In a relationship there are a lot of times I can just agree to disagree or compromise to make it workable for both sides. If it is something I consider a deal breaker then I don't see it so much as giving up as facing facts. You can't make anyone do something they don't want to do. Somethings are just intolerable. Then I feel like I have the right and obligation to stick up for myself. Sometimes it is just being merciful to end a relationship that makes both sides miserable.

Jazz,
The resolution you and your family worked out doesn't surprise me. I can't say I am truely satisfied that he is not banned from the house but with everyone aware of his activities I hope you and your other family members are safe. I don't feel like you are from the repetative nature of these violations but my opinion doesn't count.
Sounds like your Mom believes you and at least one sister which I would be grateful for. It would be unfair to tear the family apart over this creep. Unfortuneately many times women are consider accomplicaces in this kind of situation which seems so unfair but I am sure your sister is still somewhat in shock and denial. Hopeful she will figure him out and kick this creep to the curb.
There is nothing innocent in what he was trying to do. Now that he knows you told on him and he somewhat got away with this dispicable behavior it is likely he will feel emboldend so I would be very cautious around him. Definitely put a lock on your door and keep it locked when you are in or out of it. Don't let your guard down after a little time goes by. These guys spend years cultivateing situations where they can peep on people. Age has very little to do with it either; a beautiful younger sister, a mother, or a young neice or nephew.
I apologize if wanting to rip his jewels off frightens you. I think it is just frusteration that creeps like this so often get little or no true punishment for this creepy behavior. They feel safe and women always have to look over their shoulder.
Hopefully it is a lesson to all young women to be aware.
You strike me as smart and sweet and I hope this doesn't rock your world too much. Keep you in my prayers.

Hey if you don't like the playground rules; don't play. If someone wants to be deceptive requireing a picture is not going to change anything. Everyone here are adults so the whole worrying about some young girl's safety doesn't wash. Whenever I see anyone come in trying to "demand" pictures kind of makes the Red Flags start popping up as too agressive. Communication is voluntary at whatever pace feels comfortable for the member. Not everyone here is really willing to be approached by anyone who sees them.

Not my thing but I am back from a time guys wearing earrings was being dareing.

If the OP is are there places and adult can go, relax, and have a little fun with out obnoxious teenagers and 20 somthing wanna be grown ups can't say I know where it is.

Something inexpensive to fill the empty hours.

Mornin....not a mornin person...havn't even found my glasses yet.

THere is nothing noble about someone finally abandoning a spouse for a mistress. It is the absolute expression of selfishness. That they have no regret makes them souless.

I would say yes because he would probably be traditional like myself and when it gets down to serious stuff the bling doesn't matter.

Add some pics, be a little more serious, explain your interests rather than just put a list up. Try again Rome was not built in a day.

Because good % of the time if you try to tell someone why you don't like them they either deny it, argue about it, cry over it, or say they will change which you prety much know they won't do.

Honey just call it a slip and stop again. Want to keep ya around.

Lame.

I would be favorably impressed that he had common sense to be careful. To me that is love made visable.

I have thought about this subject often over the years. What makes it difficult is there are so many versions of what people consider spanking. And as wide a spectrum of ages for which it is applied.

For me spanking is a simple form of relatively mild consequence to be applied soley to the buttocks as an open hand slap.

I don't think a weapon should be used because it is just to easy to harm a child by accident. One of my biggest opossitions to corporal punishments being allowed in public schools. I often felt my spankings hurt my hand more than my kid's behinds. Not that it was something they found pleasant but was swift and just.

When it is not over used. or used just to satisfy the frusteration or anger of the person giving the spanking it is effective. It should not terrorize, injure, or humiliate the person being spanked. I also do not agree that it teaches children to hit or be out of control because at least when I spanked it was often done after taking them to a segregated area.

I do believe that many times it is the parents that need to be spanked for poor parenting. An over tired, sick, stressed, hungry, sunburned child in a dirty diaper that is encouraged to show off or perform beyond their skill level can hardly be faulted for poor behavior. Especially when they are mimicing bad behavior of their parents, older siblings, coaches, teachers and behavior that they seen constantly on TV. Chilren learn what they live.

I often found catching my kids being good and praise worked much better than disciplene. While my kids could pretty clearly tell you what they would get spanked for I was never a big proponent of useing guilt's or or lectures that younger children really don't understand. It is my belief if you get a child on the right path as a preschooler elementary age child spankings should not be needed much past then.

Just for the record if I caught my boyfriend trying to video tape my little sister or climb in her bed I would get him alone somewhere and rip his balls off!!!

What a nice thing to do; glad she liked them. It is really the little things that a guy does when they don't have to. You might want to remember what kind you gave her so you can remember for a future anniversary.

Jazz You don't say how much older your Sister is than you or if anybody else lives in the home but if this guy has been given the run of the house, is getting into your bed with you, walking in on you, even recording you in your own room without your knowledge then I have to say that I am glad she is not my sister.

I think instead of calling a sister at work while he sets in the kitchen, which IMHO he has no business even being there when she is not, I would be calling the Police and a womens shelter to come get me, and whatever I could carry out of the HOUSE. I say house because the way you are being abused it is obviously not your home.

I feel really bad for you but I think you need to face facts and get out of that situation and fast. I really think you would be safer living in a college dorm or with room-mates than two adults who don't respect your boundries.

Considering how devious this creep is he could get you "messed up" and rape you even make you pregnant.

I would assume I was pregnant until I found out otherwise. The first tremester is just as important as the later ones to having a healthy pregnancy and baby. The Planned Parenthood suggestion is a good idea if you need some help. Good luck and have a healthy baby.

Without the camera you are going to have a hard time convinceing your sister her boyfriend is a louse. I would at least tell her so she has a heads up.

Good likelyhood this creep is recording her without her permission. Which is a crime. Or recording you with a less obvious camera stashed elsewhere. They can be very tiny.

I would call the police non-emergency number and discuss what has happened. Good chance this is not the first time this guy has been a peeping tom. Or that video voyurism is his only crime. I would be concerned about identity theft or possibly sexual assault. I woudn't let this guy within 100 yards of me.