Topic: Flattery
Alex's photo
Mon 04/06/20 05:37 PM
I'd appreciate some responses from women on this forum.

Men seems to be flattering me an awful lot and I am wondering if this is pretty typical for this type of site. I do have nice photos on line and I look younger than my age. I suppose I am wondering if it can be sincere.

It seems to me this type of thing doesn't happen as much when you are meeting in person.

WheelieGoodGuy's photo
Mon 04/06/20 06:35 PM
It's become quite treacherous for straight males these days . We may try and say something meaning it in the most harmless way intended and STILL find a way to screw it up an sound like a complete perv

Nancy's photo
Tue 04/07/20 05:42 AM
Alex. Yes those messages are good for the ego. It took me a while to realize that almost all initial messages that comment on physical appearance are from time wasters who have not seen my written profile and send canned greetings to anyone whose photo they like. I don't know the motivation. After one round of messaging it's not going to go anywhere.

Nancy's photo
Tue 04/07/20 05:48 AM

It's become quite treacherous for straight males these days . We may try and say something meaning it in the most harmless way intended and STILL find a way to screw it up an sound like a complete perv

To not screw it up try commenting on something in the woman's profile that interests you. If you want to compliment her physical appearance, do it later so it doesn't seem like a pickup line.

notbeold's photo
Tue 04/07/20 06:39 AM
You do have very nice photos, so expect some honest flattery; but many will be scammers. If they don't want to chat just on mingle, they are probably suspect. If they don't chat on the forums, they could be fake. Never give details of anything. Have a laugh.

soufiehere's photo
Tue 04/07/20 06:54 AM

..Men seems to be flattering me an awful lot and I am wondering if this is pretty typical for this type of site. I do have nice photos on line and I look younger than my age. I suppose I am wondering if it can be sincere..

Flattery is the biggest ammo stockpile in these parts.
They will tell you anything they think you want to hear.
The goal is to get your attention.
They all think alike, you will get 20 emails all with
the same words in an hour.

Every now and again you might uncover a legitimate, sincere
male being. No flattery, just some pertinent patter that
reaches out to you. Grab and run toots ;-)

no photo
Tue 04/07/20 06:56 AM


..Men seems to be flattering me an awful lot and I am wondering if this is pretty typical for this type of site. I do have nice photos on line and I look younger than my age. I suppose I am wondering if it can be sincere..

Flattery is the biggest ammo stockpile in these parts.
They will tell you anything they think you want to hear.
The goal is to get your attention.
They all think alike, you will get 20 emails all with
the same words in an hour.

Every now and again you might uncover a legitimate, sincere
male being. No flattery, just some pertinent patter that
reaches out to you. Grab and run toots ;-)


This

WheelieGoodGuy's photo
Tue 04/07/20 07:05 AM
I try to stay away from comments on physical appearance as the old saying goes you can't judge a book by its cover

no photo
Tue 04/07/20 07:08 AM

I try to stay away from comments on physical appearance as the old saying goes you can't judge a book by its cover


Well this one seems to have a head on his shoulders

WheelieGoodGuy's photo
Tue 04/07/20 07:12 AM
Thank you I try but being male I'm still prone to bouts of nonsensical idiocy no matter how well intended

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Tue 04/07/20 07:17 AM
Well, looking at your photos you are asking for it. They're good photos, no judgement, but if you get such posey photos up that's usually what you want and also will get.
Just take the flattery, get your profile text sussed asap and keep your intuitive antenna out and in good working order to sort the wheat from the chaff.

I_love_bluegrass's photo
Tue 04/07/20 09:52 AM
Edited by I_love_bluegrass on Tue 04/07/20 09:54 AM

I'd appreciate some responses from women on this forum.

Men seems to be flattering me an awful lot and I am wondering if this is pretty typical for this type of site. I do have nice photos on line and I look younger than my age. I suppose I am wondering if it can be sincere.

It seems to me this type of thing doesn't happen as much when you are meeting in person.


The only times *I* get messages claiming I am "beautiful", "gorgeous", "stunning", or have a beautiful smile (I am not smiling in my picture), or beautiful eyes (I am wearing sunglasses)...it is *always* from a fake person..

And, even if it wasn't..if THAT is all you can say in your initial message (as opposed to, say, commenting on something in my profile we share in common..), then I doubt I'd be interested anyway..

no photo
Wed 04/08/20 07:01 PM


I'd appreciate some responses from women on this forum.

Men seems to be flattering me an awful lot and I am wondering if this is pretty typical for this type of site. I do have nice photos on line and I look younger than my age. I suppose I am wondering if it can be sincere.

It seems to me this type of thing doesn't happen as much when you are meeting in person.


The only times *I* get messages claiming I am "beautiful", "gorgeous", "stunning", or have a beautiful smile (I am not smiling in my picture), or beautiful eyes (I am wearing sunglasses)...it is *always* from a fake person..

And, even if it wasn't..if THAT is all you can say in your initial message (as opposed to, say, commenting on something in my profile we share in common..), then I doubt I'd be interested anyway..



Ya, this.

Also, if there's nothing for them to comment on in your profile: jackpot! for a scammer, as they may not even speak English and rotate various 'compliments' cut/pasted from the scammer handbook.

no photo
Thu 04/09/20 09:38 AM
hello

Freebird Deluxe's photo
Thu 04/09/20 11:04 PM
A lot will send out dozens of the same flattering mails to any woman they can

feelyoungagain's photo
Sat 08/01/20 03:23 AM

I'd appreciate some responses from women on this forum.

Men seems to be flattering me an awful lot and I am wondering if this is pretty typical for this type of site. I do have nice photos on line and I look younger than my age. I suppose I am wondering if it can be sincere.

It seems to me this type of thing doesn't happen as much when you are meeting in person.


I wouldn't read into it. Just enjoy it!

feelyoungagain's photo
Sat 08/01/20 03:24 AM

It's become quite treacherous for straight males these days . We may try and say something meaning it in the most harmless way intended and STILL find a way to screw it up an sound like a complete perv


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