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Get dressed up

Find a sitter

Buy gas

Chance getting mugged

Deal with parking

Freeze your butt off or be in the rain

Pay cover charges

Try to yell over the music

Deal with other drunk patrons

Get your purse/wallet swiped

Have to stand in line to go to the bathroom

Breath second hand smoke

Pay for a drink of water

Having your boss showing up or
Your Ex, or your parents.

Being able to show pictures and poems you like

Have a delete key if they are being rude.

Check out what they are talking about on a search engine to support the conversation

Sit with your feet up in your favorite chair

Talk while munching out

Not have to drive home when you are tired

Be introduced to someone by a total stranger

Shave

Meet someone totally different social background

Wish them Sweet Dreams

You can let the pets in and out

Get your laundry done

Watch your favorite TV Show

Get to know someone in your comfy clothes

Ask personal questions in "private"

Get to know someone with out catching their cold

"Date" around your work schedule

Take notes about what they tell you

Get a map and or pictures of where they live

Have friends and family see what they are like without meeting them

Use emotion icons to emphasize your feelings

Be able to sneeze, cough, yawn ect. with out bothering anyone

Have other people ask questions to help keep the conversations

Take a phone call in privacy

I have always wondered why they require pets to be on a leash/controlled but not a child? Kind of makes you wonder where peoples priorities are. No wonder so many children go missing or are abused.

In the military stores you control your child; specificlly hold them, put them in a cart, or hold their hand or they make you leave so shopping in the civilian world was quite a shock.

I have gotten where there are some resturants and stores where I won't shop because I refuse to pay for the waste they make of the inventory and add to my purchases.

If I have to pay for my meal first I will call for a manager and demand a refund or refuse to pay if it goes too far. I'm not going to pay for my meal if they continue to allow a kid/parent to scream his lungs out or change their diaper where I am trying to enjoy my meal.

I can't figure out why anyone in there right mind can't figure out if you let a child scream and throw a tantrum and you give into them they are going to do it anytime they want to control a situation but I see it all the time. And I don't understand why because all you have to do is make a couple of fast trips to the bathroom and even a very young child will know who is in charge. I think parents now days are scared of their kids.

Tall, dark, handsome, and a heartbreaker smile you keep posting in the forums you will be plenty busy. Hang in there.

Sure guy you have a smile that rocks! lol But then I found out you were taken and it faded to friendship.

No NO WAY am I saying that. I said for someone to read a profile, especially half way, and draw that conclusion and harrass anyone is wrong. Even if they think cheating is going on, which is against my values, they don't have the right to get self righteous and harrass anyone in there private email about something they don't know enough to speak on.

Like I said I didn't read your profile and I wasn't addressing that issue one way or another.

One thing I will say is that I watch the threads a lot and I don't remember you trying to carry on with anyone so why some jerk would pick on you seems unwarranted and more his problem than anyones. Like I said tell him to Kiss Your Grits.

Covers the basics. Welcome to the playpen.

In no way do I condone cheating in my personal relationships but for someone to read a profile, draw a conclusion, then write someone and harrass them is truely low down. Who died and made them God.

If I had a significant other I would NOT drop my profile. I would most likely change the content eventually because mine says what I want in a man as a partner but that is just me.

I didn't read your profile but if you don't put it in the Rate my Profile forum I would politely, or maybe not so politely, tell them to Kiss My Grits.

I do believe many people don't read profiles and just skim the picture and maybe the highlights. I sometimes wonder if they even do that.

Music is healing in so many ways.

I don't lie about being a parent being perfect happiness but I don't think I always tell people how hard it is. What it takes out of you.

Just for the sake of being the devils advocate so to speak maybe this story has another side like...

The OP needs to figure out what he really wants. Is it to chronically complain about the spouse he picked and divorced (but has not abandon her right to see and know how her kids are even though he openly admidts he makes it difficult until he couldn't get it done around the holidays. Or get his act together and not only be an honest custodial Dad; but a role model for his kids by getting off public assistance and having excuses.

If the non-custodial mother is as bad as he professes just because she went to New York as a good parent he would have pursued the charges and quite likely terminated her minimal rights but he didn't.

There is no way he had to have the boyfriend or the Ex wife stay in his home or provide their needs. If they were there at meal time he could have cooked his child's meal serve it to them and let the "visitors" wait in the other room. When the kids went to bed he could have told them to step to the curb. That he is behind the eightball chronically doesn't sound like her fault.

He was the one to insist that he was to be paid by check rather than a cash gift. Probably so he could make a point (perhaps that it was not legitimate money) but he can not cry now that it's on the books. Spite usually blows up in the face of those who spread it.

Do I think this parent is paying her fair share? We don't have her side of the story. If each of their children are collecting disability social security benifits from her, the ex-wife's, military service, Plus $69 and insurance benifits and she prepaid the kids her support so they could have a generous Christmas I am having less sympathy for him. That he convienently excludes reporting the children recieve a substantial amount and say she is only gives the additional support hurts his credibility. Just because some don't consider it money from her his stubbornness doesn't change the facts. I am sure he would feel it was a different story if it was he who had earned the benifit from his employment. It sounds like jealousy and that is not a disability. He decided to be Mr. Mom. Sorry just because he is a man he doesn't get paid for it any more than any woman does to be Mom.

I am haveing a hard time wondering why he can't make ends meet on two salaries? Why he is still having a hard time makeing ends meet and why he isn't working? Maybe he is but last he said he was a stay at home single Dad which seems like a luxery for a Dad who decided to Father four children. Most custodial single parents work. I know I did with a profoundly disabled child and useing crutches and a wheelchair most of my children's pre and teen years.

That his ex now collects disability check or earn the income he reported is none of his business if he continues to whine about not having enough to support his family but make excuses as to why he does not go to court for a modification. Seems like someone likes being a victim.

And he does not have to have and attorney to go to Family court. His CHILDREN have to have and attorney to protect THEIR best interest. I don't know as a custodial parent he would have to pay all of it or not but if he is the one wanting to go back to court I don't see him putting it on the back of the taxpayers. Evidently he has enough for the court not to consider him and indigent.

He could get his information, file his petition, and plead his case for his children. However he would have to know if his ex can prove she is now rehabilitated enough to be a stay at home Mom and wants to collect her own benifits to support the children he could end up paying her. That he doesn't seem to be very good at making things work and finding a way to have Christmas on his own without borrowing against the chilren's future childsupport doesn't say a lot for his problem solving skills. That usually doesn't impress most judges.

I do not believe it is anyones responsibility as a hostess to change my infants diaper.

Not unsanitary? You are kidding right? Fecal matter wheather it is adult or infant is NOT sanitary and if anyone thinks they can change their infant and still have clean hands is either doing a lousy job of changeing the infant or is deludeing themselves. You should ALWAYS wash your hands throughly after changing your baby for the baby's sake and everyone else.

I am dissappointed when I hear things like this.

I have noticed that many young parents have completely skipped the concept of carrying a diaper bag to meet their babies needs while dragging around extreamly young infants whereever.

As a mother I think you have every right to ask your friend to change her infant in your bathroom and dispose of the diaper in a sealed container.
In reality you will be doing her a favor because a parent who diapers in the bathroom has a much easier time potty training a child.

The likelyhood that she will be offended and consider you uptight is highly likely. Might actually end the friendship which you might want to consider if this is a close neighbor or and a dear friend who sees your home like her own.

New parents seem to think that it is such a privilege to see their offspring that you should endure turning your entire home into a toilet like many who pull the same stunt in a resturant booths or other equally obnoxious locations until their friends shun them often enough they figure it out.

Some never catch on and use the same bad parenting techniques as their child goes from toddler to teen demolishing your home everytime they come through the door. If you are not up for eating the expense of a stained bedspread, sofa, or carpet, and endureing the smell through out your home includeing where you eat, then by all means speak up.

Unless you are this woman's Mother or the Godmother to this child I don't think she will honor your advice and you have a tough choice to make about continueing the friendship. Whatever you say she is likely to take as you saying she is a bad mother. You might just want to avoid the whole situation and stop having her as a guest.

I have to say both my trips there I had a very good time. Beautiful country; even in the winter. I am not sure I would be comfortable dealing long term with having to have water hauled in. Or gas prices that have been double what we were paying. I think we could learn something from their healthcare system.

There is not that much money in the world! lol

I tend to be more of a flirt with someone I am in a relationship with and that works great for me. I find flirting with people you don't care about usually just gets you in an unpleasant situation sooner or later.

LOL I don't have a picture but probably be

"Caution Wide Load" or "Curves Ahead".

Did it ever occur to any of those hazeing people for their own entertainment is why you are not seeing more desireable people come in and joining into the community? "Flameing" some one I might expect of kids on a playground or between established friends but just because you accepted that kind of abuse diesn't mean most will.

Sorry you are having such bad luck. Since most people do tend to answer their own questions you might be on the right track about where you are meeting the people who are making you miserable.

Getting along with the opposite sex is a two way street. If you are being mature, responsible, cival, courteous, and considerate then you have the right to be treated likewise. If you can look back and see that you aren't; good clue is someone is telling you what they don't like, listen. Depends what they say.

If it is "I want to party, buy me things not needed, forget work sex me, or taking out anger that belongs to someone else well then don't buy into it move on.

If it is "Pick up after yourself, don't wake me up I have to work tomorrow, you are screwing me you have no business looking at her, you never say Thank you, you want to be ---- what about my dreams?" then maybe you need to clean up your act.

Part of getting with people you want is watching their behavior enough to know what they are like with other people before they are with you in a serious way. People don't change their basic personality. If they are rude and nasty to the waitress or janitor, complain about their parents, blow there money, dog out their stuff go through boyfriends like a loaf of bread you need to avoid them. Even if they are sweet to you means nothing that will wear off.

I swear this site eats it's young!

Yea maybe he is young and frusterated and had a run of bad luck but if someone comes in and asks a question, the same question I dare say you have all felt, maybe even posted, at one time or another is it really the time to dog on him?

Sounds to me like the step mother was concerned that the child had been spanked way too hard and she was useing a homemade "cure" to reduce the bruiseing.

Since the step mother has no familial tie to the child she shound not be touching his buttocks regardless of the reason. If the child was with the father it was so the FATHER could be the Parent not the Step-mother.

If your child has commented about this after seeing the doctor evidently he has some confusion about what boundries he is allowed.

Doesn't sound like any of them are being honored by the ex. I think I would be taking my child to a professional and trying to find out out what was or is going on.