JMO, but if you tell her asap...she may have something else to look forward to instead of feeling trapped with her current crap relationship. If you think she's hanging onto this guy because she's afraid of being alone...then tell he she wouldn't be.
But then there's the fact that she needs to get over this guy for a while. If she ends it with him, it doesn't mean she's over him. Personally, I couldn't stand to really like a guy, get him, but he's still all broke up inside about some other woman.

For me, If I like what I see??? I have NO problems approaching a man for whatever I am after. I will pounce. No problem.
Seductively with humor....works every time.

I really don't know why women don't like to make the move. Maybe they are more afraid of rejection than men are.

Might be a little off key to some for me to bring this up but...
Getting married was never a law of man. You don't have to marry.
Nothing in man's laws says two people must marry if they are together.
Marriage was, and still is, something started, and required by God himself.
That's where the laws of marriage came from.
There is no other law that requires people to marry, and should be no other reason TO marry, except to honor and follow what God Himself put into place.
So for me, without God in your life, marriage is nothing.
Because without God, you don't have to try and stay married. You can just quit and not honor the promises made.

True dat lol
I was joking with you. Hence the laughing emoticon

Maybe if your truth is going to offend, you could try changing the way you see things...(seems like you could use to do that)
If a woman is asking you if her clothes make her look fat...then she's not even aware that she looks fat at all. Perhaps that is because she's not fat enough for it to be that obvious of a problem. Maybe you should change your perception of what is fat. Unless of course you have a perfect fat ratio yourself, maybe you shouldn't even be thinking she's fat. Try focusing on what she is wonderful for instead. No, we don't want you to tell us we are fat if we ask...we're hoping you won't see that, and that you would see beauty instead because that's what real love does. If you thought of things this way, you wouldn't have to lie.

YES
THE ONE TRUE GOD
PROOF IS ALL AROUND YOU
but you have to be able to see and hear....
so you can be looking and listening

I LOVE romance. I think I'd love to be spoiled with attention and affection.
Gifts, surprise trips and dates. I've never had that. Always had the plain dude with nothing on his mind but how fast he can get me into the sack with what little he had to offer me. Stupid. Not doing it ever again. I might get tired of romance though if the guy went all out all the time. I wouldn't know.
I would love to have a man pick me out something he wanted me to wear...but there is a finesse that needs to be used. He can't require I wear something that made me feel unwanted if I didn't.
Etc, with anything else along these lines.
But I don't think it makes me an addict, however I've been left to "jones" for romance like an addict being so deprived.

yes and what he REALLY means is he thinks women need to hush it and put up with men so the marriage will last. hahahah!!

good post

Funny thing, I remember posting something about trust and lies....
most everybody said everyone lies and wouldn't agree with me that the truth is the only way. NOW look at this thread hahahahha!!!

This guy is too funny. Always short and sweet opinion too.
Love it.

Well, first of all, you said "suck and such".....hahahahah!!!
Sorry, my Beavis and Butthead love is coming out of meh! lol
That made me spit my drink out on my monitor, but that's ok.

About your topic, I think not ever being married at a mature age means many different things. The only way to know why is to ask. But I think why would be a common question people would ask you. I certainly wouldn't be put off by it until I got an answer that disturbed me.
That answer could only be if this person was thrown back many, many times. I would look for clues to see if they were extremely hard to get along with, had tons of issues, or problematic habits.

I am having a relationship with Mingle2
Anything else, is not an option.
Over it.
I am single and happy, someone would have to be utterly amazing to change that.

You have excellent questions. Thank you for your mother compliment. I did however, have to learn the hard way with some aspects of motherhood. I have few regrets. But one of them is getting with a man that didn't want to be a father figure to my children. Of course I didn't realize this until much later....and of course, he didn't think my children needed an additional father, as they did visit their real father regularly. I discovered though, that my children only spent every other weekend with their father, and every day with the step. Step fathers, and boyfriends alike, need to play, help, and back up mom whenever she needs it. It's that simple. I wouldn't discipline her children without her. That will never work. But she does need a man's help to back her up when there is an issue of discipline. Don't just let her take care of it all. She needs help or those children will walk all over her, next thing you know, we have teenage hellions later talking back and disrespecting, etc. There is something about two people together that makes the children listen. Just as in our friendship conversations, I don't really listen to a new idea until the person next to them also says the same thing.

These children may need more than a child that has had both parents together their whole life. Children of divorce or single parents are not always fine with their parent's choices in life, and have anger and sadness issues.
People getting with partners that have children need to realize, you will be an influence to some degree to your partner's children if they are around you.
More often than not, they will not like the union. They may act out because of this, but not in ways that will tell you what the problem is. These children may have behaved like that their whole life because mom has weak parenting skills so the child is spoiled, confused, let to do what they want. Not getting the love guidance, and comfort they need from a father. One needs to tread lightly with children in this situation. You almost can't expect them to behave as other children do that were blessed enough to have two parents, or heck, even one good parent. The last thing you should do is make the child dislike you and fuel their preexisting fears about you.

Not get with someone that had children if I didn't want to put the effort into the package deal. Lot's of children have problems that were not raised properly. Especially boys with no fathers, that end up with mom's boyfriend that can't see he's crying out for guidance in all the wrong ways. You have to see past what they are doing, and put yourself aside. We all have rules. I'll bet you weren't a real rule abider in your younger days either. I'm sure your mother would like to at least wash your mouth out with soap.

wrong response to poster*

They must not be as smart as you anyway.
Keep looking. You are so cute, sweet, kind and accomplished.
I really cannot imagine how you are still single and never married...I can't. lol
However, I believe some were never intended to suffer a relationship...and I envy them. lol