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Topic: Given Up
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Tue 01/31/12 03:23 PM
Edited by SeriouslyJustSayHi on Tue 01/31/12 03:25 PM
I think I have given up & I am not sure how I feel about it.
I was married for many years. Divorced, than had a HORRIBLE relationship with a man for 4 years (held on with all my might so afraid to be alone)...then dated one more guy for a few months and it just didn't work out.
So now I am on my own....kind of enjoying the peace and quiet. "One less egg to fry" if you know what I mean. No Drama, no wondering, no worries other than my own personal ones.

I feel like I have been freed from myself in the sense that I always wanted "the one"...But for now I feel good being alone.

I still have the worry about growing old alone, and wonder if this feeling of peace will be broken one day with that lonely pang many of us know all too well.

Just looking for some feedback,are you happy being alone?


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Tue 01/31/12 03:28 PM
Good for you Serious! Enjoy this time to yourself and do all the things you've wanted to do!

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Tue 01/31/12 03:30 PM

I think I have given up & I am not sure how I feel about it.
I was married for many years. Divorced, than had a HORRIBLE relationship with a man for 4 years (held on with all my might so afraid to be alone)...then dated one more guy for a few months and it just didn't work out.
So now I am on my own....kind of enjoying the peace and quiet. "One less egg to fry" if you know what I mean. No Drama, no wondering, no worries other than my own personal ones.

I feel like I have been freed from myself in the sense that I always wanted "the one"...But for now I feel good being alone.

I still have the worry about growing old alone, and wonder if this feeling of peace will be broken one day with that lonely pang many of us know all too well.

Just looking for some feedback,are you happy being alone?




Not happy, really, but resigned to it.

I've come to the conclusion that there isn't anybody out there who can be a positive factor in my life. And I'm really tired of dealing with the endless parade of negative factors I've been involved with up till now.

In the end it's better to be alone than to be with someone and wish you were alone.

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Tue 01/31/12 03:36 PM
I know exactly how you feel. Pretty much given up myself. Take the time to get to where you want to be and you may be surprised. What you have been looking for may just find you when you are not looking.

You are an attractive woman so if you just relax you find what you have been looking for may just show up when you least expect it.


pennyg281's photo
Tue 01/31/12 03:41 PM
I too am alone and honestly I dont see that changing. Im happy with who I am. If it dose happen bonus :)

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Tue 01/31/12 03:54 PM



Just looking for some feedback,are you happy being alone?






VERY

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Tue 01/31/12 03:55 PM
Im in a relationship where there is like no feeling of love, we hardly ever have sex, when I look at him I dont think to myself that he is handsome and that I want to have sex with him. I have sex with him out of need and thats probably once a month if im lucky. But its just sex. I think all the time about leaving and having my own place but I am so afraid of being by myself, my children r grown and have their own lives. Im not happy in my relationship what do I do.

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Tue 01/31/12 03:58 PM

I think I have given up & I am not sure how I feel about it.
I was married for many years. Divorced, than had a HORRIBLE relationship with a man for 4 years (held on with all my might so afraid to be alone)...then dated one more guy for a few months and it just didn't work out.
So now I am on my own....kind of enjoying the peace and quiet. "One less egg to fry" if you know what I mean. No Drama, no wondering, no worries other than my own personal ones.

I feel like I have been freed from myself in the sense that I always wanted "the one"...But for now I feel good being alone.

I still have the worry about growing old alone, and wonder if this feeling of peace will be broken one day with that lonely pang many of us know all too well.

Just looking for some feedback,are you happy being alone?


Very happy.

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Tue 01/31/12 04:01 PM
awesome!

Goofball73's photo
Tue 01/31/12 04:10 PM
Man...I could go for a fried egg right now.

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Tue 01/31/12 04:18 PM

Man...I could go for a fried egg right now.

lollaugh

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Tue 01/31/12 04:20 PM

I think I have given up & I am not sure how I feel about it.
I was married for many years. Divorced, than had a HORRIBLE relationship with a man for 4 years (held on with all my might so afraid to be alone)...then dated one more guy for a few months and it just didn't work out.
So now I am on my own....kind of enjoying the peace and quiet. "One less egg to fry" if you know what I mean. No Drama, no wondering, no worries other than my own personal ones.

I feel like I have been freed from myself in the sense that I always wanted "the one"...But for now I feel good being alone.

I still have the worry about growing old alone, and wonder if this feeling of peace will be broken one day with that lonely pang many of us know all too well.

Just looking for some feedback,are you happy being alone?





If by being alone, you mean paired up with the opposite sex--- yes I am very happy not to feel I need a man to complete me and keep me company.

I don't call it "being alone.

I am never alone. There are lots of people in the world. Really! They are every where you turn!

But there is not a single person that if you had to spend eternity with only them, that you would be able to stand.

Make some friends. You never have to be alone.





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Tue 01/31/12 04:22 PM

Im in a relationship where there is like no feeling of love, we hardly ever have sex, when I look at him I dont think to myself that he is handsome and that I want to have sex with him. I have sex with him out of need and thats probably once a month if im lucky. But its just sex. I think all the time about leaving and having my own place but I am so afraid of being by myself, my children r grown and have their own lives. Im not happy in my relationship what do I do.


I dont know what to tell you on that one. I mean there is alot more to a relationship than sex. But sex and attraction is something that I have learned that gets ignored and forgotten about...maybe some relationship therapy would help reignite the spark...Men also have physical issues that make it more difficult to engage in sexual activity. In that case we all hope that we have someone by our side who loves us despite our appearance, or even physical abilities...
what ever you chose, just take your time and really think it through.

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Tue 01/31/12 04:23 PM

Im in a relationship where there is like no feeling of love, we hardly ever have sex, when I look at him I dont think to myself that he is handsome and that I want to have sex with him. I have sex with him out of need and thats probably once a month if im lucky. But its just sex. I think all the time about leaving and having my own place but I am so afraid of being by myself, my children r grown and have their own lives. Im not happy in my relationship what do I do.



You have three choices.

1. Change your life
2. find a way to be happy with what you have.
3. or continue the exact same way until you die.


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Tue 01/31/12 04:44 PM
No I am not happy. I have not given up. I like who I am, what I am doing with my life and I can keep busy with myself. So why am I not happy? I come home to an empty house, no one to share my day with. I love to cook but I rarely do, because I get tired of cooking for just me. I despise going to sleep at night, because the bed is always empty. I lothe waking up in the morning, because it is the same ol same ol every day.

I say howdy to every one I pass. I engage in conversation with other people around me. I feel that I am out going, not pushy. I am doing all that I can, yet there is nada. Not one, Hey, would you like to join us for canasta on Friday. ( I have not a clue how to play canasta. LOL ) Or we are going here on Saturday, why don't you come along. So ok, I ask them, How about we meet for lunch. You pick the day. I never hear from them. Or, come to a hockey game with me. Or, lets go to a movie. Again Nada.

So whats the answer? I do not have a clue.

Lonelyness drains the joy out of an ordinary day.


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Tue 01/31/12 04:47 PM


In the end it's better to be alone than to be with someone and wish you were alone.



^^ This.
The time I felt the absolute loneliest was when I was in a relationship, obviously for too long and past the expiration date.

There are pros and cons to both - only you can figure out which outweighs the other for you.

I am at a very good place right now for me - and no, I am not in a relationship at the moment and that is A OK by me!

I will not, nor do I believe I will, never be in a relationship again.
At the right time, with the right person it will be marvelous, but for now, this is exactly where I need to be for me.

Good luck to you and relish your time with yourself flowerforyou

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Tue 01/31/12 05:03 PM

Just looking for some feedback,are you happy being alone?


For the most part, yes. Sometimes I get lonely and start thinking what it would be like to be currently in a relationship with someone. But for the most part no complaints. I am not hopeless to the idea of finding that special someone, but right now however, I am content with my life and the way things are, and looking forward to making a few changes in the coming months. bigsmile

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Tue 01/31/12 05:05 PM
I am happy, I'm not lonely and I have not given up.

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Wed 02/01/12 12:41 AM

I think I have given up & I am not sure how I feel about it.
I was married for many years. Divorced, than had a HORRIBLE relationship with a man for 4 years (held on with all my might so afraid to be alone)...then dated one more guy for a few months and it just didn't work out.
So now I am on my own....kind of enjoying the peace and quiet. "One less egg to fry" if you know what I mean. No Drama, no wondering, no worries other than my own personal ones.

I feel like I have been freed from myself in the sense that I always wanted "the one"...But for now I feel good being alone.

I still have the worry about growing old alone, and wonder if this feeling of peace will be broken one day with that lonely pang many of us know all too well.

Just looking for some feedback,are you happy being alone?


Most times I am happy being alone. And then there are times that I am not all that happy with it. It's nice being able to take off to the casino at 2am. And having anybody to try and stop me. Its great being able to watch what I want to watch on tv. But at times wishing I had someone to share what I watch with someone. I would say it's a 50/50.

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Wed 02/01/12 03:41 AM
Honestly, I have never been alone in my life.

I have never lived in a house by myself and dont think I would ever want to..



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