AB you make my point in spades.

Sad the weight we give a promise not backed up with a signed license.

I know people blow off marriages but at least in marriage both parties have some valuable protections.

I will be honest I don't know that they are equal.

Male or female in today's world I would seriously make myself as "divorce proof" as possible.

I am so grateful that I kept some resources for myself alive. If you allow yourself to be bankrupted or unable to care for yourself it really doesn't matter who's fault it is because you are still suffering the same.

I hate to break it to you Ladies but and engagement ring doesn't necessarily mean you are safe. Most are not that expensive and if they have it polished up you are not going to know if it was their grandma's or the Ex wife's.

I can not tell you the number of cons who have figured out and engagement ring will make a woman buckle at the knees and wait a very long time to REALLY get serious.

Think about it you are engaged you let your guard down.

You stop requireing a condom. And maybe even go on the pill or a diet so you fit your wedding dress.

You let them drive your car.

You tell them your ATM number or passwords.

You leave them alone in your apartment.

You tell everyone you are off the market so you are. Most will stay home or away from "hot spots" so it is easy for them to play.

Engagement gives them access to your friends and families trust/help.

Many female fiance's even extend credit or pay bills so they don't have to work so much or be harrassed about childsupport.

TOO OFTEN women will take and engagement ring as Forever Amen and it does not always work out that way.


GUYS there is a flip side to this too. Just because someone takes and engagement ring does not mean you can't get hurt equally bad if you let your guard down.

Don't buy her next "groom" a wedding gown or a honeyingmoon.

Lease and apartment you can not afford on your own.

Let her have access to your vehical unless you are well insured.

EVER believe that she is REALLY "on the pill".

Read down through the warnings above and figure out the gender reverse.

That's what they want when they have been with a guy who hits and thinks a woman wants it.

You can be the "right man" but if you are not the "right woman" it will not work. It takes both sides being in it 100%.

It is not. Some people laugh when they can't think of something more approriate to do. Or they are cruel. Or they are trying to play off your feelings because they don't want to admidt the pain they cause. Or they are flirting. Easier to point at someone else and call them a name than figure one out that applys to self.

It will take time to heal but if you want to it will happen. It isn't paranoid to learn from your experiences but wisdom is finding out what you have been taught.

Love is a lable many people apply to anything but real love.

Love does make you vunerable to some things; death, profound injury, addiction, overwhelming crisis that breaks the spirit of the giver but real love does not give pain and does not feel like pain.

Sadly in some couples love really is, maybe always was one sided. We tend to be self preserving and believe what we want to believe.

Getting yourself in an un-loving relationship when you are desperate to be loved is very easy. The pain is very real even though you do not know what you are feeling is not love but the longing for love and the desperate fear of never finding it.

Sadly some folks don't have a real point of reference of what love even is.

They can not love themself so they really don't have a clue what being loved feels like.

It took a while; and some very painful attempts, I can tell you once I felt love it did not hurt and it didn't feel like and effort to reciprocate it. While it felt like I was gutted when he died the sensation of real love it is worth feeling again.

I just have to wonder where?

ewwwwwwwww!

Do guys think that kind of approach really works?

Very Sad for all involved usually. Some people get past cheating but I would sooner think Dad just misses his kids enough to tolerate whatever he had to. It sucks that Dad's can barely survive if they do the right thing by paying support but it is possible that he figured it was the only way out. Is it possible that the Ex sweetened the pot with offering sex; yea. Some people will never learn.

Pay attention to the help he is giving you and then follow up with and invitation for a snack some where on campus.

Out of the classroom if you want to tell him that you find him cute and that is a little distracting he will be flattered.

If you jump to the conclusion he is helping you and he isn't interested in you you haven't made a fool of yourself.

You are young a nice smile and a friendly nod Hello should not upset a young lady. Then just follow her que. Probably helps if you have a polite question to follow if she answers back.

Yea I know Kiddo Glad you are on upnote.

Yup this could drive a person crazy after a couple for sure.

Spose that would have something to do with the age and availability of the woman. Hope you are having a good night Quiet.

Least Cheerios are good for you. lol

I would love to be out on the lawn at Stone Mountain looking/listening to the Lazer Show and smelling the magnolias in the warm night air. Munching on some smokey BBQ, sipping some icecold sweet tea. A softspoken southern gentleman with his long legs wrapped around me kissing me occasionally on the back of my neck. That is pretty close to heaven.

Wish I could think of some good jokes to distract ya Quiet but the last time I tried to tell a joke is was one my seetie told me and I wrote it on the last check in my check book. Guess which check ended up in the offering plate at my staunch Presbyterian minister/guardians church? Thank God the Elders found it before Daddy not so Dearest.

LOL well he certainly wouldn't want to do it like I did; two at a time.

I was going to suggest sex but don't know if his sweet is there right now or not