WOW! Great News! Have your very best Birthday ever !!!!!!!! If it hot there come on down to Sacramento and will take you Leatherby's for ice-cream nervania.

Hey try any that appeal to you and have fun with it.

But as pretty as you are already I would not worry about it. People hardly look now days it is so common for people to just get out and live while going through chemo.

I would however make a real effort not to do anything that is miserably uncomfortable just for appearances or might damage your tender scalp and make regrowing your hair after you stomp this nasty Cancer bug. Use sun protection and if you go with the bandana idea you might want to wash the sizing/softener out of it so the chemicals don't cause a skin allergy.

Will keep you on my prayer list.......

I love looking at all kinds of art.

I do think addiction and truely loving someone are closely related but if it is a healthy relationship it doesn't hurt; well except when you have and extended seperation.

If you are in a relationship that feels like an addiction I think it is more about your personal problems than the person you think you love.

If someone is chatting in the forums and does not have the perfect grammer, spelling, punctuation so what this isn't court, the legislature, a medical record, or some life altering situation for the world it is JUST conversation. Yesh!

Yes most of us have had the benifit of a quality education and probably could make a better presentation. If not I don't buy that makes anyone inferior. IMHO Those who think they are somehow entitle to only be spoken to by fully literate, highly educated peers who communicate at a certain level are so not what education is about, I feel like they deserve to be alone.

On a profile I would try for a spell check just so I would have a better chance of not misrepresenting what I want to say but again this isn't that big a deal. Maybe they are trying to be funny or just distracted. At least they are here and participateing.

I would much rather recieve a personal note that is friendly and tells me something about the author and our potential together than be anal about technical stuff. The one exception is someone who is vulgar or has to use profanity. But that is what the delete/block button is for.

If you want to have a honest relationship with someone doesn't that require being honest about the feelings you have?

Telling someone you love them is relative to how both of you define love.

Unfortuneately the word is pretty generic and means many different things to people. Seems wise to me to give a relationship enough time to know how the person you have feelings for defines it?

What would seem more important is do you know how the person will react to you having such serious feelings?

Just because you have a feeling doesn't require that you share it.

Don't know but some possible reasons could be...

I think women wear heels because of the height and the perception that they are sexy.

While rythm is good it is hard to sing along with.

Authors are cool but I think it makes women nervous to wonder if their personal life will end up in a book.

IMHO the whole baloney about having low self esteem is just a bunch of psycho-babble that a lot of people have fallen into because it is the in vogue catch all for peoples problems.

I don't know either of the parties involved but sounds to me like you did the right thing dumping a guy who

1) Sounds overly focused on himself and his identity as the Pretty one. I don't think your instincts about his self view would be so negative if it didn't have some basis in fact.

2) Appears to have very shallow values if in fact he surrounds himself with only beautiful people. That just isn't statisticly likely naturally. If you pick people for their personality and values just stands to reason some are going to rather ordinary looking.

3) Must be pretty dominering if you consistently felt you had to squash your (happy) goofy personality to be around him from the start.

4) Sounds like a real creep to be hitting up your friends to betray your confidences. I credit your friends for telling you but a real freind would tell the guy nothing and to get lost. That they even brought this "news" to you makes me wonder why they were being friendly so fast.

5) Sounds like he has some real image issues of his own if he is going around to your friends trying to make you the social outcast for dumping dear darling him for no reason. That is damage control.

6) Sounds like a pig, or actually is gay also, hitting on your friends immediately. Straight Guys that can have anyone don't have to go after your friends for validation.

7)Sounds like a dramatic control freak that can't take no for an answer. If this behavior continues, document it, and get a restraining order. A guy does not have to be ugly to be dangerous.

All in all I really think you should give yourself pat on the back. Instinctively you gave this guy the heave-hoe when you really hadn't formalized why you didn't like him. The people who have real problems to worry about are the ones who hang onto a relationship that just doesn't "feel right" for some neuroti need to have someone.

You sound like and empathetic person who doesn't want to hurt peoples feelings for and undefined lack of chemistry but you are not obligated to continue to date someone who you don't like.

I would take a little more time on who you call your boyfriend in the future until you know for sure how you feel about them. Dateing is a process of getting to know people and it is not and overnight thing that requires and instant commitment even if the "Chemistry" os good in the beginning for one or both sides.

Good Luck. Go out and be yourself and if someone comes along that likes you for you and vice versa have fun with it.

You do NOT need to "punish" yourself and have some public mourning period for breaking off a relationship that was not working for you.

I only wonder how things started out? If a spouse says " come live with/off of me and be a stay at home Spouse/Caregver; concieves two kids and then decides that they don't like the arrangement; I don't see how getting the divorce gives them permission to change the committment just because they don't want to live together afterall; and they do want the children to live with them 50% of the time. If the Caregiver is still a full time Caregiver and has to maintain a family home wheather they are with you or not as the Provider. The old "bait and switch" is a ***** when the courts get involved and pretend that they make parents keep their implied promises to their kids that they have a family and a home.

Would seem wiser to make sure you do not agree to anything you would not want to abide is circumstances change. Since most women know the gneral "impossibility" of maintaining both roles of full time homemaker and career woman without extensive help I think fewer would be so eager to be a Homaker if they thought they would not have the option to stay at home. Fortuneately Caregiver parents still retain some dignity and stature for being fulltime nurturers; at least for children of tender years. True this is predominently been women but I am seeing more excuse the term that is preducicial I think Mr. Mom's.

Personally I am sick of seeing children pay the price of Parents that cannot keep their vows or care about the rights of their children. Growing up living out of a suitcase bites. The only thing worse is living in poverty which is usually the result to some level on both sides because living solo; especially supporting a child between two households is EXPENSIVE.

People are really lucky that the tax payers, who actually support the courts while litigants support their lawyers, are not fed up and force parents that want to divorce to support the children in a seperate "Nurshery domicile" that they both have to pay for (or got to jail) and provide the child's needs in but can not bring outside parties into or claim as their own. With that stability it would be interesting to see how children would fair since I don't think it has ever been a big need of children to be chroniclly uprooted.

Lucky Bird to have such a sweet human Mommy. Sorry for your pain. Keeping you in my prayers Mingle sista.

This is someone to "talk" to that isn't 75 and above which is inclusive of most of my neighbors. On the outside chance that I can meet a decent guy so much the better. Know truth be told there is probably several practically under my nose but seems at a certain age single is synomous with invisable.

Dang Krup I thought you loved only me...........lol.

I don't think I have ever really tried to tan but enjoying swimming, fishing, and gardening it is not hard to catch the rays and tan. Now if I could figure out a way to have clothes I could tan through evenly would be awesome.

I have never tried the tanning beds so can't say wheather I would like it or not. Kind of close quarters, especially for what seems basiclly like putting your fingers into a toaster.

When I am home alone I like to wear this hand made lace white vintage camisole cut-work dress that so thin you could probably read your computer screen through it but it is sentimental to me and makes me feel feminine and cool when Sacramento starts to sizzle.

I f Misty has Kojack and Sage for friend's then she must be a pretty special friend. Nice when folks keep in touch. Miss some of my old friends for sure now I am on the left side so to speak from my old stompin ground.

Stone Mountain Park is so much fun. That is a great first date! Another fun date is for ice-cream sundae. How can you not be in a good mood and relax? Brain freeze makes people slow down and chat or make really funny faces. lol

Personally I think it is a kindness to tell people what your boundries are in the selection process. Why waste either person's time/feelings? If they so choose to take that as a put down then I feel like that is their problem. Hopefully with a little life experience we learn a about ourselves to know what makes us happy and what we have to offer to make someone else happy. Also what will make us miserable fast and what we should avoid. The sure thing to doom a relationship is trying to change another person or have them trying to change you.

Little bit of my Honey would be my favorite breakfast. Then Cracker Barrel Biscuts and Cheese Omlet.

Little bit of my Honey would be my favorite breakfast. Then Cracker Barrel Biscuts and Cheese Omlet.

Caffine Sugar Free Dr Pepper. Getting harder and harder to find.