Well; I can forgive anyone too but I wouldn't give them a second chance to hurt me again. I forgave my ex for hitting me but I wouldn't take him back. Another one was an alcoholic and a liar; but I wouldn't give him a second chance either. Trust is a big issue for me. Once its lost; I will never trust again and this is especially true for a romantic relationship.

I Agree Navygirl. Loose my Trust, and he lost me.

So very true

yes

YOU CAN FORGIVE SOMEBoDY ALL THE TIME YOU WANT......but trusting him/her IS NOT GOING TO BE THE SAME(NEVER THE SAME).

Thank you...now i forgive you...

TQM FREND..and thanks

Nobody gets it right the first time. Forgiveness is a foundation of a relationship. But that doesn't mean you tolerate habitual problems. If the same thing happens twice, I am not saying you cannot forgive but there needs to be some proof or plan that the other person has put into place for change.


Yes people change but not unless its vital to something they want. If this guy wants you, without turning it into a manipulation for getting everything you want, you should state your expectation to see change. If he doesn't love you enough to change what is 'wrong' then he isn't really asking for forgiveness, just your tolerance.

I do believe in it. Most people aren't monsters, just at times they become and idiot when the heart overrides the mind.

this is what would deter me from continuing a relationship.. the fact that the trust would be gone.. however.. (responding to the OP..) a lot would depend on the gravity of the situation.. bottom line.. as stated above, if the trust is gone, there's no chance, at a second chance.. the relationship would simply be over

I FIRMLY believe in second, third, and fourth chances. I do understand that one might be hurt to the point to where they can never trust them, but if you don't fully trust them as you did before, I believe you haven't fully forgiven them.

With that being said, I know I am not perfect, and if I was the person I was 10 years ago, hell, even longer. I wouldn't be surprised if I was living alone with no friends or even worse dead. It was forgiveness and second, third, hell, even fifth and sixth chances that it took for many people to trust me, and now they trust me far more than when they first met me.

The least I can do for others is show the same that has been shown to me. Prove to me you are trying and I can only help you and pray you have changed your ways ya know?

I can tell you with certainty that you will never get a second chance at a first impression

I agree.. also if the relationship ended there was a good reason for it and no sense in trying to fix or change it later... dont wanna waste anymore time..

Second chances can be good...Depends on the situation really, falling off a mountain I'm sure a second chance could be quite appealing.

Burning yourself up in a relationship? To just do it again?

Why the f* not; they say the second story is better than the first once in awhile, right?

I still would like for and explanation to why we are breaking up.

I know a guy that cheated on his wife. She did forgive him and took him back and he has been working on being a better husband and her, a better wife. Both sides have to be willing to work and talk things out together.

Yes, but your one friend accounts for less than .01% of the population...I'm talking about the rest of you.

forgiveness of INTENTIONAL wrongs (sorry folks, having sex with someone else doesnt 'just happen')

correlates directly with remorse for those wrongs

true remorse virtually eliminates the chance of that INTENTIONAL act happening again

if it happens over and over, ,there wasnt truly remorse, so whether there is true forgiveness will no longer matter much,,,and distrust has been earned,,,,,


I can forgive and still be logically cautious

just like I could forgive someone passing on an std, unknowingly, and still take the precaution to avoid it happening in the future,,,

if someone cheats, I Can forgive them, and still be cautious to the FACT that it is within their moral capacity to do such a thing under the right circumstances,,,

Very good answer.

Second chances are vital.

I never believe the old man who gets up at some event with his bride of 50 years and says "we were so in love we never fought a day in our life". I believe thats either a lie or a vary unhappy controlled woman.

And when a relationship actually survives a major event where got people are wanting to heal the relationship, wow. Thats when you get to the love and trust we all seek.