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Topic: Why Single People Are Happier
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Wed 03/28/18 05:41 AM
How about the people that have never married?

I happen to be one of those people.

Don't get me wrong, as I'm a single guy who is overall happy with life. I still feel happier when I'm in a relationship.

Might have to do with the extra endorphins perhaps.

Rooster35's photo
Wed 03/28/18 06:51 AM

How about the people that have never married?

I happen to be one of those people.

Don't get me wrong, as I'm a single guy who is overall happy with life. I still feel happier when I'm in a relationship.

Might have to do with the extra endorphins perhaps.


"Single" doesn't necessarily mean "married and then divorced".
That study says that you, for example, are happier than a married person, even if you happen to date once in a while and get your fill of "intimacy" for as long as the goings are good and then move on with your single life for whatever reason.

In my opinion, marriage, nowadays, is a prison for your masculinity.
And I'm not joking. Watch this video that illustrates my point exactly:

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=PnT8DckpcBE

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Wed 03/28/18 08:51 AM

While it would be difficult to imagine anyone going into a marriage with the intention of it being temporary, there appears to be scientific proof that divorce can be good for you in many ways

That’s the conclusion of a psychologist with the University of California Santa Barbara who is spreading the word throughout the nation that single people are indeed happier overall than their married counterparts.
In an 18-minute TED Talk she presented last year, the psychologist explained that in spite of being bombarded by movies, love songs, and novels that “everyone wants to find that special someone,” many married people do not become happier or healthier psychologically than they were previously.
In fact, the psychologist maintains that more and more people are opting for the single life, and are thriving.

One study found that single people utilized their social networks more, and actually provided and received help from their friends much more than their married counterparts.

Singles are more fit.
It’s not only the minds of single people that tend to be stronger. There’s other scientific research to show that single people also tend to be more physically fit. In the study of nearly 4,500 people, those who were single had slightly lower body mass indexes and were, on average, 5 pounds lighter than married people.

Stronger minds.
Another strong benefit to the single life is the availability of alone time, which has proven to be important for increasing our overall sense of freedom as well as our creativity and levels of intimacy.

So, my single friends, it may be time to quit whining about being "all alone" and go out there and enjoy your single life with other singles like yourselves.

Cheers!


hmmm...and then there is another study which concluded that married people live longer!...of course by another psychologist...

(ever noticed at a trial how both defense and prosecutor have psychologists painting totally different pictures of the same person?)what ...

ahem...and in conclusion...you can be happy biggrin and die quickly or be not happy spock and live longer...

drinker laugh

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Wed 03/28/18 10:56 AM
There is a saying :never judge a book by its cover
A line in a Phil Collins song: in a crowd and all alone.
The grass isn't always greener!

Rooster35's photo
Wed 03/28/18 11:02 AM


While it would be difficult to imagine anyone going into a marriage with the intention of it being temporary, there appears to be scientific proof that divorce can be good for you in many ways

That’s the conclusion of a psychologist with the University of California Santa Barbara who is spreading the word throughout the nation that single people are indeed happier overall than their married counterparts.
In an 18-minute TED Talk she presented last year, the psychologist explained that in spite of being bombarded by movies, love songs, and novels that “everyone wants to find that special someone,” many married people do not become happier or healthier psychologically than they were previously.
In fact, the psychologist maintains that more and more people are opting for the single life, and are thriving.

One study found that single people utilized their social networks more, and actually provided and received help from their friends much more than their married counterparts.

Singles are more fit.
It’s not only the minds of single people that tend to be stronger. There’s other scientific research to show that single people also tend to be more physically fit. In the study of nearly 4,500 people, those who were single had slightly lower body mass indexes and were, on average, 5 pounds lighter than married people.

Stronger minds.
Another strong benefit to the single life is the availability of alone time, which has proven to be important for increasing our overall sense of freedom as well as our creativity and levels of intimacy.

So, my single friends, it may be time to quit whining about being "all alone" and go out there and enjoy your single life with other singles like yourselves.

Cheers!


hmmm...and then there is another study which concluded that married people live longer!...of course by another psychologist...

(ever noticed at a trial how both defense and prosecutor have psychologists painting totally different pictures of the same person?)what ...

ahem...and in conclusion...you can be happy biggrin and die quickly or be not happy spock and live longer...

drinker laugh

I agree with you entirely.

I don't put much stock in what psychologists say nor in their studies but I thought I'd do like feminists and liberals: grab at anything to advance my narrative laugh


Goofball73's photo
Wed 03/28/18 11:06 AM
Divorce can be a good thing. My divorce actually was, simply because my ex was living a lie and she decided that another man was a good fit for her. Hurt like hell, and I went through my crap after it, but I did get my stuff together and now am happier and healthier. Dating can be a bit of a biatch too, but the sex always made up for that. laugh

Beachfarmer's photo
Wed 03/28/18 11:11 AM

happy people are happier

problem may be people are seeking partners to 'make' them happy, because they are not happy already

people that are already 'happy' single are not looking for it outside of themself and will be just as 'happy' with someone else ,, most likely.


It's still this

Toodygirl5's photo
Wed 03/28/18 11:24 AM
I think there was a study on men living longer, if they are married.

That are those in a good relationship marriage.

TxsGal3333's photo
Wed 03/28/18 11:27 AM

happy people are happier

problem may be people are seeking partners to 'make' them happy, because they are not happy already

people that are already 'happy' single are not looking for it outside of themself and will be just as 'happy' with someone else ,, most likely.



Very true I'm happy regardless if I'm in a relationship or not..

Relationships will not make you happy if you are not already happy, being with someone might make you happy for a time but it is not a fix... one must be happy within first..

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Wed 03/28/18 01:50 PM

I think there was a study on men living longer, if they are married.

That are those in a good relationship marriage.

I believe I've heard that one too... people in a happy relationship, not just men.

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Wed 03/28/18 01:54 PM
Edited by SparklingCrystal 💖💎 on Wed 03/28/18 01:55 PM


happy people are happier

problem may be people are seeking partners to 'make' them happy, because they are not happy already

people that are already 'happy' single are not looking for it outside of themself and will be just as 'happy' with someone else ,, most likely.


It's still this

Agree 100%. But even then a wonderful matching partner is still the icing on the cake and you end up being and feeling even happier than you already were.
I know cos I've been there.
The sheer joy of sharing and co-creating still adds to life, and thank goodness for that, otherwise a relationship would only have something to add to people who can't be happy on their own.
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Wed 03/28/18 02:22 PM



happy people are happier

problem may be people are seeking partners to 'make' them happy, because they are not happy already

people that are already 'happy' single are not looking for it outside of themself and will be just as 'happy' with someone else ,, most likely.


It's still this

Agree 100%. But even then a wonderful matching partner is still the icing on the cake and you end up being and feeling even happier than you already were.
I know cos I've been there.
The sheer joy of sharing and co-creating still adds to life, and thank goodness for that, otherwise a relationship would only have something to add to people who can't be happy on their own.
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I totally agree.

And I think happy people seek out happy people and for some reason unhappy people do the same. So maybe happy people are more likely to be single because its harder for them to find other happy people? ..lol

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Wed 03/28/18 04:45 PM
I find myself more happy as a single person than when I was married, and I got married late in life. It did not last long and was glad to be out.

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Wed 03/28/18 05:53 PM

There is a saying :never judge a book by its cover
A line in a Phil Collins song: in a crowd and all alone.
The grass isn't always greener!


:thumbsup:

Janaeh's photo
Wed 03/28/18 11:58 PM
Being single would be no stress , no pain. You can do whatever you wants.

Rooster35's photo
Thu 03/29/18 12:14 AM

Being single would be no stress , no pain. You can do whatever you wants.

:thumbsup:

Smart woman

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Thu 03/29/18 04:29 AM


How about the people that have never married?

I happen to be one of those people.

Don't get me wrong, as I'm a single guy who is overall happy with life. I still feel happier when I'm in a relationship.

Might have to do with the extra endorphins perhaps.


"Single" doesn't necessarily mean "married and then divorced".
That study says that you, for example, are happier than a married person, even if you happen to date once in a while and get your fill of "intimacy" for as long as the goings are good and then move on with your single life for whatever reason.

In my opinion, marriage, nowadays, is a prison for your masculinity.
And I'm not joking. Watch this video that illustrates my point exactly:

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=PnT8DckpcBE


Hopefully fixed the link.

Rooster35's photo
Thu 03/29/18 07:46 AM



How about the people that have never married?

I happen to be one of those people.

Don't get me wrong, as I'm a single guy who is overall happy with life. I still feel happier when I'm in a relationship.

Might have to do with the extra endorphins perhaps.


"Single" doesn't necessarily mean "married and then divorced".
That study says that you, for example, are happier than a married person, even if you happen to date once in a while and get your fill of "intimacy" for as long as the goings are good and then move on with your single life for whatever reason.

In my opinion, marriage, nowadays, is a prison for your masculinity.
And I'm not joking. Watch this video that illustrates my point exactly:

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=PnT8DckpcBE


Hopefully fixed the link.

You sure did. :thumbsup:

Thank you, sir!

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