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Topic: missing money
no1phD's photo
Wed 09/30/15 09:20 PM
Funny thing.. a friend of mine went out on a blind date... what seems to be a very nice girl.. took her on two more dates.. then was intimate with her.. AL ways good.. went out with her two days later.. was intimate.. this time he left his wallet downstairs in her kitchen.. now this is where it gets interesting.. he says right when they were getting hot and heavy.. she excused herself for a minute to let her doggy outside to go to the bathroom..
He says it seemed kind of odd.. but I guess stuff happens. .lol.. didn't really think anything of it.. now they finish up.. he collects his belongings and leaves.. upon arriving home.. he realizes there is $60 missing out of his wallet.... he knows this because he took $100 cash out of the bank.. to pay for the lunch they had earlier together.. which only cost $40.. he says he clearly remembers putting the 60 in his wallet.... and he said he did not pull his wallet out until he arrived home.... well he did say he stopped for gas. But he used his bank card to pay for that.. . He says he has never lost money out of his wallet.. and I understandtdo this it is rather hard to..
do.......now... he has a bit of a dilemma on his hands.... he's not sure if she stole the money or he lost the money.... so what do you think happened.... and he can't really say anything to her... or can he..?.. I'm putting this in the dating section as a warning to all you would-be daters.. do not leave your purse or wallet unattended..lol

soufiehere's photo
Wed 09/30/15 09:28 PM
That's $30 a whack.

Datwasntme's photo
Wed 09/30/15 09:30 PM
lol Soufie

tell him to redo his C. cards
just in case

could all ways try again and see what happens

do she have kids ?
friends that might have come over ?

no1phD's photo
Wed 09/30/15 09:35 PM
No no kids roommates but they weren't there.. and I don't think the dog can get up on the table..lol..
And he can't really .. accuse her..
Without coming off like a real nutjob..
.. its like something out of the twilight zone..omg.. but it would probably be a good way to break up a relationship that you did not want to keep..
Accuse them of stealing money from you..lol.omg..

no1phD's photo
Wed 09/30/15 09:40 PM

That's $30 a whack.
that's what he said.. along with great now I'm paying for sexslaphead

sybariticguy's photo
Wed 09/30/15 10:09 PM
take condoms leave most cash at home and chalk it up to the cost of love...

PacificStar48's photo
Wed 09/30/15 10:41 PM
It sounds like he was been careless in his choices and now is learning the costs. How can you know someone well enough to leave your wallet laying out of your sight with someone you have only dated such a short time and such a small number of dates. Guess he was thinking with his little head. laugh

no1phD's photo
Wed 09/30/15 11:15 PM

I think the moths ate his money .. Laughing
.. would have to be some pretty fast eating moths..lol

no1phD's photo
Wed 09/30/15 11:17 PM
Yes so true. .but he did not...even think it would be a ..issue. .really. .
He sad she .never gave him a reasons..
To...not trust her..she may not have took it....it just seemed odd to him..you know!! her leaving in the middle.of foreplay....she would have had the opportunity. ..to lift it...then....
..now! he does not know if he can trust her...but then again. .he my have lost it when he got gas....that is the problem. .he just doesn't know...lol...but it does seem a bit suspicious..
So i guess it comes down to how much do you trust the person you just met....even if you are sleeping with them...

Annierooroo's photo
Wed 09/30/15 11:52 PM
Just would mention it to her in a way that is not accusing her so if she did take it then she is aware he knows.

Or he can set a trap to see if she is like that.

It's better to know for sure than not know and it happens again

Sometimes you have to do this sort of thing to be sure.
They don't have to know unless you need to confront them.

TawtStrat's photo
Thu 10/01/15 01:26 AM
I don't really want to sound like Joyce here and I have no idea what sort of people your pal and this woman are but if she's a tea leaf she could be some sort of addict. I'm pretty good at spotting them myself. I wouldn't assume that they're bad news just because they have some sort of vice but you can tell pretty quickly when dating a woman how responsible she is with money.

If she never has any money in her phone and only texts that's a red flag. Likewise if she taps you for a loan when you're only just getting to know each other. Then there's her favoriting a bunch of pawn shops on her Facebook page. I could go on but you probably get the point.

On the other hand, if she isn't a moocher and does things like buying you drinks sometimes you may have a keeper there. You can tell pretty damned quickly with a woman that you're dating whether she's likely to rip you off or not.

Now, guys like you maybe don't see these red flags because it's so wonderful to be a gentleman and pay for everything. You want to do that and you just don't want them to pinch it out of your wallet. Sucker. If he's doing that he's already paying for sex and probably could have got better for his money.


Conrad_73's photo
Thu 10/01/15 01:35 AM
Dog ate it,thought it were Homework!laugh
If you meet Strangers,don't carry a Fortune on you!

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Thu 10/01/15 02:42 AM

Yes so true. .but he did not...even think it would be a ..issue. .really. .
He sad she .never gave him a reasons..
To...not trust her..she may not have took it....it just seemed odd to him..you know!! her leaving in the middle.of foreplay....she would have had the opportunity. ..to lift it...then....
..now! he does not know if he can trust her...but then again. .he my have lost it when he got gas....that is the problem. .he just doesn't know...lol...but it does seem a bit suspicious..
So i guess it comes down to how much do you trust the person you just met....even if you are sleeping with them...

He should've asked beforehand how much she charges for sex ... slaphead

Oh and this: Foreplay can't have been very exciting if a woman needs an excuse to walk out on a guy! I mean, even if she wanted to nick his money, if foreplay had been any good, she would've waited till his orgasm induced coma kicked in :angel: shades

No matter what, I think this relationship isn't going anywhere anymore, because he doesn't trust her. If he thinks she's worthwhile -provided she didn't do it of course- I think the only thing he can do, is address the issue. Will be awkward and could get ugly, but as it is he has nothing to lose anymore, except maybe more money :tongue:
Alternatively, if he can afford to, he can do a similar thing again. Leave his wallet somewhere with money and see if it happens again. Once can be coincidence, but twice ..
Then he can leave with her table silver and sell it on Ebay for a profit to get his money back


TawtStrat's photo
Thu 10/01/15 03:33 AM
I've done that with setting traps with women that I didn't trust. Done the confronting them with the evidence of their lies and they still kept lying. You don't want to believe it yourself, even when the evidence is staring you in the face. You can even find yourself making excuses for them.

I'll say one thing about this story that I'm getting from the way that I'm reading it. This friend of yours sounds like a bit of a dipshit. He's been screwing a woman that he apparently saw no red flags with that went to feed the cat when he was trying to get into her pants and then because he discovered that he'd lost some money he suddenly doesn't trust her and thinks she's a whore.

Really?

I've got to say man, I'm pretty fast with women but this pal of yours must be a real operator to be banging a chick that he didn't even get to know well enough before he bedded her for this to be some Sherlock Holmes type mystery. That or a dipshit. One of the two.

no1phD's photo
Thu 10/01/15 07:02 AM
Edited by no1phD on Thu 10/01/15 07:03 AM
Well regardless of what you might think of my Pal.. and again opinions are like azsholes everyone has one..:wink:... fast operator or not.. it does not change the situation... of course he does not think or does not wish to think that she nicked the money...... but it does not look good for her....

.. and as far as the foreplay goes lol that's what I told him you can't be very good if she's going to get up and leave right when things get hot heavy ...laugh: ..

no photo
Thu 10/01/15 07:08 AM
Edited by 2KidsMom on Thu 10/01/15 07:09 AM
That Hoe took his money
I would change the credit cards too I agree with that cancel them and order new ones.
So sad:(

TxsGal3333's photo
Thu 10/01/15 07:16 AM
Hummm lets see the guy laid his wallet on the kitchen table.. First of all I have never known any guy I was every with that his wallet was not in his pants and normally beside the bed..

Sure it looks as if she took it and I would think the same thing.. But who was at fault here and he has no proof it was her.. So looks like he should take the lesson learned keep his wallet closer to him next time...

Hard lesson learned, he can speculate all he wants too but who is really at fault??

Hell if someone that I'm with gets up in the heat of the moment to let their dog out HELLO someone is not doing their job or I would suspect something funny and follow them...slaphead

And yea I have a dog and have never let her out during sex.. That is something that most that have dogs will do as soon as they walk in the house it is just a automatic thing you do is let the dog out when you walk in the house..whoa

So he has a choice either go out with her again if he likes her and watch his wallet next time or leave it in his vehicle where he knows it is safer... Or leave her be and find someone else....ohwell

TawtStrat's photo
Thu 10/01/15 07:19 AM
All I can do is to give my opinion based on what you're telling us about them. No reason to mistrust her and then just because she went to feed the cat when he was trying to get into her pants and he discovered later that he had lost some money that it was most likely her because he's almost certain that that cash was in his wallet.

Guy misplaces money and it must have been his bird that nicked it because it couldn't be him that's a dipshit that loses his money in a gas station story.

Or could it?

I think that we're all waiting for the next instalment here. I wonder what she's going to do next?

no1phD's photo
Thu 10/01/15 07:19 AM
Yup.. that's what I told him he's going to keep an eye on them see if there's any suspicious transactions

TMommy's photo
Thu 10/01/15 07:20 AM
" ya know it's the damndest thing..last time we went out I got money out of ATM..see kept the receipt right here, then took you to lunch..here is the receipt for that one..then got gas and have that receipt also..now looks to me like I spent 40 bucks on lunch but used my card for the gas so I can't for life of me figure out what hell happened to my other 60 bucks. Its not like I took it out and used any cash at gas station. It's really been bugging me so I have decided not to carry cash around with me anymore"

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