Topic: If asked what can u sacrifice for your perfect match
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Wed 06/03/15 05:53 AM

If asked what can u sacrifice for your perfect match, common guys n gals, men and women show to the mingle worked what u can be up to for your perfect match/soulmate


If I felt I was making a sacrifice, it would not be a perfect match...so nothing, really. I like remaining single. I doubt that will change.

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Wed 06/03/15 06:07 AM
Edited by Pansytilly on Wed 06/03/15 06:09 AM
Hmmm...somehow, reading thru the answers on this thread...is depressing..
Here I thought relationships were all about give and take...sacrificing something doesnt necessarily mean losing yourself or acting like a martyr...its suppose to be about adjusting, giving way and being able to empathize with another's need and build each other up by small or great acts of selflessness...it is not demanded from someone..it is freely given out of love, care and respect.
Well, that is my opinion on the matter...

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Wed 06/03/15 06:59 AM

Hmmm...somehow, reading thru the answers on this thread...is depressing..
Here I thought relationships were all about give and take...sacrificing something doesnt necessarily mean losing yourself or acting like a martyr...its suppose to be about adjusting, giving way and being able to empathize with another's need and build each other up by small or great acts of selflessness...it is not demanded from someone..it is freely given out of love, care and respect.
Well, that is my opinion on the matter...


Bingo girl, right on target, that is what i ment with this thread, i believe if we can not sacrifice for ojr love then we do not really deserve the love from that person. Sacrifice can be as simple as quiting a bad habbit if ur partner askes

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Wed 06/03/15 07:04 AM

Hmmm...somehow, reading thru the answers on this thread...is depressing..
Here I thought relationships were all about give and take...sacrificing something doesnt necessarily mean losing yourself or acting like a martyr...its suppose to be about adjusting, giving way and being able to empathize with another's need and build each other up by small or great acts of selflessness...it is not demanded from someone..it is freely given out of love, care and respect.
Well, that is my opinion on the matter...


I agree Pansy!flowers ...For the perfect match?...Whatever I could, whenever he needed it...I watched my parents do this for 67 years...It was a beautiful story....:heart:

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Wed 06/03/15 07:06 AM

Hmmm...somehow, reading thru the answers on this thread...is depressing..
Here I thought relationships were all about give and take...sacrificing something doesnt necessarily mean losing yourself or acting like a martyr...its suppose to be about adjusting, giving way and being able to empathize with another's need and build each other up by small or great acts of selflessness...it is not demanded from someone..it is freely given out of love, care and respect.
Well, that is my opinion on the matter...



^^^ This. I agree with every word. None of us is perfect and I haven�t seen any relationship to last without adjusting and respect to each others needs. Sometimes it can be only about tempering our impatience, or giving our partners space when they need it although we would prefare to be with them just at that moment. Being more tolerant because each of us have his upside downs even, in all ways and other days, perfect match. And yes, there are always things in our lives that we like but that are not as significant to not be able to give up of them if it would be necessery. Material things are not so important for me as long as I can survive. Is he taller or shorter than I prefare? If he is shorter, well I would give up my heels. And so on... It�s just about what we are willing to invest in our relationship, how important is that person for us. As I see it, it�s giving up some things in order to get something much more valuable.

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Wed 06/03/15 07:10 AM

As much as I hate cold weather, I would move somewhere that has snow and cold if it were a great guy. The right man would already know what is important to me. I'm not really into a lot of outdoor things except road trips and walking. Inside is the time to be intimate with my man.


Idaho doesn't have snow?

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Wed 06/03/15 07:15 AM
Edited by TMommy on Wed 06/03/15 07:23 AM
What the...pfffft not a damn thing. Not changing location or pursuing my degree. Not changing amount time I give my children or time I take to take care of me

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Wed 06/03/15 07:17 AM

Hmmm...somehow, reading thru the answers on this thread...is depressing..
Here I thought relationships were all about give and take...sacrificing something doesnt necessarily mean losing yourself or acting like a martyr...its suppose to be about adjusting, giving way and being able to empathize with another's need and build each other up by small or great acts of selflessness...it is not demanded from someone..it is freely given out of love, care and respect.
Well, that is my opinion on the matter...
perfection doesn't exist, but there is always perfect for each other... that being said, i agree, perfect or not, it's always a give and take in a relationship, regardless...

part of peoples problems in finding a girl/boyfriend is what their idea of what perfect is, most are unrealistic views... then they confuse that with "settling" because they can't find the perfect person...


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Wed 06/03/15 07:21 AM


Hmmm...somehow, reading thru the answers on this thread...is depressing..
Here I thought relationships were all about give and take...sacrificing something doesnt necessarily mean losing yourself or acting like a martyr...its suppose to be about adjusting, giving way and being able to empathize with another's need and build each other up by small or great acts of selflessness...it is not demanded from someone..it is freely given out of love, care and respect.
Well, that is my opinion on the matter...
perfection doesn't exist, but there is always perfect for each other... that being said, i agree, perfect or not, it's always a give and take in a relationship, regardless...

part of peoples problems in finding a girl/boyfriend is what their idea of what perfect is, most are unrealistic views... then they confuse that with "settling" because they can't find the perfect person...




Uh huh...:thumbsup:



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Wed 06/03/15 07:31 AM

As much as I hate cold weather, I would move somewhere that has snow and cold if it were a great guy. The right man would already know what is important to me. I'm not really into a lot of outdoor things except road trips and walking. Inside is the time to be intimate with my man.


Love those inside games.....especially naked monopoly. :thumbsup:

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Wed 06/03/15 07:56 AM
Mmm...looks like i got something right... bigsmile waving tongue2

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Wed 06/03/15 08:04 AM
Are we talking human sacrifices?

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Wed 06/03/15 08:06 AM

Are we talking human sacrifices?


rofl

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Wed 06/03/15 08:15 AM

Mmm...looks like i got something right... bigsmile waving tongue2


Yes, you did ^^^^ you & the OP & now I have another headache frustrated , from taking my own inventory !
Thanks a lot girlfriend... jk
flowers
Someone pass me the aspirins & an ice cream sandwich ?
Serenity . Serenity... now!

rofl

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Wed 06/03/15 08:26 AM


Mmm...looks like i got something right... bigsmile waving tongue2


Yes, you did ^^^^ you & the OP & now I have another headache frustrated , from taking my own inventory !
Thanks a lot girlfriend... jk
flowers
Someone pass me the aspirins & an ice cream sandwich ?
Serenity . Serenity... now!

rofl


Try some aromatherapy... smokin :tongue:

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Wed 06/03/15 10:02 AM
we alll want ideal match and want to be loved, but at the same time do we really care for our partner, till what point can we streach ourselves for our partner, in this world everyone adjust a bit here and there but in a love relatiin do we really do the adjustment with whole heart??

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Wed 06/03/15 10:28 AM


Hmmm...somehow, reading thru the answers on this thread...is depressing..
Here I thought relationships were all about give and take...sacrificing something doesnt necessarily mean losing yourself or acting like a martyr...its suppose to be about adjusting, giving way and being able to empathize with another's need and build each other up by small or great acts of selflessness...it is not demanded from someone..it is freely given out of love, care and respect.
Well, that is my opinion on the matter...


I agree Pansy!flowers ...For the perfect match?...Whatever I could, whenever he needed it...I watched my parents do this for 67 years...It was a beautiful story....:heart:

Really? I mean, that's quite something. How far would you go? That's basically what the OP is asking?
What you're saying is very open and suggest you'd go very far. Does it include changing behaviour, haircut, clothes, friends? Giving up hobbies? Pets? Putting up with whatever he wants or does?
Because in a way, that's what you're saying, and I doubt very much you would or could - or that that is what you mean to say.
Maybe I'm nitpicking on words :tongue:

To me a perfect match to me is more that you may have to compromise, not sacrifice. A sacrifice is something or someone that means a helluva lot to you. And it means that much for a reason.
And with a perfect match, I can also say "No". I would never say I'd be willing to sacrifice whatever I could, whenever he wanted it. Sod that!

flowerforyou

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Wed 06/03/15 11:01 AM
For a perfect match and true love adjjustment qill be from both the sides, and if not that can be called as expiration from one and surrender from other qhich is sad

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Wed 06/03/15 12:26 PM


As much as I hate cold weather, I would move somewhere that has snow and cold if it were a great guy. The right man would already know what is important to me. I'm not really into a lot of outdoor things except road trips and walking. Inside is the time to be intimate with my man.


Love those inside games.....especially naked monopoly. :thumbsup:


naked twister is better...

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Wed 06/03/15 01:27 PM
Why sacrifice anything? I like the things that I do in my life and I'm answerable to nobody. If people don't like what I do and can't accept me as i am, then they shouldn't be in my life in the first place, as I take people as I find them and wouldn't expect them to change who they are!