Money has never really been my friend. Since I reentered the dating world after decades of paying fr everything always, when a woman wants to split the costs of a 'date' or pick up the tab, its favorable to talk about that beforehand, that way its clear.
If the woman says nothing and the subject doesn't come up, I figure I'll be the one picking up the tab, but now that I am finally living below my means, isn't a problem for me.

A couple things to keep in mind about how I 'date'
1. The date is not a 'date'. Its the two of us getting together to do something together to see if we are compatible and have any heat between us.
2. I don't 'date' just to date. Women are not a conquest or a tally.
3. I'm not out to try to impress anyone anymore.
To me, a woman seeing me as I truly am is more important to our potential relationship than her seeing me flex my wallet.
4. The cost of our 'get together' is usually the last thing on our minds, if not...something is wrong.
5. Life is usually informal and unscripted. Trying to be something you are not is not truthful and relationships based on lies never seem to work for long.

If money is such an issue, you obviously can't afford to date. Perhaps you should hold off on new relationships until either money is there or you grow up.

Exactly

I think this is the moment to say: I rest my case :)

You got that right!
I didn't expect the OP to understand as it was already clear which category he fits in.
We all have our own path in life.

Thank goodness we do have plenty of beautiful people around us that do get it, and live it!

I've never gone out with a guy who would ever consider letting me pay. I also have absolutely no intention of paying for a date I was invited to.

We may be on different pages.

I used terms like "most people",
"disasters", and FEMA.

Most people = is NOT gender exclusive.

Disasters = Men and women sometimes try
to overthink the simplist of things, then
over analyze it all. Creating disasters
out of occasions that should be happy.

the rate things are shaping up in the world today , I am at that stage where ... it's like , to hell with it , I will just date myself and yup pay for myself to ...

PS: as long as I am alive , chivalry will never die . Real men will stand with me , I am sure of that !!!

One of the reasons I don't date anymore is because I can't afford it. I don't expect anyone to pay for me.

I have a very small income myself (lowest benefit available) so I cannot afford to do expensive things, or at least not very often.
When dating someone regularly, as in basically being in a relationship but not living together(yet) you (both) have to take into account everything though.
When I was in that situation he usually came over to me, not the other way round. Yes, he had petrol cost but he could afford that and I was worth that for him, I on the other hand had the cost of being here. Extra laundry, water & gas (lengthy showers together :p ), shampoo, and so on. Extra food we usually shared, although I made sure I had extra things in tha house that I paid for myself.
Maybe these are minor compared to an outing that costs money but it's still gotta be paid and those cost were for me.
People tend to forget these things or take it for granted that it costs the other person money. When you're on a very small benefit like me you DO think about it as every extra expense is immediately a lot to me.

Plus, you don't always have to go places nor places that are expensive. Looking around in a nice old town with historical building or just walking around town browsing shops, having a coffee etc.
That's stuff I can afford. Even on my little income I can afford to pay for 2 coffees or 2 ice-creams.

It may not always be easy, but with the right kind of guy it wouldn't be a problem really.
I've had it the other way round, me having a good income and the guy I was involved with basically being flat broke. I still wanted to do things, meaning I paid for it. I once even bought him a new suit because I had a gala dinner from work.
Personally I don't give a toss. If I can afford it and we love each other, who cares?
There are men like that too.

I love food so I pay my own way that way I can eat as much or as little as I like

i'd pay for my share.

I have always paid for the date and probably never gonna change that , now if only I could find a date ...hope that answers the question !!!

Times have changed, and I now have no fixed ideas, I prefer to pay when out on a date and still try to do so, but it's not always possible.

at the moment I don't need who invited him to pay should be divided into the fee

Jenjen is right, it should be divided.. first half you pay of him an other half you pay of yours...
Don't know who inivites who.. still welcome to today's dating..
Good Luck

I agree with you. I don’t need anybody to pay for me but i am old school. I offer as a courtesy to contribute to the check and i have been secretly pleased when the gentleman acts gentleman and declines my offer . I usually contribute paying the tip!

If I ask a lady on a date I expect to pay for everything. If it isn't an official date then I will still want to pay for everything but if the lady offers to pay her own way I will not be offended. It's just the way I was raised.

The one who did the asking out should pay. If you asked, it's your date.

Nowadays, I'm only getting together with someone as a friend, so I'll pay for myself.

I agree with this for the exception of the movies... I always pay for the snacks for me and partner because I hate sharing popcorn