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Topic: Complaining...
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Thu 07/18/13 01:15 PM
Edited by Jeanniebean on Thu 07/18/13 01:17 PM
I've read that complaining and telling our personal stories of woe and bad luck out loud to others helps to perpetuate how we view our lives and that negative thoughts and attitudes are part of the way we actually create and view our personal reality.

So I made the decision to cease complaining or at least be more aware when I do it.

Today, I noticed myself complaining in a regular conversation. I can't even remember what all I said, but I made some meaningless statements of complaint about my situation, one being that I had two sore toes that were real painful which are the result of a bad self inflicted pedicure.

I was focusing on what I don't want, thus creating and perpetuating it in my experience.

Some people enjoy complaining, and they have complaining contests on a regular basis, telling stories of woe and trying to top someone else's sad story.

I invite you to try a complaining fast. Do absolutely no complaining for an entire day if you can. This will help you become aware of your daily focusing on negative things in your life.

But right now, see if you can remember something you complained to someone about today.

Post it here.














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Thu 07/18/13 01:20 PM
Edited by 2KidsMom on Thu 07/18/13 01:21 PM
wtf..The weather..embarassed

not spending enough time together.embarassed


and my head hurting..frown embarassed


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Thu 07/18/13 01:21 PM
That my job is not going the way I want. Lol

Good points, Jeannie.

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Thu 07/18/13 01:27 PM
idiots on my job that call tech support over things that they don't need to be calling me over

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Thu 07/18/13 01:37 PM

I have a special group of people who I will subject to complaining, usually because they have the same challenges.

On the other hand, Im a big fan of turning complaints upside down.
For example: Instead of saying "I did a poor job giving myself a manicure and now it hurts my toes."
Say, "Im am rather skilled at bad manicures. On occasion, I can even create mild pain associated with my excellent bad cutting skills if I feel the challenge come over me". At least I can chuckle about what Im bothered by.


I like that idea.laugh


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Thu 07/18/13 01:59 PM
Edited by KiK2me on Thu 07/18/13 01:59 PM
Complaining about complaining is STILL COMPLAINING !
HAHAHAHAHAHA !
rofl


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Thu 07/18/13 02:04 PM

Complaining about complaining is STILL COMPLAINING !
HAHAHAHAHAHA !
rofl




I'm not complaining about complaining. I am trying to be more aware of the different ways we manifest and create our personal reality and perceptions of our reality.

Pay attention today of how many times you complain or hear others complain about their life.... notice it.

This is what their attention is focused on, and this is what they create.

The Dream never lies....

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Thu 07/18/13 02:10 PM
I think there has to be a balance. I do have friends that the only time I hear from them is when something is wrong. It does come across as all the do is b!tch and moan. On the other hand they think enough of me as a friend to tell there problems to. I guess it is healthy to get things off your chest. I personally just internalize everything if something is wrong.......smokin

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Thu 07/18/13 02:28 PM
I will go weeks without complaining, i have found that being negative drives people away very effectively.
The last complaint i have made lately was probably about the fierce heat we have been having lately, although i do hate the cold.drinker

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Thu 07/18/13 02:31 PM
I try to complain as much as possible. I don't want it all building up until I explode because someone might get hurt laugh

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Thu 07/18/13 02:46 PM
Yep
It's like gas.
Let it build up,you could explode and take the neighbors with you.

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Thu 07/18/13 02:47 PM
I try to save those words for REAL problems.

I think the problem should at least be worth the breath it takes to voice it. :thumbsup:

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Thu 07/18/13 03:47 PM

I try to complain as much as possible. I don't want it all building up until I explode because someone might get hurt laugh

hahahahahahaha
I have a pin..

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Thu 07/18/13 03:50 PM
It's all in the attitude. If you could exchange your need to complain feelings into feelings of gratitude you will see a dramatic change in your personal reality.


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Thu 07/18/13 03:53 PM
My mom instilled in me a very "it is what it is" kind of attitude growing up. I think it helps keep most of the little complaints at bay but when I do, I go OFF. :angel:

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Thu 07/18/13 04:01 PM
[Sign seen somewhere]


The manager of the complaint compartment is Helen Waite.
So, if you have a complaint, then go to Helen Waite.

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Thu 07/18/13 04:05 PM

My mom instilled in me a very "it is what it is" kind of attitude growing up. I think it helps keep most of the little complaints at bay but when I do, I go OFF. :angel:


That is a good attitude of acceptance.

drinker

It is what it is.



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Thu 07/18/13 04:25 PM
Today at work I complained about how lazy people are, we had a fire alarm go off in a 22 story high rise the fire dept showed up and some people called and complained about the noise and refused to exit the building unbelievable!

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Thu 07/18/13 04:36 PM
One of my terminally ill clients asked me to teach him compassion and patience. This is difficult when someone is in constant pain and even more so when I crack up every time he tells some lady to "get her fat F'ing azz out of the way". At least my laughing makes him laugh

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Thu 07/18/13 04:51 PM

One of my terminally ill clients asked me to teach him compassion and patience. This is difficult when someone is in constant pain and even more so when I crack up every time he tells some lady to "get her fat F'ing azz out of the way". At least my laughing makes him laugh


He needs pain management. There is a guy in my town that practices what he calls dry needle acupuncture... it really relieves pain...at least for a while.

It is very hard to be civil when you are in pain.


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