Wash your clothes and bedding with a 1/4 cup of ammonia added it will breakdown the nicotine in the fabric. Use it to wash down surfaces and clean out heat ducts . Change your furnace filter every week for two months. Get a mattress and pillow cover. Wash your hair and soak your combs and brushes. Clean your carpets and drapes. Unfortuneately nicotine dust has pretty much covered your living environment snd when you smell it or get it in your eyes it triggers the need for it. Drinking water and taking fiber does tend to help you flush out your system. Have your teeth cleaned and replace your toothbrush.
Be patient with yourself you didn't get addicted to cigs and develope smoking habits over night and you won't change them that fast either. Substituteing behavior is alot easier than stopping a behavior. I carry a worry stone to rub between my fingers. A keychain, nailbuffer, rubic cube, I don't recommend the toothpick idea. Smoking has done serious damage already to your teeth. Try to chew only sugarless gum.
Good luck. It is worth it. After the yucks get out of your system you really will feel better. And look better. Smoking really ages your skin.

Trying to build physical attraction would be like building and out house. It might be functional but living in it would stink to high heaven.

The OP asked that his profile be rated. IMHO it is a good profile. You get a feel for his way of thinking and some of his cultural values.

I am not a big fan of revealing photos but for the life of me I can't see what anyone would get all worked up about. This is a head and shoulders only shot that is tasteful and flattering. Certainly plays up one of his assets, good hair.

I think he could improve the profile with a more forward faceing photo smileing probably with some flattering color shirt. Conservative is generally better for and introduction which a profile is suppose to be.

However if he is having "adjustment" problems with his Ex I think I would save a portrait shot to send in later emails once someone has expressed interest.

I would not suggest including a picture of his son as with visitations it is too easy for someone to connect him and then the child if that were the goal and unfortuneately there are preditors in the world. Were my grands living in my area I would not included them in my profile and did so with the express permission of both parents. To antagonize and ex who is already jerking him around on visitation is fool hardy.

I really don't get all the hostility. What is so wrong that a mature man has said that he wants a sexual relationship with a female that also wants a sexual relationship versus a female that wants to develope and emotional bond first or in conjunction with sexual activity. While my preference has been, and is, for the latter I assure you that you do not speak for all women, of all ages, in your view that women are not sometimes purely attracted on a sexual level and that sex is inherently only and emotional need.

Seems like the flu season is hitting early. Go get your shots folks. The life you save may well be your own.

For those who are suffering you have my sympathy.

I talked to my kids about their bodies and their choices from as soon as they recognized they had body parts.

I told them that sex could either me loving and wonderful and meaningful or it could be not a lot more than a body function, cause a lot of unwanted comlications, and basiclly make them second to another human being for the rest of their life.

I told them all the facts, all the options, and how poorly they could work even when used the right way. Wasn't unusual for them to bring their friends to me for answers. There were "kids" in their schools who were pregnant in the early teens so I felt it was something they needed to know not to be caught "ignorant" even if it was just a conversation on the subject. I guarantee you that kids talk about sex. And will talk to you about it if you don't treat them like they are too stupid to have a serious discussion about it.

What knocked me out was the number of parents who were more than glad to pass the buck. And even with all the information that is out there the ignorance that still exists.

I really don't think having the information ever made my "kids" think that I condoned sexual activity until they were in their twenties and in a committed relationship. I made it clear that it was normal to want to but it was irresponsible to do it just because they could.

I also made it rare that they would be put into the position to be pressured into a sexual situation. I made sure activities were chaproned and that I would bring them home no questions asked. I didn't pressure them to have a girlfriend/boyfriend's and it was crystal clear that alcohol was not acceptable.

Sounds like life long poor coping skills maybe depression. Looseing weight after a child is tough but if she refused to be active then it tends to amplify the problem. If it wasn't and issue to you and you asked her to go out and have fun with you I feel like you probably did what you could. No marriage will make it with only one partner willing to participate. You might look for someone willing to work on making your next relationship work.

I found with less (shoot for none) Caffiene I have more pain free or at least reduced pain from my arthritis.

Also found with more non-narcotic pain medication (not Vicodin) I have considerable less depression.

Being betrayed takes awhile to process but the way to learn to trust someone is to give them small chances to prove themselves. Over time your history with that person will build and so will your trust.

I tend to agree that there must have been some signals that you missed that your wife was not happy. There is a reason she feel like she missed a lot of her life. Maybe it is seeing other friends living it up in the single life or being brainwashed by too much TV but I think at various points she asked for you to have fun with her and was dismissed.

However to marry so young it is likely that she didn't really mature all that much and treated you like a teenager often treats a parent; keeping them in the dark about most of their real feelings.

Hopefully you will meet someone who is older and wiser. And more committed to communicateing with you and keeping her vows to you. To me running off to play single is terribly selfish act.

More fun less chores.

For them and you; I am sure your friendship is a great comfort to them.

How do I delete profiles from my mutual match list that I am disinterested in?

Too those who work and those who made it to retirement! ^5!

I think vacationing together is a good way to find out what someone is really like. Agree it can be really good or really baaaaad.

Ya never know.

Vacations that is.

I usually just ignore them but sometimes I ask them if that is the extent of their vocabulary.

Not a bad profile. Think you might have better luck when your divorced and get a shave. Hang in there. Don't sound like all that bad guy to me. Color shirt shot smileing would make a better lead photo.

Hey I am retired I make my own time.

I might be tempted to tell you to prove that one AB. (giggle)

Sorry I do not play with guys who are young enough to be my children. They can cut their teeth on the gals their own age.