's on your mind.
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Edited by
Atlantis75
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Mon 07/26/10 03:52 PM
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Bone up and tell her. Wishing isn't going to make anything happen. You have to live life and say what's on your mind. Tell her what? I had 1 date with her so far. It's not like I am having sleepless nights, I just want to be clear about how she feels about it, but as I have mentioned, women are slower to this thing anyway, some of them gets interested when I'm already loosing interest in the "waiting game". I won't wait around for weeks, that's for sure. I have already told her. She said she is busy all week or don't know when she is free again. So I said, let me know when you are not busy so I can pick you up and show you around (she is new around here). She said "ok". I can't go farther than that..I'm not gonna whine and overflow her with messages and calls and tell her the same thing over and over. I have already told her that I'll be waiting for her to tell me when, she knows my schedule (every day after 5pm and the weekends are free). I'm just gonna ask her time to time how she is doing. As someone said already, the ball is bouncing around in her court, it's her turn. |
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Bone up and tell her. Wishing isn't going to make anything happen. You have to live life and say what's on your mind. Tell her what? I had 1 date with her so far. It's not like I am having sleepless nights, I just want to be clear about how she feels about it, but as I have mentioned, women are slower to this thing anyway, some of them gets interested when I'm already loosing interest in the "waiting game". I won't wait around for weeks, that's for sure. I have already told her. She said she is busy all week or don't know when she is free again. So I said, let me know when you are not busy so I can pick you up and show you around (she is new around here). She said "ok". I can't go farther than that..I'm not gonna whine and overflow her with messages and calls and tell her the same thing over and over. I have already told her that I'll be waiting for her to tell me when, she knows my schedule (every day after 5pm and the weekends are free). I'm just gonna ask her time to time how she is doing. As someone said already, the ball is bouncing around in her court, it's her turn. Well then, my response is simple based on what you have written...2 weeks (you did tell her "I'll be waiting...") for her to set up a time/date. If she's into you, then she'll find and make time for another date. You have told her everything that can be said. |
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Edited by
Atlantis75
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Mon 07/26/10 04:51 PM
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You have told her everything that can be said. Indeed. So, it's not really about what I have or have not done, it's just my way of thinking, trying to figure out what in the world she thinks of me, if she thinks of me at all. Some women are impossibly hard to figure out. They simply display no emotions, it's like dealing with a robot. It's actually worse than that, because the robot makes logical moves, while for women everything is just weird. The "maybe" means no, and "yes" means maybe. The "yes" is never really said in that form. It's constant non-stop text messages and the phone ringing off the hook to the point of being very annoying. That's the "yes". So I'm guessing I'm a "maybe". See? I got some experience with women. |
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Your pimp hand just isn't that strong yet 
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Myself I don't like the waiting game from either side. If your into them or want to get to know them then do so if not then move on.
If I go out with a guy and I enjoyed it and he ask me out again, my response is where and when I'm game. To me if they are not really into you they will put you off. Don't let them leave you hanging if that is the game they want to play then bet them at their own game...... 
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Edited by
Atlantis75
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Mon 07/26/10 06:45 PM
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Myself I don't like the waiting game from either side. If your into them or want to get to know them then do so if not then move on. If I go out with a guy and I enjoyed it and he ask me out again, my response is where and when I'm game. To me if they are not really into you they will put you off. Don't let them leave you hanging if that is the game they want to play then bet them at their own game...... It's just a sad thing that you are not like most of the women ~ or at least those women, who cross my path.
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