does age difference affect a relationship I met someone who is 40yrs old and I am 58yrs old

Unless heart has an age, it shouldn't really

It's how you feel. If you don't mind then go for it and be happy.

Relationships are defined by the people involved.
Everything that affects either person will affect the relationship.


Kinda depends on what kind of relationship you want if you're honest with yourself.
Long term? Short term? Medium term? Companionship? Romantic?
Socially validating?

IMO every moment you're alive is basically a gift.
You are constantly experiencing, learning, changing, evolving, whether you want to or not. A lot of your life is experiencing, learning, changing, evolving, despite you not wanting to, based solely on age (e.g. the older you get, the less you can hear higher frequencies, and how that affects things like music appreciation).

IMO if you value your life, if you've enjoyed your life, if you've learned to value your time, value what you have for what it is, your experience, what you've learned, how you've changed, then you should see your age as more than "just a number."

That guy is 18 years younger. That's a generations difference of perspective.

What have you been doing for the last 18 years? What have you learned? How much have you changed? Do you want to go through it again vicariously?
What has happened to you that makes someone 18 years disparate in age equal to you in experience so you have life's in common?
What opportunities has he had that have allowed him to "catch up" to you so you're compatible? What will keep him from surpassing you?
What have you kept yourself from doing so the last 18 years are meaningless, making your experienced ages commensurate, making you and your perspectives compatible?

yes he is 18yrs younger I have been thinking about that would really like to meet someone around my own age we would share more in common then I would with someone who is 18yrs younger. I'm looking for a long term relationship and would hope to get married again. I am a widow

What is important. It is all about what are each others likes and dislikes, like to do and not do, where to live and not live, want in the future and not want in the future, personalities, and much more, it's all about mutual compatibility. If you enjoy their company, and you are both pretty much singing from the same song sheet, any age difference doesn't matter in my opinion. You could have no more in common with someone else other than your age group, don't be put off just because of age difference, you could be closing the door on something good in the long term. If age is a preference or priority or a concern to you, it's probably better to search for someone within an age range you are looking for or feel comfortable with.

Welcome to Mingle2 and good luck in your search.

yes that is what I'm really looking for is someone in my age range.but always seem to get gentlemen either younger or older then my age range

Depends on the maturity of the person maybe he's younger but he's already matured in thinking.. maybe you both jive.. just try to determine if you are compatible to make the relationship last long..

( anyway, just my opinion.. i prefer people older than me for some reason but til now i have no bf... nbsb)

That age difference might not man anything. In my case, I'm 65. I have adult daughters who are 29 and 31. Do you think I'm going to want a relationship with someone who is 25?

Hummm but yet your looking for those 30 and above?? Kind of blows that theory...

Many times than not, if the woman is 10+ years older. Unless he wants a sugar mama to support him.

Exactly right. Hypothetical situation. On one hand there is me. I have hit the 6th plateau and let's say I was looking for something more than just friends. On the other hand there is 2 ladies, One is let's say 50 and the other is 30. The 50 year old is very immature and drop dead gorgeous. The 30 year old is just ordinary looking but is very mature. I would prefer the 30 year old because of the maturity level. So each person is going to be different in what they are looking for in a match.

If you enjoy being together, don't get on each others' nerves, and 'love' each other, then age doesn't come into it, unless someone is 'under age'.

I prefer younger than me, but in every older woman I can usually still see the beauty of her youth, it's just hidden under makeup and a few wrinkles.

Eye of the beholder ! If it feels good, do it.

I think it is fine and helps if both people are mature however sometimes two people of age difference may be at different stages in their life as to what they want in a relationship. I think it is good to be open minded and at least try if you are both very keen on each other.

I agree - I think you should at least give it a shot. You will find out soon enough if the two of you are compatible. You don't say how long you've been widowed, so I think the best advice is to take it slow - don't get involved with someone just because you're lonely. I used to prefer guys older than me, but now that I'm in my 60's I'm more open minded about dating someone younger - just as long as they're not
too young. ( & too young is up to you )- I hesitate about dating someone under 50 because they may go thru that 50 midlife crisis we all have, but yo never know!)

Age difference is not important. It is honesty that matter most.

yes.

Consider this, 18 yrs difference.
Why don't you look for someone that is 76?
Would 76 be too old for you?

I dated a woman 10 years my senior.
She is a wonderful person.
There was just too many things we didn't have in common.
It wasn't anybody's fault, we were just too different.

Life expectancy for females is 81.2 years; for males, it's 76.4 years. That difference of 4.8 years.
This gives a health range of +-5 yrs on average.

There are exceptions to nearly every rule but unless both of you are exceptions to the rule, someone will be sacrificing where the other will be reaping.

I used to think that age doesn't matter. I found out that it does.
Until I learned that wisdom first-hand, I refused to see it.

I believe there is a range where age doesn't matter, that if you start the relationship younger and age into the later years together, the age gap has less significance than trying to start a relationship at a later age and build on it.

While a 20 year old can have a relationship with a 38 year old, it will still be littered with incompatibilities that will strain the relationship. If it is still working at 40, there was 20 years to work out the kinks.
In 20 years, he will be 60 and you will be 78, while it might work, is it fair?

All that being said, I think you two should do whatever you want to do. Personally, age does matter but only for my relationships.

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