Spasticity is a real drag. I had it so bad at one time I couldn't stand and had to be strapped into a wheelchair.

I actually got pretty good at hypnotizing myself with bio feed back.

I found if I tried to relax my body as if I was floating in water and let the spasams mentally ripple out of my body rather than fighting them it seem to lower the anxiety response

What you are describeing with the sofa worked when I had terrible leg spasams when I was pregnant

I am sorry you are suffering. I wish I had the power to lay hands on you and make it better. I do keep you in prayers.

Do you have a Hospice nurse? If you are considered terminal you are a candidate for their services. Then you are more likely to get the comfort medication you need.

Do you have any benedryl to help you sleep or lorazapam to reduce muscle spasams? Sometimes that will help in small doses. I would be careful taking vicodene it tends to depress you. This is more distressing from pain or the fact that it is a spasams?

Common thing for guys. But should be checked out with your MD. Can be a side effect of medication, heat fatigue, or something more serious.

Sometimes spactisity can be relieved with eating foods high in potassium; sweet potatoe, apricots, bananas. Drinking more fluids.

Not sleeping where there is a draft on the spastic muscles.

Not restricting the limbs with heavy covers or dangleing the feet off the end of a recliner or sofa with heavy shoes seems to reduce muscle fatigue. Avoid extreamly hot showers or bath.

Frequently it can be treated effectively with a prescription.

Good Luck

Really pretty good profile. Couple of typos and it might help to break it up in paragraphs but the tone is friendly and upbeat. Keep changeing out the pictures and speaking up in forums.

That is a comforting thought. ((Hug for AB ))

True Karma is tough but haven't you ever just once wanted to stand up and say "You don't get away with this with me." ?

I wouldn't do any thing stupid but it would be fun to play a headgame on them the same way they did you. Let them leave for work and come back to find you gone.

I guarantee you I would would never let a person know; I knew they were cheating; when I could just leave and make them think they had been rejected. Why not deprive them of the thrill of upsetting you?

That is really the best thing but I think I would be tempted to do something evil to them first.

LBiker how was your adventure?

Lol Invite him over and watch Green Fried Tomatoes.

Isn't there a site on the computer where you can out guys for cheating? Least post something that will show up when people google his name.

After a few thoughts of homicide I think I would go make sure he hasn't exposed me to and STD.

Having congestive heart failure or a stroke from and unattended dental infection poisoning the delicate heart muscle would be a lot more expensive.

If you have had a filing missing for a year and extream pain it is very likely to be infected.

Probably looking at a root canal or extraction so I would call United Way First Call for Help and see if they can referr you to a dental clinic/school or maybe a public hospital dental clinic. This will cost you from $200. to $750. or more if you get and implant.

You can go to CareCredit.com and apply for a credit line upto a $1000 interest free for the first year. Definitely want to pay it off before the interest kicks in because it is high. Phone is 1-866-893-7864.

ABESOL helps. Rinse with warm salt water. If you have and antibiotic the pain is from infection. Ice will reduce the swelling.

I would not recommend alcohol. You are already stressing your heart, stomache, kidneys pumping infection through your system without adding alcohol that will dehydrate you and maybe make you vomit bringing more infection into the mouth. Avoid useing a straw as it will amplify the pain.

I would really be shocked cuz it probably mean I made it to Heaven.

No Way I am getting nip, tucked, or perked up at this stage. I spend money it is going to feel good not pain.

Over the years you are most likely to see friends doing a lot of things they shouldn't be.

When I was younger I used to think it was being loyal to the offended party to tell them the truth.

What I soon learned is people "know" what they want to know and a lot of times they do "know" and don't want you rubbing their nose in it. Sometimes they are doing a lot worse. Either way you are making a lot of enemies minding someone else's business.

I know the arguement about Std's/AIDS is compelling but every adult makes a decision each time they have sex to expose themselves wheather it is a stranger, a lover, or a spouse.

Sounds like your friend is trying to be diplomatic with both of you.

It is clear she has made her choice as to who is the first relationship in her life. It isn't you.

I am sorry this is a worry to you and you might well be right he doesn't know how to fix the computer and might be a jerk. I am sure the intense dislike he feels compeating with you for her attention probably doesn't bring out the best in him.

But she is a single Mom, with a seriously handicapped child, and maybe she thinks this is the best guy she can get. Since you have already shot down her previous choice I wouldn't recommend trying to run off this one or she is going to question wheather you want her to be happy.