If you have been watching this mother and child struggle for so long why are you just now trying to figure out how to help?

No offense but has this mother actually ask you to raise funds for this child?

Has she ask you to tell his personal medical history on the internet?

Do you realize if she is getting public assistance your efforts could, if not done properly through a sophisticated structured trust, can actually disrupt his benifits? Maybe make it impossible to get his medications. That if you give her money and it is not handled through a tax exempt non-profit she has to pay taxes on it?

IMHO it is all well and good to care about people but public pity and violateing someone's privacy; especially for a pre-adolecent child seems particularly selfish, self grandizing, and attention seeking.

Know what you mean about likeing variety. My Dad has gotten a little better about what he will eat but it could be wider. I finally just started making what I want and he doesn't want it he can make himself a pb&j sandwich. One of my treats ia a small bag of shrimp I keep in the freezer. He won't touch it but it gives me a little variety on salads or in pasta.

I guess what "they" want is always what counts. Kid can't catch a break. Seems like it is getting worse for kids instead of better.

As a single Mother I made it clear to anyone who came into my life that I was a Mother and if they wanted to be important with me then they had to be ready to co-parent as well as be my mate.

That said I do think that many people go way over board at letting their children completely dominate their whole life; their entire identity, and every relationship they have includeing being even remotely fair to themselves.

It is no favor to the child as it doesn't let them mature out of the infantile center of the universe view. They don't learn to share or respect their parents as people and are terrible at relationships. They have to live the things we want them to learn and one of them is they do not always come first or get what they want as and entitlement.

Families are a give and take relationship for everyone involved. True I am not suggesting neglect necessary care for a date or even spouse but the best gift you can give your child is two happy parents not one or two myrters.

Just because someone is older or family doesn't give them license to use their mouths as a hachet on your feelings.

If they talk to you in such a fashion stop going around. Why be their free maid if they have no respect for you. Family goes both ways.

As far as the cysts I would go to Planned Parenthood and ask for their recommendation and assistance for OBGYN care. I would also ask for a referrral for an endocrinologist to do a comprehensive screening and not the lower level that is usual for physicals. If thyroid problems run in your family and you have accute chronic pain it is good odds that you need care and can have a good outcome with treatment.

Having thyroid problems can make you feel depressed. Really tough when you live it innergenerationally in a family like is common for families with genetic problems like thyroid issues.

If your personality is like your text then you might want to tone it down a little. There is the hard sell and the soft sell. Enthusiasm and upbeat is great but if a gal feels like they have been caught in a jet downdraft they are not going to feel real comfortable. On line you can say you are a nice guy all day long but it you make women nervous that you are overly aggressive you will be skipped. I would add more pictures. You are a pretty baby so might want to include something a little humanizeing.

Since flu was a contributing factor in my spouses death I take it very seriously. Statistics don't mean anything until it lands on your life.

While telling people to wash there hands sounds really simple the average person does such a pitiful job that it is pretty sad. If everyone would wash their hands before meals and when they transition from locations; example the mall to home or work to the gym we could cut the spread a lot.

That and many of us are so casual about touching every possible surface and touching our face especially our eyes and mouth.

The last and really very important are the people who know they are sick but won't STAY THE HELL HOME! Coming to work obviously ill should be grounds for termination. The loss to families in medical expenses and lost wages and productivity is a serious issue.

The ones I would like to have explained are the third degree burns I recieved as a toddler and a ward of the state. The others I know about.

You are young with big responsibilities that many women would not want to take on. I think few women really believe that another woman is going to stay in the background as their child/grandchild is being raised by someone else; especially another woman.

Part of your difficulty in dating may be the fact that you smoke. Many parents don't see that as in the best interest of children.

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Rude and stupid for jumping on you for looking. After all this is and open site. If they don't like it too bad.

Afterall them knowing you are looking is half the fun of looking. Drives the vain ones crazy wondering what people think of them.

Sometimes death is merciful. I wouldn't agonize over it unless it is letting you let another pain go.

With a broken spine it would had an agonizing death eventually. By the time you got to it it was already most likely in shock and probably didn't even know you were a threat.

Probably a sick or injured animal if it were coming up into a habitated area. If your dog didn't get the worst of the encounter quite likely it was already been hit by a car or fallen off a dumpster.

Sorry for the tough experience but in nature life cycles and sounds like it was just the time for this one.

Just goes to prove you can't always believe what you read on the computer. Always consider the source. Oh and that list. Most of the things on their list would drive me up the wall.

Sorry to hear so many slum-lord stories.

Always pays to do and extensive pre-move in inspection and having a serious lease signed which you keep current. Considering what places rent for it pays to learn your rights even if you have to take a class which are frequently available through continueing ed.

With the curent economy I would run not walk to the nearest HUD office and find out about any and all free home buying assistance programs that exist out there. You will be very pleasantly surprised.

Or at least get on the list for Habitat For Humanity houseing. It is truely awesome especially for disabled people on permenant disability. They will even help you mediate your current houseing issues and make needed repairs to bring it up from substandard conditions.

Please be advised that there are free non profit agencies that also give special assistance in finding quality rental placements. Older dependant or and elderly adults also have special protections under Title 20.

Keep meticulous records of what your expenses are. Don't be greedy. Document your health issues. Again don't be greedy because you have to prove they are directly caused by the ladlords actions or inactions. You can not turn off fans or drying heaters or close up the house to prevent theft of your valueables. You are really better to call someone to the scene to document the home was uninhabital. It is way better if this is a public offical or officer of the court. If a social worker orders a dependent adult moved for their safety and welfare it has way more teeth than a family member.

What do I need?

I have learned how little I can "survive" with but I need to know how much it would take to actually "live". I think I know; a reciprocal relationship on a very intimate level is part of it; probably most of it, but not so immature to think that love will overcomes all.

I am so pleased to see the responses to the affirmitive. I have a multi-culture/race family and it has at times been very difficult. Subtle predjudice is always much more difficult than when you know where you stand with people. Hopefully society is catching on that people are people and cultures are not necessarily oppositional and things will get easier for everyone.

I think you might want to use photo's that come across more as smiling. These are pretty but a little serious.

Your text doesn't really tell anything about your interests. You might get some really offensive emails stateing you are up for "anything". Useing initials on your profession is probably too criptique for most people. Especially nice guys who are hoping to find a lovely lady will be leery that you are the nice young women we would like to welcome in the Mingle family.

Couple things;

I would seriously consider buying a pet healthcare policy. Shepards can chew terribly and the things they chew can really turn into some major vet bills. Also if they have hip problems it can be big bucks. They are not much good for fighting dogs compared to other breeds but they are still popular and a theft risk. I would recommend having the dog "chipped" if you haven't already. Enjoy your new pet. Much happiness.

Yea they can if you cash the check you agree to the contract printed on it.

A local newspaper got a lot of bad PR for doing that along with a reduced rate subscription. You pay the low rate thinking you have paid what they cost; because they require it for the reduced rate. Then they just keep delivering and bill you at a higher rate and then sue you if you don't pay for papers you never wanted. They target low income people and college student in parking lots. Especially in the fall when teachers are assigning homework that requires reading the newspaper. Particularly unfair for people who may not even be living at the subscription address when the collection efforts kick in.

Well certainly got everyone curious....lol.

Depends what you want but the booty call sounds pretty dangerous idea. I agree with earlier post; that concept should have been discussed before you accepted the date. While I tend to expect that it doesn't will not mean that who you are meeting won't. You might want to tell him what your plans are at least and having a discussion about dating expectations and boundries in general sounds like a good idea. Kind of a waste going a totally different direction than someone you are dating.