I believe she is seeking a woman/maid/cook......not a man.

Haha. This is great. Like I said before. From previous relationships I had, I never had a problem doing this. But cooking and cleaning always came natural to me. It got to the point where my g/f told be to back the hell off with doing all the chores and let her do something.

As far as demanding. Ugh. Not cool. Wouldn't sound like a healthy relationship.

Well i like to see a neat and clean house
so i got no problem there

love to cook , here in Jamaica you have to do both
clean and cook .......for your man

I don't respond well to DEMANDS!

ASKING works better for me

Rose, get me a damned cup of coffee.....please

This is funny.

If she has a "Cordon Bleu" in culinary arts, we can share the cooking space. otherwise, Get out of my kitchen! AND AWAY FROM MY BBQ!

As for cleaning, I have no problem dropping 60$ for 2 hrs a week on "Maria" who is a single mother of 3 and works her tail off to support her children. Not because I can't do it, It's because I'm awful at it... really.

In the case of the OP, cooking and cleaning would be a woman's obligation,no???

Is it a bad thing to demand that someone you date have a house and a car and give you their paycheck?




IM just asking, ID really settle for someone with a vehicle who at least contributed at their mothers household,, at this point,,lol

Cooking ang cleaning and etc are essential life functions. My potential life partner (who I am looking for via dating) should know how to do these things and be willing to share the workload. If she doesn't know how to cook basic meals and clean up after herself, well that's a big red flag.

I'm not looking to be someone's maid, and don't expect that from her either. How much depends on the situation. If and when it gets to the point where we live together, I need someone who will do their share. For example, If she wants to stay home all the time and not work, then I think it would be fair for her to take care of most of the housework. If she's working or something else then we figure it out from there :)

She better be willing to contribute something to US as a couple who share a life, not two people who just happen to live together.

hell i've been single most my life i had to do my own washing and cleaning so much that if i seen a woman doing these things i'd probably say "here let me do it"

One of the great things about being single for a while is you notice that if you don't pick it up off the floor or clean it up it remains the same. I think it is one of those laws of physics. 'A body at rest tends to stay at rest.' I wonder how many physical laws were written by ex husbands.

Some men (the old fashioned kind) naturally expect a woman to cook and clean. I see no reason why a gay woman can't expect the same thing if that is what she is looking for.

Would you move in with a woman who just wanted to sit around and watch soaps all day, and leave the house a mess and expect you to take her out to eat every night?

I doubt it.

Unless both parties are working full time jobs, I see no reason why one can't be chief housekeeper and cook. But if both people work, they should share in those duties.

Men or women. Makes no difference.

Actually the sooner you tell someone the better especially if this is non negotiable. Of course expect women to not want to continue to date you after that too. Since things are a fifty fifty thing these days it may be a little harder to find a women who will gladly take this as her sole responsibility.

Good luck.

^this...ultimatums just bring out the rebellious b!tch in me

Alright bro....

So you want a chick to be your mom....ok.


Demand is a word that will ensure you ain't ever gonna get what you want.

..suppose you do score some emotional basket case who jumps everytime you demand something....exactly what are you gonna do for her to make it worth her while to become your Mom?

Haha watch me find the exit quick if one thinks I'm going to cook and clean for them...Shhes they better be able to do their part I'm no ones maid nor cook...

Now myself I would prefer one that likes to cook so we can both help out in the kitchen...

I'm not totally against cooking and cleaning but pretty sure if a possible mate "demanded" this of me the first thing I would clean would be him out of my life. I'm not one for authority.

I clearly see how wording these post can make a difference... ok maybe I used the wrong choice of words... Im not particularly "demanding" or "requiring"... lets just replace the words with "prefer"... you guys are making me seem like a "controlling" "dominant" "do as I say" type of person. GEESH HOLD YOUR HORSES POEPLE... and whats with the judgemental comments, some of you folks need a drink... SERIOUSLY!

PS- Jeanniebean you are a genius!!! If you wrote a book with advice on relationships I would be the first to buy and read it!!!

Look! I'm sorry if I made you do all the cooking & cleaning.





But who does all the work in bed? ~Andrew "dice" Clay