had you had nsa sex with him before?

denyabitlity....maybe this other girl isn't up for the open status...this would require him to begin lies and hiding things.

You know for a guy to turn down sure-thing-no-strings-attached-sex there has to be some thing going on with him. I know it's hard to grasp but I'm sure you know he did really want it. There's a good chance that hanging out and having a great time all night brought back some old very strong feelings on his end.

it's like in the movie practical magic with sandra bullock and nicole kidman, as a child sandra bullocks character wishes for a guy with all of the certain characteristics that would pretty much make for an impossible person. of course through the magic of hollywood he was possible, but that's not the point.
it's okay to have standards, it's something else to knit pick.
i've seen sites where you could filter the potential matches based on eye color, or hair color. are we really that picky that we disqualify people based on the color of their eyes? in some instances, yes some people are that picky. i think those people need to wake up. what happens when a person comes along that has all of the right qualities except, oops they have brown eyes and i wanted someone with blue eyes? guess i'll just have to wait for the next one to come along.
nobody is perfect like the prince charmings in fairy tales. people need to have realistic standards. and they need to focus on attributes that are truly important.

of course another problem could be the perceived requirements. i think that sometimes ( i know i do this ) we as people think that the opposite sex is looking for a certain thing ( which they may or may not be ) and therefore we prematurely disqualify ourselves because of what we "think" the other wants. we get to thinking "oh, she's just so perfect. she wouldn't be interested in someone like me" when there is a possibility that we could be exactly what they're looking for.
the plain and simple truth is that nobody knows what the someone else is looking for unless they find out from that person directly.

so, standards are important, but they should be realistic. and just because i don't think that i'm what she's looking for, it doesn't necessarily mean that i'm not exactly what she's looking for.



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