I found out yesterday my partner has been talking to another guy near Atlanta. I took it wayy too wrong and started having panick attacks after 3 years without one. I was with him for nearly two years and he told me yesterday he's been depressed for almost a year and didn't know how to tell me.
There is no easy way to say it.
Number one- you should have came to me first about it..
Number two- you should have straight out said you weren't happy because ****ing with emotions and love is NOT something you can just get over.

I thought we were happy 95% of the time, but we've been living together the entire relationship and then I got hit with this guy calling me telling me that him and my boyfriend have been talking for a few days.

I haven't slept.. I haven't eaten.. I haven't even picked up my drum sticks..

I just need advice.
I don't have anyone to turn to..
I don't know any other gay guys here and for the most part, they all just want to have a good time and i'm looking for a serious relationship.
I thought I was in one, but I guess I was blind.

My mother makes me feel like it's my fault, my sister told me that she wishes there were guys like me that would treat her the way i treated my ex..
God, just typing "ex" makes me cry..
I just need some help, you guys.

yea they are m8 all girls are cheaters i was goin with sum1 and they cheated the hole tym they where goin with me

They were just talking? Is that what you're upset about, or are you upset because he was depressed and didn't tell you?

I think, if they were just talking, I don't know if I'd consider it cheating... But, I know other people consider different things as cheating...

I'd say you need to have a long sit down conversation with him. You need to figure out as a couple whether you want to be together or not, and if you do, you need to figure out how you can both be happy. You also need to talk about not hiding emotions from each other, and then calling someone else. That always ends badly. He needs to understand that the best way to deal with this situation is by talking to YOU, not by running to another person for solace, or comfort, or whatever.

In the end, I think you both need to search yourselves and find out what you want, from yourselves, eachother, and out of the relationship before forward movement can be started.

That, sir, is just ridiculous. We are not all cheaters, and your over generalizations are not appreciated.

All people have the capacity to cheat. That is a fact. Also people can be cowards facing up to the truth.

Yeah it hurts but the fact is it is time to move on and not drag this out any longer. You will only make yourself more miserable!

"is everyone a cheater"

yeah, everyone is a cheater

Main thing is be happy with your self. I find that the more I love myself for the good and bad the easier it is to be with someone who loves themselves. When this happens the lines of communication are far more open and you may not have to deal with someone hiding something from you. Hiding is cheating in my book.

I see cheaters as basically insecure people.
They must constantly replace their partner to
build their esteem.
It does not occur to them, they need only
change themselves into something they
can love.

>yeah, everyone is a cheater


Well, if I have to! Added to my bucket list at the very bottom, below meeting Pelsoi for Drinks.

No, it just seems like it.

To place that type of opinion on every human alive, is a bit unfair really. If a guy cheats on me, i don't go around accusing every other man of it, that would only lessen my chances of finding love. I never place everyone in the same box. And i've never cheated, so.........


Don't let it destroy your faith in love. As i've seen enough people become bitter, evil, desperate, over this type of thing. I once got cheated on too, but if that's all i was worth to him, then good riddance.


It took me quite a few couselling sessions to gain a new-found self confidence. And this time, it won't be taken away.

They rewrite history dear. To do otherwise would make them have to take responsibility for what they did.

I know the feeling and it is gut wrenching.

I tried cheating once. I still lost. I'm terrible at cards.

everyone is not a cheater anymore than everyone is promiscuous

people have different priorities and values which allow them to justify any behavior,,,


they wont all commit the same behavior because they dont all have the same priorities and values,,

No not everyone is a cheater, there are just people with different opinions of what is acceptable in relationships. I think you need to have a very long serious conversation with this guy. You need to talk out why he didn't tell you he was having emotional problems, and why he didn't ocme to you. YOu need to find out what he was doing with the other guy, was it just an innocent talk, like friends. Or was he talking to him as if starting something romantically, or emotionally with him. I know how it feels, as if the world has collapsed (been there a few times, unfortunately). Try and be strong, it WILL work out. There are decent people around, sometimes in the least likely place. Stay strong.

I tried on Connect Four. I am like 0 for 10,000 in that game...and 57.723% of the time I cheated. Ugh! I suck!

Ummmmm....how do you cheat in connect 4 . You play against yourself or somefin??

Don't feel bad. That game is totally rigged.

You'd be amazed at well I think I cheat.