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Topic: Good girls come in last.
nicolesong Joined Thu 04/14/16 Posts: 1	Tue 04/19/16 02:02 PM
I was dating a guy that I had fallen in love with . And good dates. One weekend we had a really good date. He took off to Portland for a weekend and the next time we talk he tell me we need to talk. I bent over backwards for him and done things I never would have. I guess cute, sweet and kind don't win the guy . Any one have any suggestions?

craigstevens11 Joined Sun 03/15/15 Posts: 113	Tue 04/19/16 02:05 PM
I was dating a guy that I had fallen in love with . And good dates. One weekend we had a really good date. He took off to Portland for a weekend and the next time we talk he tell me we need to talk. I bent over backwards for him and done things I never would have. I guess cute, sweet and kind don't win the guy . Any one have any suggestions? Dont be good and sweet?;)

SassyEuro2 Joined Wed 04/29/15 Posts: 11102	Tue 04/19/16 02:10 PM
I was dating a guy that I had fallen in love with . And good dates. One weekend we had a really good date. He took off to Portland for a weekend and the next time we talk he tell me we need to talk. I bent over backwards for him and done things I never would have. I guess cute, sweet and kind don't win the guy . Any one have any suggestions? Ask yourself what were the signs? If YOU have a patten with choosing the same type of man? And then why? Then change your pattern. You can NOT make a man love you or change or do anything he does not want to. Hope this helps

Kennybear Joined Sun 01/20/13 Posts: 2	Tue 04/19/16 02:13 PM
be happy theres space for new and better in your life. be good to yourself,

peggy122 Joined Sun 12/27/15 Posts: 6525	Tue 04/19/16 02:27 PM
I was dating a guy that I had fallen in love with . And good dates. One weekend we had a really good date. He took off to Portland for a weekend and the next time we talk he tell me we need to talk. I bent over backwards for him and done things I never would have. I guess cute, sweet and kind don't win the guy . Any one have any suggestions? Really sorry you went through that Nicole. My question is.... While you were bending over backwards for him, what was he doing for you? A relationship is reciprocal , and too often we give too much of ourselves to people who do not give as much of themselves back to us in return. Learn to invest energy only where you get it back when it comes to relationships, or you end up feeling depleted and used. People often don't give you what you deserve. They give you what you choose to accept. Walk away anytime you sense that someone is giving you less than you deserve.

mightymoe Joined Sun 11/19/06 Posts: 37362	Tue 04/19/16 02:56 PM
all these one sided stories on here... so, the question is, why did he break up if you were so nice and understanding, bending over backwards for him?

TMommy Joined Fri 05/10/13 Posts: 9850	Tue 04/19/16 03:58 PM
I was dating a guy that I had fallen in love with . And good dates. One weekend we had a really good date. He took off to Portland for a weekend and the next time we talk he tell me we need to talk. I bent over backwards for him and done things I never would have. I guess cute, sweet and kind don't win the guy . Any one have any suggestions? ya I suggest you STOP changing yourself in order to try to "catch" a man

ciretom Joined Wed 06/18/14 Posts: 4953	Tue 04/19/16 04:00 PM
Any one have any suggestions? For what? What do you want? You want to know "why?" or "what changed?" You want to know how to get him back? You want to know how to change yourself so you can guarantee this doesn't happen again? You want to know how to spot "warning signs" when this is about to happen? You want suggestions for revenge? You want to know why "bending over backwards" doesn't guarantee obligatory reciprocation? You want to know how to stop being cute, sweet, and kind? And you don't even directly say that you two broke up. For all I know he said "we need to talk" Sunday, and he hasn't even come home yet, and you're asking "any suggestions on what to expect during our 'we need to talk' discussion?" If I were to suggest anything it would be clarity in your questioning, and problem specificity.

SitkaRains Joined Thu 10/09/08 Posts: 17228	Tue 04/19/16 04:13 PM
I was dating a guy that I had fallen in love with . And good dates. One weekend we had a really good date. He took off to Portland for a weekend and the next time we talk he tell me we need to talk. I bent over backwards for him and done things I never would have. I guess cute, sweet and kind don't win the guy . Any one have any suggestions? Yes be true to who you are whatever that is.. And what we believe about what we are projecting may not be what another is seeing. What I don't understand why did you bend over backwards I get compromising but changing who you are for someone should never happen and the day that starts the relationship is doomed.. My advice figure out what you really want and go from there.

SassyEuro2 Joined Wed 04/29/15 Posts: 11102	Tue 04/19/16 04:37 PM
Any one have any suggestions? For what? What do you want? You want to know "why?" or "what changed?" You want to know how to get him back? You want to know how to change yourself so you can guarantee this doesn't happen again? You want to know how to spot "warning signs" when this is about to happen? You want suggestions for revenge? You want to know why "bending over backwards" doesn't guarantee obligatory reciprocation? You want to know how to stop being cute, sweet, and kind? And you don't even directly say that you two broke up. For all I know he said "we need to talk" Sunday, and he hasn't even come home yet, and you're asking "any suggestions on what to expect during our 'we need to talk' discussion?" If I were to suggest anything it would be clarity in your questioning, and problem specificity. Any one have any suggestions?

SparklingCrystal 💖💎 Joined Mon 05/20/13 Posts: 33251	Tue 04/19/16 04:42 PM
I was dating a guy that I had fallen in love with . And good dates. One weekend we had a really good date. He took off to Portland for a weekend and the next time we talk he tell me we need to talk. I bent over backwards for him and done things I never would have. I guess cute, sweet and kind don't win the guy . Any one have any suggestions? Yeah, don't bend over backwards for a guy. If you want respect, you gotta start by respecting yourself. You have healthy boundaries and a life of that doesn't evolve around him. You're not always available, you don't change your schedule to suit him -esp not if he phones last minute, you don't sit around waiting for him to call, you simply don't jump at his every beck and call.

motowndowntown Joined Wed 11/19/08 Posts: 21330	Tue 04/19/16 05:40 PM
I was dating a guy that I had fallen in love with . And good dates. One weekend we had a really good date. He took off to Portland for a weekend and the next time we talk he tell me we need to talk. I bent over backwards for him and done things I never would have. I guess cute, sweet and kind don't win the guy . Any one have any suggestions? ya I suggest you STOP changing yourself in order to try to "catch" a man Yup, exactly.

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Tue 04/19/16 08:14 PM
Wait a minute! Is this the first "Nice chick" thread ever in the history of Mingle? Praise sweet baby Jesus we finally get one of these and not the typical "nice guy" thread.

Beachfarmer Joined Tue 04/17/07 Posts: 24649	Tue 04/19/16 08:17 PM
I always try to make sure that good girls come first

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48913	Tue 04/19/16 08:30 PM
I was dating a guy that I had fallen in love with . And good dates. One weekend we had a really good date. He took off to Portland for a weekend and the next time we talk he tell me we need to talk. I bent over backwards for him and done things I never would have. I guess cute, sweet and kind don't win the guy . Any one have any suggestions? nicolesong, your Mingle2 profile currently gives your marital status as being "Separated". That normally means that you are still legally married to someone. Could that be part of the problem?

mzrosie Joined Wed 08/14/13 Posts: 33997	Tue 04/19/16 09:37 PM
I was dating a guy that I had fallen in love with . And good dates. One weekend we had a really good date. He took off to Portland for a weekend and the next time we talk he tell me we need to talk. I bent over backwards for him and done things I never would have. I guess cute, sweet and kind don't win the guy . Any one have any suggestions? I'm sorry this had happened to you. I suggest you mourn the death of this relationship. Cry if you must. Buy a voodoo doll.. it usually comes with instructions. Being separated makes you still legally married. Maybe you should work on your divorce first before you fall for another guy. All the best

RustyKitty Joined Fri 05/15/15 Posts: 1601	Wed 04/20/16 07:45 AM
I always try to make sure that good girls come first atta boy!

sparkyae5 Joined Thu 03/28/13 Posts: 1595	Wed 04/20/16 07:59 AM
I was dating a guy that I had fallen in love with . And good dates. One weekend we had a really good date. He took off to Portland for a weekend and the next time we talk he tell me we need to talk. I bent over backwards for him and done things I never would have. I guess cute, sweet and kind don't win the guy . Any one have any suggestions? HAPPENS TO GOOD GUY'S ALL THE TIME...''MEN PURSUE AND WOMEN FLIRT'...HAVING SAID THAT MAYBE YOU WHERE TO EASY TO PLEASE FOR HIM.....NEVER FORGET ''YOUR THE PRIZE''GUYS TAKE CARE OF WHAT THEY HAVE WORKED HARD TO GET AND THAT GOES FOR A MATE ALSO....THEN WHEN YOU DO ''WIN ONE'' HE ALWAYS HAS TO FEEL GOOD ABOUT HIMSELF WHENEVER HE IS WITH YOU.....HOW DO I KNOW ? ...BECAUSE I ARE ONE....

peggy122 Joined Sun 12/27/15 Posts: 6525	Wed 04/20/16 08:11 AM
I always try to make sure that good girls come first And what kind of "come" are YOU referring to Beach?

Duttoneer Joined Sun 07/01/12 Posts: 4664	Wed 04/20/16 08:16 AM
I was dating a guy that I had fallen in love with . And good dates. One weekend we had a really good date. He took off to Portland for a weekend and the next time we talk he tell me we need to talk. I bent over backwards for him and done things I never would have. I guess cute, sweet and kind don't win the guy . Any one have any suggestions? Maybe when he realised you had fallen in love with him he discovered he was not in love with you, it happens. Better to be out of a one sided relationship, he did you a favour, at least you had some good dates so it wasn't all bad. Welcome to Mingle2 and good luck in your search.