Is it just common courtesy or is being too paternal?

Excuse my poor English. What did u mean dear?

Eh....she is talking about is it too early to whip it out and hit her on the forehead with it? Or....be nice and invite her to bible study.

Some chicks ask for being hit on the forehead with it

Come on darling. Be kind. I really don't understand

Who is doing the toning down?

Is one person trying to get the other person to tone it down?

Or is one person trying to tone themselves down, by suppressing their desire to communicate their sexuality?

I can see someone calling out another for going a little bit too far to try and get them focused rather than going off on a sexual tangent being common courtesy.

I can see someone deciding they need to control their flirtation, or sexual thoughts that pop into their head during conversation, being too paternal, like they are deciding what's best for the other person to know about them.

And vice versa.

It would help if there were an example of what you're talking about.

I can't imagine a guy having one long enough to do that,

Can someone help tell me what this thread is asking please?

It's neither. It's just what's called not coming on too strong. It's the opposite of what you're suggesting. If I meet a woman that I find atractive I want to lure her in and not scare her off.

Where "courtesy" comes in I suppose is that you generally have to go at a woman's pace. Perhaps that is because I'm a gentleman. With one lady I even said just that and we were already in a sexual relationship. She came round to see me for a couple of hours and it's certainly polite to offer them a drink and sit down and have a nice chat with them before you start making sexual advances. I just kept chatting until she started worrying about the time and initiated sex herself. I knew that that was what she came for, so she wasn't just going to leave without it and I could take the atitude that, "I'm not the one that's in a hurry here to get it over with and leave and be somewhere else." A woman that's telling you that she has a window when she can fit you into her busy schedule thinks that she has the power but she doesn't if she has to stay longer than she said she would because you didn't make a move until she said that time was going to be up.

Sex is a blind,it can't see,you can start it with either way

Nothing in this thread made any sense to me either, including the original poster's first question and follow up question.

A common courtesy for myself.

We are in the same boat sir. And when i ask, am ignored

The OP mentioned "parental".... Are they on about with a child? Toning down a childs sexuality? No can't be, surely.....

Confused here too.......

My understanding of the meaning here to be, should a man with a new partner resist making advances of a sexual nature too soon, out of a common courtesy, or in doing so risk appearing too paternal or old fashioned. I am of the opinion that providing it isn't on the first few dates, I can see no harm in making advances, if she had no interest in a relationship we would not be on any subsequent dates.

Sounds about right.... Cheers....

This seems related to the other topic about the date where there was no sexual chemistry. Dates where you restrain your sexuality rarely work out. They never have for me anyway.

I'm not sure what the original question was but I was taking it there to be about whether you should tone it down initially, so that their judgement won't be too clouded by lust. It's a sort of dilemma because the date could be a washout if you restrain yourself but you're not sure about each other yet.

Oh come on! It was explained to you ... you can look up the meaning of "tone down" and "parental" yourself ...
No need to blame others while you don't make an effort... I don't mean that nasty, but I think us non-native speakers all have to make the effort to look things up from time to time ...

actually I thought it was about not allowing your young teenagers to run around in hooker heels and clothes that leave nothing to the imagination but guess I was off base

Yep sometimes you have to turn down the dial on..The...I'm too sexy for this shirt .for this shirt.. I'm too sexy for the.. boys at school.. or girls... yes it is Rampid. these days ,young teenagers dressing in slightly revealing clothes.. slightly embarrassing when you see a young person wearing such skin tight outfits... myself and the other dads at work always look away and say to to each other... who lets their kids out looking like