My Aunt.

Surprised a guy would object to that. Probably one of the main causes of "morning delight" sex. lol

Interesting thread.

I have read the list several times and the thought that comes to mind is if the OP thought how some of those standards would apply to her if the tables were reversed the insight might bring some flexibility.

IMHO having standards are important and really fair because how can someone know what you need and want if you never give them and idea. It seems cruel to expect some one to bend fold and mutilate themselves trying to be what they never could be.

The reality is in a day to day relationship the likelyhood of having a consistently on target response is not a good bet. Sometimes you can't be funny, sexy, or "tuned in" on demand. Relationships kind of ebbing and flowing around what happens to come along with real life is pretty predictable.

I like to think youth makes one more idealistic but then I tend to be very idealistic and I don't consider myself young.

Wanting to feel love and passion seems normal and quite possible in a healthy relationship.

Yes; if you garden, lug groceries, scrub vehicals in summer heat; clean house, bath/diaper/spoon feed elders, cook from scratch, do lots of laundry, ect. yea you get hot and sweaty and "wet" and it is not all just water. lol So much for the glamor of retirement.

What do you think a potential date has the right to know about your personal sitiuation? Finacial, health, personal facts about family members, your values, typical day?

My son, like myself, was allergic to milk but I bought two gallons every week just to be sure no one would think I would deprive him of anything. lol Silly I know but then I was so deleriously happy I didn't want to do anything that might break the magical feeling. The neices and nephews loved it because with so much un-needed milk I was frequently making home-made ice-cream. lol

Someone who loves me as much as I love them.

I wonder how people believe some of the baloney that they pass on the computer.

Service member soliciting businesses for freebies would be highly frowned upon by chain of command and I just can't see anyone wanting that kind of rath coming down on their head.

I agree that no starbucks employee would be stupid enough to respond to that sort of written request in that fashion. With jobs as difficult to find as they are it would be career suicide.

No offense to the OP but repeating such slander doesn't sound like a really smart thing to do. Unless of course he is in fact personally involved and posses such documents.

A friend of mine does this on cruize ships and I think it soujds so fun. I don't know how accurate it is. I wonder what font you select on the computer says about you?

You could set a date to get married and email her you changed your mind at the last minute like that waco basketball player. Course he paid her a boat load of money for the ditch.

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Jimi Hendrix was baked out of his mind most of the time and he made his guitar make some weird sounds ( for the time anyway ) and now he's considered a genius.


Makes me wonder what could have been possible had he been sober. Not unlike many other's who died from drug abuse. Such a waste. Really sad.

You only have the level of respect and value that you give yourself. This guy is a liar and a cheat and does not deserve for you to risk your health and dignity getting within 1000 yards of you. He has forfitted his choice as wheather to be with you or someone else past, present, or future when he betrayed you. He doesn't have and Ex he has you and a present relationship and maybe other's you do not even know about. You can't fault yourself for not knowing before but you know now and need to act accordingly in your own best interest. Sorry if it hurts but it will hurt a lot more if you let it continue.

HOG-WASH!

Well if you can arrange it a 30 year older version of you Darlin!

She is talking about neighbors that call the cops on you continuosly until you move away,because you dont attend the church they do


That is a whole different story.

I would then become very serious about documenting how often they have made unsubstanciated calls by talking to the public services officer and getting copies of all calls made to your residence and the facts documented.

Believe me judges take very seriously waste of public services.

If you happen to be privey to other neighbors or prior tenants if you recently purchased or rent your home; information you can get from the landlord ot county property tax records; so much the better.

If you have any other proof like any written material, or invitations, or phone messages, or repeated visits ( you have a right to put up security cameras that can also be helpful) and ask for sworn statements from any witnesses you might have.

Then look up your fair houseing office and let them council you about your rights. Oppressive religious pressure that creates a hostile invironment is a crime; even in Utah.

The Utah bar association can direct you to and attorney to represent you to get a cease and desist order or even file discrimination charges against and individual and the church if he is acting in a capacity of a church representative.

If someone is stupid enough to harrass you because of their religious priciples they are setting themself up for a civil lawsuit and you could end up bankrupting them. Probably won't get their home but you will certainly end up with enough to live anywhere you want and they will have to pay the lawyers.

Yea like a pretty, young, single, female needs to show attitude to the very people she might desperately want to come to her rescue in a hurry if some aggressive jerk of a neighbor or stranger trys to assualt her or rip her off.

While I understand the desire to roll your own, definitely less cost and chemicals, I would think it is not a great leap to assume that someone, especially and older conservative neighbor might percieve that as "Druggie" behavior and something to be concerned about.

As a homeowner if you wait until your neighborhood is over run with drug users it can be years of living in fear and tanked property values. Values that may be the only asset they have for their care when necessitated.

Since I don't see confronting a younger drug user (male or female) as a safe option I think asking a police officer to check things out is a smart idea.

Perhaps it is my experience of having moved all over the country; and usually developeing warm and friendly relationships, by introduceing myself to my neighbors and making them feel at home with me I would recommend it. Give yourself some time to "cool off hurt feelings" but the idea of conquering with kindness is a good one.

While it might feel like and embarrassing intrusion of your privacy now you are really much safer as a single home owner having a "nosey" neighbor making sure you are "safe" and hopefully feeling they are doing the right thing calling the cops if they think you are getting "ripped off". Or including you in fun things like holidays which can be pretty lonely at times for singles. Or; and we hope this never happens to you, that you suffer something devistateing like mouth or lung cancer and need a supportive neighbor.

Why I don't want to be a stoner or date a stoner.

Smokeing anything is not healthy. Human tissue and the respiratory system is not designed to tolerate breathing anything burning. Handeling anything burning will eventually lead to being burned; your fingers, your lips, hair, body not to mention your clothing.

While the body of medical evidence is still out on how extensive it damages the brain and other vital organs I will not be convinced that consumeing something that distorts mental capacity, changes appetite, affects co-ordination, affects sleep, and makes people passive and submissive, dulls reflectes, gives very little relief for pain, and suppresses the bodies ability to vomit up what it does not tolerate is a good thing. For people wanting to ammend various bodily functions I think there are safer, more researched, and less expensive forms of relief.

Since I see a distinct increase between the number of persons with learning and thinking disabilities, depression, prematureity, children with birth defects,sids, and generally out of control behavior, and later in life but earlier than the norm dementia and nervous system disorders I see a causitive element to it's use.

It is illegal in most settings and you get caught it is going to be a problem. Because it is illegal you much deal with crimals to get. I value my freedom and saftey and I don't want to invite those kind of problems in my life.

There is enough predjudice in the world for things I can't change to self inflict one with one I don't have to have. Stoner's sometimes know that people reject them but the worst losses are the losses you never even know you are missing out on. Like customer's, friendships, houseing, credit, scholarships, and opportunities that people just won't offer you because they see the choice you make as undesireable. There is a reason Stoner's end up only having stoner's as friends. They are excluded by the majority of people.

I see pot as a bad economic investment. You have virtually nothing to show for what you spend; nor can you distintively remember anything you do while useing it. It doesn't develope any marketable skill. Doesn't make you better looking. Actually makes you stink, your skin age, and mental faculties dull. It can reduce your productivity. And it is just expensive. Even if you grow your own. Not to mention legal expenses or damages to property if you mess up under the influence.

Useing pot takes a person out of control of there own life. While some may argue that a little escapeism is a good thing I want to choose when, how long, and where I escape to and that is not possible to any seriously predictable way. Except that sooner or later it is going to take you out of things you may really want to be a part of.

I am sure there are other reasons but this is food for thought.

After hanging on line here as much as I have I have seen quite a few of your posts and personally think you are and I mean this in and entirely positive way a nice guy. Your are caring, supportive, patient, generous, funny, smart, self depricateing, stable, and tolerant. You are also very predictable. You listen when most other people would not bother. You want to be a friend and want to be needed and wanted. While for a nice woman that is wonderful but for a not so nice woman that paints a really big bullseye right on the center of your chest that says "Screw ME Over". I think even though you might think you are doing the picking; they are picking you.

I don't think you do it intentionally but my guess is you just don't operate the way a manipulator does and really can't see it, or excuse it, or actually think it is seductive. Whatever the reason you repeat these choices so you need to look with in and see what you think makes you do it.

I do have to agree none of what you seem to be seems to warrant the abuse of cheating but cheating is not about what you are or are not it is about the cheater's fears and self loathing for themself and sometimes their parent's and has very little to do with you except it is easy to get it by you. Cheater's repeat what works. I guarantee you if you look at what is consistent in a cheater's life it will be someone very much like you. A nice guy that doesn't give up easily. Probably why you had so many longer relationships.

Maybe my ideas on this are all just feeling empathy and not wanting to kick someone when they are down but you asked the question and this is the answer that comes to mind. .

Glad things are going better.