Topic: Do Women Want To Be Saved
hugzz's photo
Sat 05/21/11 04:53 PM
I sure don't need someone to save me. I have collected enough papers in my lifetime already, but it doesn't mean I wouldn't like someone to share life with me. Been alone a long time, don't know if I could even cohabitate with someone. But, sure would like to have a social friend with benefits. Someone to go do things with on a regular basis. Most men in this area have been there done that and all they want are the benefits, let alone call it a relationship. So as each year goes by, it isn't looking too promising.

RKISIT's photo
Sat 05/21/11 05:00 PM
why can't women just give BJ Mckay and his best friend bear a chance they are awesome ,a truck driver and a monkey,it was a great show

Scorpio_WJR's photo
Sat 05/21/11 05:16 PM
For me, being single is incredibly depressing and in order to be happy, we all need someone, to only have one person to share a life with, someone who is more than just a friend or a casual date. So that is how I see it, that we all need saving from having to go through life without that person.

FearandLoathing's photo
Sat 05/21/11 05:17 PM

For me, being single is incredibly depressing and in order to be happy, we all need someone, to only have one person to share a life with, someone who is more than just a friend or a casual date. So that is how I see it, that we all need saving from having to go through life without that person.


No, we don't all need saving.

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Sat 05/21/11 05:28 PM


For me, being single is incredibly depressing and in order to be happy, we all need someone, to only have one person to share a life with, someone who is more than just a friend or a casual date. So that is how I see it, that we all need saving from having to go through life without that person.


No, we don't all need saving.


Especially when being "saved" is a hundred times worse than not.


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Sat 05/21/11 05:30 PM
For me, being single means I can scratch where I itch, when I itch, without having to put up with a snarling ....

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Sat 05/21/11 06:09 PM
Wow, this topic has really taken off hasn't it? lol

People who save other people, certainly don't waste their time. I was one of those people that needed saving. My best friend helped me though everything. She has changed my opinion and attitude towards alot of things.

All I needed was a little love and kindness, something that I was very short off.

She is my hero ^_^

Scorpio_WJR's photo
Sat 05/21/11 08:49 PM
You see happy

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Sat 05/21/11 08:56 PM

Wow, this topic has really taken off hasn't it? lol

People who save other people, certainly don't waste their time. I was one of those people that needed saving. My best friend helped me though everything. She has changed my opinion and attitude towards alot of things.

All I needed was a little love and kindness, something that I was very short off.

She is my hero ^_^
cool

bastet126's photo
Sat 05/21/11 09:15 PM

Wow, this topic has really taken off hasn't it? lol

People who save other people, certainly don't waste their time. I was one of those people that needed saving. My best friend helped me though everything. She has changed my opinion and attitude towards alot of things.

All I needed was a little love and kindness, something that I was very short off.

She is my hero ^_^


i like that! i wish this were true all the time though. unless a person is receptive to "being saved", this can go very badly. it's a flip of the coin. you both got lucky. flowerforyou

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Sat 05/21/11 09:18 PM


Wow, this topic has really taken off hasn't it? lol

People who save other people, certainly don't waste their time. I was one of those people that needed saving. My best friend helped me though everything. She has changed my opinion and attitude towards alot of things.

All I needed was a little love and kindness, something that I was very short off.

She is my hero ^_^


i like that! i wish this were true all the time though. unless a person is receptive to "being saved", this can go very badly. it's a flip of the coin. you both got lucky. flowerforyou


truer words haven't been spoken

interesting why it works in one case but not in another...w/e

that's life I guess

Dragoness's photo
Sat 05/21/11 09:22 PM



by a man or do we just like the idea?
50 and long time single myself, I can't imagine
giving up my independence.
I really think we just like the idea that someone
would actually be willing to 'save' and take care'
of us, not really ever do it.



I "saved" myself so he is late but if he wants to share the "saved" me and some of the fun in life to be had, I am all for it.

Goofball73's photo
Sat 05/21/11 09:35 PM
I thought all women needed was a big pecker? :tongue:

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Sat 05/21/11 09:43 PM

For me, being single is incredibly depressing and in order to be happy, we all need someone, to only have one person to share a life with, someone who is more than just a friend or a casual date. So that is how I see it, that we all need saving from having to go through life without that person.


That's gotta suck to be so depressed unless you're with someone. I couldn't date someone like that. I'd want someone who is generally happy with their life already, as I don't think that dating automatically makes everything better.

And like I and others have already said, not all of us need saving. I have people to go through my life with. Some are friends, some have been more than friends. There isn't one specific person that I need 24/7, though. If you're depressed when you're single, maybe work on figuring out why and becoming happier?

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Sat 05/21/11 09:50 PM

Many women needs to come out of the woodwork really.

Stop with the " I want a long term COMMITMENT" and "I am looking for my soulmate" or "I need someone who will only pay attention to me 24/7".

These are scary things for many men.

Sure...20-30 years ago, it was all about getting married and sailing to the Bahamas and having 2-3 kids in a big family house with a dog and making sandwiches to guys who were watching baseball on TV.

This isn't the same age.

We are in a f-kd up society, where things don't work the same way, your "hubby" is checking out your best friend's boob shots on facebook when you aren't looking, or having a giant porn collection downloaded on his computer, where he gets his ideas what to try out on you at night.

Not to mention the economy and unemployment and how women are afraid to get a guy, because he may acts like a parasite or vice versa, so let's drop this sugar coated BS about "meaningful" relationships and your "exclusive one-way ticket" guy you are looking for.

I can almost guarantee, that girls who would say "hey I'm a single girl and I'm looking for guy who is gonna stay with me for a while and makes me sweat at night, but also makes me feel good, but otherwise leave me to be" - would get 1000 times more views than some politically correct " I am looking for a bright shinning knight who will save me from the dragons" -kinda garbage, which only scares men more than women claiming to be mystically empowered ghost hunter fairies. laugh drinker





A lot of men are looking for their "soul mate" also and a long term relationship. Sometimes these are scary things to a woman too.

But women are the ones who end up pregnant. So many women are trying to raise children and their "soul mate" is gone and not paying any support. Or worse yet, they are supporting three kids and an irresponsible man who has not grown up yet.

I've seen men play the role of the knight in shining armor and then they end up being the one who needs "saving."

These days, don't marry anyone until you do a background and credit check. You need to know what you are getting into.


74Drew's photo
Sun 05/22/11 04:40 AM
Edited by 74Drew on Sun 05/22/11 04:40 AM


These days, don't marry anyone until you do a background and credit check. You need to know what you are getting into.



you probably should have just stopped at "don't marry anyone"
a background and credit check? that's sure to suck the love right out of a relationship. let's throw a pre-nup in there while we're at it.

here's a crazy idea, how about getting to know someone over a long period of time(idk maybe a year or two) before running down the aisle to the alter or to the justice of the peace. maybe, and i know this is a crazy idea, after getting to know someone a person would know enough about the other to formulate an idea of who that person really is.

just a theory.


i'm not trying to aim this at you, but what you said, jeanniebean, is a sad representation of the mentality of our society as a whole.

basically, getting to know someone is too hard and they're most definitely going to lie to you so save yourself the energy that's involved in trying to get to know them and just send their fingerprints and dna off to the FBI and their SSN off to one of those credit report websites so that they(the FBI and credit report website) can tell you whether you're a good match or not.



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Lili_M's photo
Sun 05/22/11 09:15 AM

I thought all women needed was a big pecker? :tongue:


I thought all men needed was a deep ****** to put their ***** in?:wink:

Turns out men have feelings too...surprised
huh learn something new every day :heart:

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Sun 05/22/11 09:30 AM



These days, don't marry anyone until you do a background and credit check. You need to know what you are getting into.



you probably should have just stopped at "don't marry anyone"
a background and credit check? that's sure to suck the love right out of a relationship. let's throw a pre-nup in there while we're at it.

here's a crazy idea, how about getting to know someone over a long period of time(idk maybe a year or two) before running down the aisle to the alter or to the justice of the peace. maybe, and i know this is a crazy idea, after getting to know someone a person would know enough about the other to formulate an idea of who that person really is.

just a theory.


i'm not trying to aim this at you, but what you said, jeanniebean, is a sad representation of the mentality of our society as a whole.

basically, getting to know someone is too hard and they're most definitely going to lie to you so save yourself the energy that's involved in trying to get to know them and just send their fingerprints and dna off to the FBI and their SSN off to one of those credit report websites so that they(the FBI and credit report website) can tell you whether you're a good match or not.



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I totally agree with you on getting to know someone. I was thinking about a woman I saw on t.v. who fell in love with a charming man and married him. Then he systematically stole all her money then tried to murder her.

But people who are 'in love' are not rational. People do stupid things when they think they are in love.

You may even think you know the person. People have ways to hide what and who their real character is. Especially con men and con women. Yes, they exist. They are predators. They chose their victims with care.


navygirl's photo
Sun 05/22/11 06:16 PM



by a man or do we just like the idea?
50 and long time single myself, I can't imagine
giving up my independence.
I really think we just like the idea that someone
would actually be willing to 'save' and take care'
of us, not really ever do it.



Not a frigging chance do I want to be saved by a man. The very thought makes me want to puke. mad

Scorpio_WJR's photo
Mon 05/23/11 02:46 AM
Not a frigging chance do I want to be saved by a man. The very thought makes me want to puke. mad
noway Is that because we are going to expect something back?