That could be Darlin; but not really funny.

Nor would it probably be all that productive because people who are frequently having "melt downs" are the ones who don't carry or take their medication; if they have even gotten mental health services. Now unconsumed medications in the medicine cabinet or elsewhere would be something to wonder about. I will say again if you are snooping then you know you need to exit.

If you want to know about a person pay attention to their history.
Do they have a family history. People will often rat on a relative even if they won't own up to their own problems. Parents or siblings that get loaded/hysterical are often a predictor of stress behavior coming your way.
Do they spend holidays with family? If the answer is no it is probably because have shown out often enough they are no longer welcome.
Do they have any life long friends? People who have a dramatic life usually have few if any long term relationships.
Are the friends they have party animals? Birds of a feather.
Are they a high school graduate? Drug, alcohol, and emotional problems are much more common in non-graduates.
Do they not have a job? Or a choppy job history? Do they work better with kids they can dominate or where there is little skill or supervision needed? Do they have a high stress job?
How long have they lived at their current address? If someone hops from residence to residence it is quite likely they are miserable to be around once the initial honeyingmoon period wears off. If they are in and out of parents or grandparents often it is probably because they have been "kicked out".
Do they know the liquor store people by name or they seem to know them chances are they are "regulars" even if they are currently sober.
Look at their car. Is it beat up? Are the shocks shot? Tires bare? Hubcaps missing. Someone who drives angry usually has self control issues. If their car has been vandalized it may be retalitory damage.
What about the interior of the house? Are their broken windows, picture frames, dishes, holes in doors? Is it a wreck or overly clean? Rage disorders, obsessive compulsive behavior, and depression are usually obvious in a person's living environment.
Do their children live with their ex or grandparents? Do those family members seem to be in charge? If they are it may be out of necessity rather choice.
How do they treat people in general? If they are sweety sweet with you but vicious to co-workers, neighbors, service personel you can bet they will get around to you.
Are parents or friends overly eager to match you up? Make their problem your problem?

I catch you snooping in my purse, for any reason, then you better be ready for me to drop you like a hot potatoe. Not only is that and issue of privacy it is a matter of dignity. If you are so unsure of the person you are dating that you have to snoop then you should follow your gut intinct and move on.

This is just another thought.

Your Mom is ageing and realize that the real world is much harsher for older single women than it is for young ones with all kinds of enthusiasm for the idea. Time slips by much faster than you think and with age you have even more competion.

She knows you better than you might think. Your personality and some of your favorites; even your flaws and probably takes that all into account when considering someone. Least as a loving Mother I would.

About the whole Catholic thing. Religious experimentation is a privelege of youthful maturity. She gets that you going another direction. It is possible she is actually matching you with someone who gets it also. I seriously doubt you are the only Catholic that has chosen a different path. However what she also gets is you are born a Catholic and in times of stress; things like marriage, child birth, looseing a parent sometimes your faith beleifs are all you have to get through. Maybe she thinks it might not be such a bad idea to keep some of the bridges intact. Of course you have to make your own choices; she is giving you choices. Granted they are also her choices but that is a parent's job. Since you seem like a fairly functional person evidently she has done something right guideing you.

The whole idea of trying to embarrass your Mother out of trying to match you up is probably a lost cause. If you say she is a drama queen maybe you are just "entertaining" her by trying to one up her. Wouldn't be the first Mother Daughter team to compete. Something you might win here and there but in the long run you know you win and so does she. There is something to be said for giving and old broad a little "grace". Some day you will be proud of yourself for it.

Either way go have a fun family holiday. Chances are the guy is actually a "good sport" and it will be a family friend who can help you keep and eye on the folks when the time comes. The folks that suggest you might actually have fun or add some new friends is right.

Hey some nice photo's can't hurt. I can think of about 2.3 million foster kids that would die to have a parent that cares enough to chip into their future.

P.S. She probably knows you are on line. These days parents are a lot more computer savey than they always tell their adult children.

Hey welcome to the best half of life. Don't count the years make the years count! Watch it the double nickle sneaks up quick. lol

Sounds exciting. Best Wishes.

Awesome!!! Pass some of that Good Luck around !!!.

Well I admire you for thinking it through. Hopefully soon they will be able to make some headway on your medical issues. I will keep you in good thoughts. I was adopted by not nearly as wonderful parents as asked for you. Will keep all of you in my prayers.

Hey Go Get EM Kiddo! Be safe and learn a lot. Everyone is sending best wishes.

Welcome to the site. True it is a mixed preference group but you won't catch any more greif than anybody else that is new. You can block all men if you like but you will miss out on some interesting people; maybe even some nice friends. They are even nice to and old broad like me. lol

I have had those thoughts that if I had been a better person but I know my mate would have kicked my behind for thinking that. I can say this because we talked about our son's illness being punishment.

He would have laughed and said he was the punishment then looked over the top of his glasses, put his hands behind his back, and asked me who gave me life and death power. Did I get to choose who lives or dies is sick or well. He would remind me that being human was the deal. Sometimes we will screw up and others hopfully have our act together but being perfect, or imperfect, didn't make him the prize. He didn't want to live up to that. Then he would ask me if the "big guy" didn't forgive us for our sins?

It ought to work. Welcome to Mingle.

Someone who I kind of fell into being a surogate daughter to about seven years ago.

Numb about now. The Princess is fading and there doesn't seem to be a thing I can do about it.

I would hope if my friend saw my man doing something so evil to cheat on me while I was pregnant or not that she would tell me.

Yea it would be nice if it was a private place where I would at least have a chance of recovering with a shread of dignity.

It would also be nice to have some proof. It is always her choice if she uses it. As a mother of three she should be able to hang this jerk out to dry for support and child support.

It is possible she knows but on the outside chance she doesn't the posters that are suggestiong that he could expose her and her unborn child to serious harm are right.

You say he tells he is married so it is not like the women who see him don't ask for the misery they are getting. Sad part of it this turkey plays it any number of ways.

Probably that I have really high expectations of myself when it comes to how I treat them ( I try to act like a lady and expect them to be a gentleman), often giving too much latitude for selfish behavior until I get fed up and then just walk away in disgust..

I am sure part of it was being blessed earlier with a spouse who really had his act together and was an exceptionally smart,affluent, considerate, fair, and loving person that could care less if I did or didn't make a fat check or was still built like a beauty contendar. Now I don't want to settle for some mediocre guy who has and attitude that I should get down on my knees for the pleasure of listening to him complain, sleep, or let his people or pets run all over what I have worked a lifetime for. Silly me see that making myself a fool and I won't do it. Not even for some cheap imitaion of love.

I can not really speak to having problems with severe cramps or bleeding.

I did have a tubal litigation and I had absolutely no complications from it.

What I did have was a tremendous relief from knowing I would never again have to go through the agony of multiple failed pregnancies. Or the fear of having another child that would compound the very difficult life I have had dealing with chronic pain related to acute arthritis and depression. When I knew I was free to take the medications that I and my Doctors felt I needed without jeapordizing and unborn child or a a dependent child I was greatly relieved and have never regreted the decision.

What I do regret is making the selfish decision to have a child and adopt a child and put him through the misery that a child with a disabled Mother goes through. Being made fun of by peers, discussed with pity in the presence of teachers and various adults, being excluded from activiities and sport because of catestrophic medicial expenses, being abandoned by a father that didn't want the responsibility of a disabled spouse and child, living in fear that their sole parent might die or worse spend the balance of childhood or adult years in hospitals and them in a foster home, the rejection of women who did not want a disabled Mother in law. I could go on but you get the point.

Was I "bad" Mother for my disabilities? I don't think so. My childrens NEEDS were never neglected by myself. I did or hired someone to do the things I could not physically do when necessary. My children got a quality education and the medical care they needed. They were active in the church and scouting and various activities. They were well socialized and graduated and attended community colleges and married but that was because I was able to control my faculties and even though there were times I had to crawl into assistance offices I go the help I needed.

No offense but with rageing PMDD sympoms I can not honestly see anyone doing that. Sure Yaz or any other medication that might relieve your accute symptoms would be worth a try for your own quality of life but I can not see you satisfactorially compleateing a pregnancy much less providing for and infant and I would not chance it.

Our value as a human being and certainly as a women does not rest on the ability to concieve a pregnancy or bear a child. No God that I beleive in would demand that either. Nor would he enact any punishment for it in spiritual or physical symptoms. That is the worst kind of blackmail ministry I think I hear of outside of useing religion to condone child abuse. Sterilization only prevents conception and does not abort it.

True there are quacks out there and some people have complications but if you have your physcian checked out and have your care done in a board certified hospital or clinic facility and follow their directions to the letter there is much less risk than one unwanted pregnancy.

I would suggest that Planned Parenthood can help you find a qualified physician obtain the funding for necessary procedures with or without a spouses or your parents knowlege or permission unless they have taken guardianship over you. Highly unlikely if you are competent enough to be in college online or elsewhere.

I don't know what kind of birthcontrol you selected but I used a Progestisert years ago and had zero complications with it and it did make my periods regular. Like I said early I never had extream PMS or Pmdd symptoms outside of extreamly long periods until I started BC.

I will also add that I do believe I have been a sucessful, functioning (at least mentally), award winning home maker and employee and volunteer because I accepted the use of medication and stress counseling for my depression which in the early years was accute. It also radically reduced my sleep deprivation, accute fatigue, and somewhat my pain level.

Do what you can to stay in school. It will definitely improve your quality of life and access to care. You are aware that you can get student insurance that might be usefull in covering your surgery expenses if they are medically necessitated. And unless you are directly being given money you most likely qualify for public medical assistance and from the sounds of it Social Security disability and medicare.

My hopes, and prayers and well wishes are with you. Write if you have questions.

Bravo!

What a great idea! I doubt it is in my financial means but if I were to dream of a fun vacation a cruise with some of the really nice people from Mingle would be really high on my list. Thanks to all that are trying to make it happen. Good luck.

Will be glad to say a prayer for your friend.

And you. I have spent the last five plus years attending an elderly neighbor and it is very difficult watching what they have to go through. Iam sure your kindnesses are a great comfort for her.

There are a host of services for the elderly but the majority do take some serious financial resources. All is not bad news though and I encourage you to call your United Way Help Line and give her a list of the services.

If she is low income, which most seniors are, she can get a number of discounts on all her utilities, taxes, recreation, often her deductibles on her insurance reduced or waivered, slideing scale on memberships to comforting services like Easter Seals and YWCA heated therapy pools and senior geared exercise, adult feeding and recreation centers, assistance with installing access and heating and cooling conservation measures, home delivered meals, friend to senior daily health and welfare check in calls, even what they call in home support services to help keep her home clean, her personal hygiene up, and prepare her meals. and manage grocery shopping, bill paying, and ordering medication. It does take a lot of paperwork and making regular financial statements and most often a diligent advocate to catch when the system trips up but she is not alone in this and neither are you. Mass Transit has well trained handicapped accessible transportation for someone in her condition from door to door for a nominal fee. Much cheaper than gas, parking fees, or alternatives like a cab. They are also much more comfortable than the average private vehical which can be excruciateing twisting to get in and out of with a painful back. While I realize she has her faculty's I still recommend the Alheimer Society Caregiver trainings and support groups for Caregivers/families/& friends as the most helpful to access resources and curent information.

Hopefully some of this is useful information for you. I will be glad to answer whatever specific questions I can since I have had a great deal of experience but mostly I want you to know you are appreciated and cared for also. Thank you so much for being one of God's Angels on Earth. HUG!