I think a lot of being accepted as a single person rather than "divorced" or "widowed" and the emotional baggage/fallout that goes with those labels is how we think of ourselves and how we present ourselves.

Some people think there is a status that is assigned to being long term single, divorced, or widowed. I think some people see claiming being a widow/er is somehow trying to be "superior". Like "I wouldn't be here if my spouse didn't die; it is not my fault." Well often being single or divorced isn't either. So those who are widowed need to be concious of how they treat single peers. People who have only been one or the other don't have a realistic perspective of how the other feels. All have their pluses and minuses.

A lot of it is the predjudice of society against ALL single people. Very few people like to admidt they are single because the first question isn't often snything but "why?" like it is somehow an affliction. God forbid someone is actually single and happy.

There is a lot of truth to that but most of us do not have a crystal ball that tells us when someone we love is being deceptive. In todays busy demanding world it is not difficult to pull a fast one.

True but the definition of love can be very different. A guy can love having sex with me but have no other feelings of love for my interests, health, feelings, or welfare in general which would be part of my definition.

It is really sad Mikey but you are right. Hopefully with more public education people will learn better.

I really wish there was an option to put "multi-racial". I often feel like if I pick one over the other I am denying my heritage or being deceptive.

Ooops Yes it effects the dating world. I think everyone; especially anyone who has been on the recieving end of predjudice, takes that experience into their personal choices.

Because I dated interracially years ago when it was still very taboo I have had fall out about it in the present. Some choices have lasting implications when families are involved. Life experiences can too. I have a Viet Namese child and I have had responses both positive and negative from peer age veterans.

Deepest sympathy. Anytime you need a hug or an ear you have one here.

I think anyone that denies it exists is fooling themself. The flip side is if you over react to every subtle snub it only amplifys and spreads the predjudice. The biggest reason I have always objected to set asides. If you get privileges only because of your race there has to be someone who is short changed for not being of that race or doesn't claim to be of that race. With so many, in the USA at least, to try to define race gets real dicey. Hopefully as the younger people grow in accepting each other as humans rather than races these predudices will fade.

Nahhhhh! Kokeamoe Mama

When ever I see your Monicer I think of a band that I used to sing in.

I like dogs but not yappy ones. My YOrkie didn't bark the first three years I had her. I think she was weaned to little.

Yea but that would make me a little nervous. Main reason I don't date walking wounded (folks that are newly divorced) just isn't worth the drama.

When my girlfriends used to talk on the CB we used to refer to guys like him as members of the Frog Prince Association.

You ought to go to the dollar store and buy one of those big magnifying glasses and give it to him telling him he might need it to find his tiny pecker.

If there is an airport close buy you might be able to get a stewardess rent a room every so often. Once they know you it can be a pretty steady thing. I used to have several when I lived in Atlanta. They said they would much rather stay with me than be stuck in a hotel.

Did you talk to anyone at the school? They might be able to find you someone good.

Just makes me wonder what their parents must have been like? If my sons would say something like that I would have slapped them cross eyed.

What is it with guys now days? I hope you poured a glass of something on him and walked of letting him sit there looking the fool.

Hang in there Doll. How is the school thing going?

This is a VERY GOOD profile. A full length shot would be a good idea. If you put a few extra pounds people will imagine a lot more than what reality is.

Having a child, if you are not still nurseing, I would recommend getting a smoking cessation program going. Guys that are cool about you having a child probably won't see that as a good pairing. It definitely lowers the number of responses you will get.

As pretty as you are you may be overwhelmed with responses. Good luck. Welcome to the playpen.

Maybe she just isn't comfortable caring on in public with a married man. Your wife catches her letting you love up on her she is likely to get hurt and she knows it.