*gives you a great big hug*
Exactly my sentiment! Putting a disability on a profile is purely a matter of choice...in a perfect world, it wouldn't matter but we all know this world aint perfect.
Then again...disability is all a matter of perception. I know plenty of people who are considered non-disabled, yet they are crippled with emotional trauma. I'd far, far rather someone in a wheelchair with a good head on his shoulders, than someone up and walking around with a huge chip on his shoulders.

I love talking to people, but can be painfully shy.
I love my little Mummy, but I want to strangle her.

Rap itself is a contradiciton...it's not music. I don't know what it is, but it's not music.

It does take time to heal...different for everyone. Just don't let the scars harden you and you'll do just fine.

Yes Kim...thanks for reminding us.
Welcome hun. *kiss on yeer noze and a great big hug*

I can understand how your experiences may have led you to those beliefs, and my heart hurts for you.
Trust me though that not eveyone is like that.
Check out this link
http://www.lifewithoutlimbs.org/

This man is married to a beautiful woman and they just had a son. In order to believe that you deserve a smiliar love, you need to start with YOU. You are an amazing human being and are capable of giving so much.

Mayhap it's because I have a brother with a disability, and because I spent my career in caring for people recovering from traumatic injuries that result in chronic disabilities, but I always look at the person from the inside out, not the outside in.

Change your perceptions...cultivate a spirit of positivity and peace and love, and you will find a terrific mate where your primary criteria in searching for her was NOT her level of physical ability, but her level of love.

Amazing...no one has mentioned the changes in religion.
When I was young, everyone went to church on Sunday, these days I'm almost afraid to say that I'm going to church on Sunday for fear of the raised eyebrows and questioning looks.
Yes it's true that when your faith says you can't divorce, you look at marriage in a whole different light. It's a one shot deal so you gotta make it work. Problem with this is that those people who were caught in abusive relationships had no easy way out.
But now in just one generation, we've swung the other way where the out is so easy it's considered the norm. 'Oh...he's not working out? Get a divorce!' I'm hoping that the pendulum may swing the other way to a happy medium.

Ummmm...sorry, but I have to stick my nose in here.
Why do you think that if you're disabled, you must only date other disabled people? I'm just curious.

*hugs* I'm good friends with a beautiful young girl from Nairobi. She is Deaf, and has participated in pageants and won quite a few.
I worry about her though as she gets older and she is starting to 'play' with men. I worry about her safety, but you just can't tell a headstrong young person to be careful. They rarely listen.
Stay strong, stay beautiful, and hold out for a good loving man who will cherish you.

*smile* I simply meant that rather than discussing things and working out a solution, I would bring on the waterworks and try to make my partner feel guilty.
It is immature behaviour, but you use the tools that you have. Some people never learned how to be mature during confrontation. It's a skill that needs to be learned.
When I was going through my divorce 13 years ago, I went to counselling b/c I was having a hard time dealing with it. I learned a lot of skills that I feel should have been taught to me as a child. As a child I learned that confrontation of any kind was to be avoided, as it led to bad things. (I had a rough childhood and ended up in the foster care system).
Some people avoid any kind of confrontation and that is NOT healthy, as it leaks out in other ways, such as 'silent treatment', jealousy, fear, apprehension. How can you have a healthy, functioning, loving relationship that way? You can't.
*sliding gun behind the couch with the toe of my foot*

*smile*
I am fluent in ASL, as I have a Deaf brother.
In my family, that's just how we communicate. My ex-husband was a sign language interpreter, and ASL was our language.
So much easier to express emotions of love or to say "let's get the heck outta here!" to each other in company.
Mind you, arguing in ASL can be painful too. I've sprained fingers.


Mostly though I find that as I get older, I try to be calm and to reason things out. My mother raised me with guilt and when I was younger, I used to manipulate people. I realized a while back how unhealthy that was, and I worked hard to be comfortable with calm and reasonable confrontation.

Absolutely. I agree. Women need to be able to trust their partner in order for this to work though. Sadly too many men abuse their position of authority and this is the reason why so many people today do not understand this type of relationship and sneer at it.

*shaking head in confusion*
Sorry....I'm not sure what you mean.

I am Christian and I like how the bible teaches that a relationship should be. A man should be the head of the family, but the woman should be his crown that he cherishes.
He takes care of her and nurtures her, and she in return gives him loyalty and respect.
Is this a dominant relationship? No. This is man and woman realizing the importance of their gender roles, rather than rebelling against them.
But if you refer to a man using his head like status to diminish and demoralize his woman, then this is abuse of the gender role and a woman is wise to opt out.

But I think it's healthy to expect reciprocal treatment in a relationship. So many people say that they have no expectations and for me that is just wrong. I EXPECT a man to replenish me and to be equally loving and that is healthy.

My little Sunshine will chomp on kale and sits up and begs when she sees the plastic tub of salad come out of the fridge.

*giving puppy a tummy rub*
He's just so gosh darned cute!
Best of luck to you my friend.

The middle two pics are not half as attractive as the first. Gotta love a man with a smile!
I really like though that you put your interests as god and family. Expand a bit more on what kind of lady you're looking for.
Good luck!

*deep happy sigh*
I do have a thing for dimples...
You need to expand a bit and put a bit more information on your profile there bud.
But then again, I'd be too busy drooling over the pic to read the words.
Just a caution though...the little guy is cute, but I don't think it's wise to post pics of your kids.

I liked it a lot. Good luck!

Why lonely? *hugs*