I can completely relate njmom. My last serious relationship ended over 2 years ago, and I'm STILL in no huge hurry to jump in again because he was such a douche...lol. I'm over HIM, just much more cautious and picky now. I'm sure you can relate.

Every post made on this site is attention seeking in some manner or another. Its the adult thing to do to just ignore those you don't care for and go on about your day without causing any unnecessary drama .

Its not supposed to be about "have to" it should be about "want to". You should WANT to court her and make her feel special instead of like a booty call.

You're totally making my day
You're a sweetheart

I'm Wiccan, not christian, and we too have our version of marriage called "Hand Fasting". You don't need to have a piece of paper to be married in the eyes of "God" or whatever being you pray to. I think if you're in love and living together and happy, that piece of paper is irrelevant for anything except last rights. I can be with someone 70 years and just not sign that paper b/c we didnt' find it neccesary, or we can. However two people are happy is important. I'm happy living one day at a time and enjoying my 20s.

Oh my god I so know what you mean! I would not do that, even if I DID think it...lol, its just desperate. I was seeing a guy casually for a while last year who just seemed in a huge hurry to get married. I told him "I'm 24, I'll get there when I get there, lets not rush it" I had to dump him cus he was obsessed with being married before 40 and he was 37. I think he wanted to be married before 38...lol, I had to skip out.

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For anyone who watches "The Doctors" in the afternoon (women mainly) Isn't Travis Stork just delicious to look at?

1. You totally just made my day cus I've been worried that I'm starting to look old...lol.

2. I don't HAVE to be married by 35...lol. I don't know if I will be or won't be, I'm just living for today personally.

I really just want someone who wouldn't rule it out if it ever were to happen, but not seemingly on a deadline to get married like so many these days. When I was 16 I thought I wanted to be married by 25, but with it now being in my near future (and me being less idealistic than 16 year old me was) I don't really care about "marriage" as much as I do commitment.

I think that could be it. I think guys all assume every woman is going to want to hurry them down the isle if they admit to wanting to one day be married. I'm okay without a piece of paper, I mean... its just the government's way of being involved in our relationships anyway. Well I think I'll let this topic stew more interest while I go work out.

I was watching the Tyra Banks' show today and a question came to mind from people I've talked to recently combined with the topic of the show.

Me personally, I do want to be married one day but I'm in no big hurry. I'm turning 25 this year and feel I'm coming into my prime, I really feel no rush and as long as I'm married in the next 10 years I'll cope...lol.

I noticed single men who hang out with married friends seem to be in a huge hurry to wed. I have married friends too, both happily and not so happily. The not so happily is why I'm in no hurry...lol. I DO want to be with someone who knows they do want to get married one day, but is it just me or does the smell of desperation completely turn you away?

Why does it seem so hard to find someone who has a middle ground? Someone who does want to be married one day, but not in a rush? They're either wanting to marry you practically before your first kiss, or completely commitment phobic. What gives?

Any opinions?

It never leaves

The flirty side of me says: Lets see if I can help ease your pain, cutie

The serious side says: Its going to take as long as it takes. Everyday will get easier, but some days will still seem like it was yesterday for a little while. You'll get there when you get there and don't rush yourself.

Good for you

You did an amazing thing, most people would not even consider being a surrogate. It is also great that you made sure he had the things he needed before he left your sight. You did what you could sweetie, and thats awesome. It really was out of your hands once he was born, so no one should judge you for it. I applaud you for being so strong.

Oh then I have seen this commercial...lol. It makes me laugh for real. I think its a neat little gadget though... if it came to stores I'd probably buy one if I had the chance to look it over for quality.

So you saw someone you didn't like and decided to go through all this to say you didn't like him? That doesn't really make much sense. Wouldn't it have been less time consuming, thus giving him less of your attention; to just roll your eyes and go about your day?

If a woman wants to flop 'em out and feed her child in public, go for it. Be discreet or don't, I don't care. I care more that you are feeding your child, because thats kind of important. As for the older kids nursing... after they start getting teeth... if you still feel the need to give them breast milk buy a pump...

Yes...lol, there's several ways. I love lima beans. Now... the recipe above you wouldn't work for me b/c I'm a vegetarian who hates onions...lol

I eventually remembered...lol. I was online to look up ways to shut off the urge to binge eat...