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Sun 09/04/16 05:19 PM
Edited by sparkyae5 on Sun 09/04/16 05:18 PM
:cry:

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Sun 09/04/16 05:18 PM
Edited by sparkyae5 on Sun 09/04/16 05:21 PM
young people process info differently now however they are still

young, dumb,and can not see around corners...i guess its '' you chose

the behavior ,you chose the consequences'' as always.....

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Sun 09/04/16 08:41 AM

Yes, but it does trigger old stuff from my last relationship. I knew that would happen btw, so I was not shocked by it. I am shocked by how strong those fears & feelings can be. Totally overwhelming at times.
But I take responsibility for them, work through them. I know that if I want to be whole in a relationship, I have to, and I really want to.

So yes, but it ain't necessarily always easy.


yes its very hard to give old stuff and very painful also, like being

reborn and necessary growth.the most growth is when we have the AH HA

ourselves which releases the old and lets in the new....when we

release the past illusions there is a void that must be

filled.....great work your doing !!!!!

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Sat 09/03/16 06:59 PM


that's BS!.. were paying for this guys jollies?

at the very least you would think they would be able to steal the cable.


WTH??? I agreed with you... I don't think people in prison should get things for free that I work and pay for


I AGREE ....I GUESS WE ELECTED THE WRONG SET OF CROOKS,

PROFESSIONAL CROOKS LIKE DEMOCRATS AND REPUBLICANS TO GIVE OUR TAX

MONEY AWAY TO THE BAD GUYS AID AND COMFORT....

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Sat 09/03/16 06:11 PM

his anyone here really looking for LOVE???
because I've been here and from what I see more than half the people here ain't even looking for nobody they're just here


SOME MAYBE JUST ''PAST
TIMING'':smile: ....

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Sat 09/03/16 06:07 PM
Edited by sparkyae5 on Sat 09/03/16 06:08 PM

everyone needs love but where do find love? love has no age on it so weather you older or younger you will never know who's gonna brings you smooth and divine love.....


THE BEST PLACE TO START LOOKING IS INSIDE OURSELVES. TO RECEIVE YOU

MUST BE ABLE TO GIVE...AND BE ON SAME PAGE AS FAR AS WHAT WE BELIEVE

LOVE IS....YES ITS DIFFICULT TO FIND WHEN YOU CAN NOT RECOGNIZE IT

WHEN ITS RIGHT THERE IN FRONT OF YOU.....:cry: ...:angel:

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Fri 09/02/16 07:21 PM
Edited by sparkyae5 on Fri 09/02/16 07:23 PM

is true love is existing?


YES ITS EVERYWHERE, ''WHAT YOU SEE IN YOUR MINDS EYE YOU WILL HOLD IN

YOUR HAND'' ITS ABOUT BELIEF, LIKE EVERYTHING IN LIFE....IF YOU HAVE

GIVEN YOURSELF ''PERMISSION''.....ITS LIKE EVERYTHING STARTS WITH US

AND ENDS WITH US....

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Fri 09/02/16 05:19 PM

our job as man is to PROVIDE AND PROTECT ARE LOVED ONES....


Damn! Seeing your different posts, I thought for a second that you finally figured out how to take your caps lock off. But, then you hit it again. think


I ONLY HAVE CAPS LOCK.....TWO-MATO TAH-MATO...

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Fri 09/02/16 05:13 PM
Edited by sparkyae5 on Fri 09/02/16 05:14 PM

Hello Screaming Caps Lock Guy waving


OP: I think soulmate is similar to check mate.

Either way it requires lots of game playing to get it.


GAMES ARE A WASTE OF TIME....SIGNED SCREAMING CAPS GUY...WHY GO DOWN A

DEAD END STREET UNLESS THERE IS A PAYOFF, THERE ALWAYS ARE IN GAMES. ''VICTIM''

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Fri 09/02/16 02:15 PM

I don't have a definition of soulmate yet in my own words. Still have a lot to learn.

Hope you find what you're looking for Kittyfur :heart:




IN TODAY'S WORLD WE ARE SO EDUCATED ABOUT THINGS OUTSIDE OURSELVES...

YES I SAID THINGS...NOT ABOUT OURSELVES AND OUR FEELINGS AND EMOTIONS.

MOST DO NOT KNOW THAT THE EMOTIONAL AND PHYSICAL DIFFERENCES BETWEEN

THE SEX'S...TO FIND A SOUL MATE,REAL LOVE, TRUE LOVE , YOU HAVE TO

BE ONE...IT MEANS TOTAL COMMITMENT TO ANOTHER HUMAN BEING OVER

TIME...OUR REALITY IS SOMETHING WE MADE UP IN OUR HEADS ALL BY

OURSELVES. THERE ARE ONLY 4 LIFE POSITIONS WE HAVE ABOUT OUR SELVES

AND OTHERS AND THEY DETERMINE EVERYTHING IN OUR LIVES...ITS UP TO US

TO TAKE A LOOK AT OUR OWN LIMITING BELIEFS TO FIND HAPPINESS....NO

ONE ELSE CAN DO THAT FOR US...EXCEPT A MUTUAL COMMITMENT WITH YOUR

IMAGO....

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Thu 09/01/16 07:09 PM
Edited by sparkyae5 on Thu 09/01/16 07:09 PM

I would like to know what your thoughts are on meeting someone from this site face to face after just exchanging emails on here for a couple of weeks...

Both of us live in the same area and I'm talking about meeting in a public place for a drink during the day.

we haven't talked on the phone or exchanged personal email...

would a person be crazy to meet me or am I crazy to even ask someone to meet me in a public place without talking to them on the phone first???


WORDS ARE ONLY 94% OF A CONVERSATION THE REST IS BODY LANGUAGE ...TALK TO HIM ON

THE PHONE...............

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Thu 09/01/16 07:04 PM
Edited by sparkyae5 on Thu 09/01/16 07:04 PM

I am 60 years young and female. I just want a casual dating relationship that starts as friendship and ma or may not lead to more. I have a full time job, care for my grandkids several times a week, and am studying horticulture. I am not averse to developing an intimate relationship but not on the first or second date. In other words, not looking for a "hookup." Is this the wrong site for me?
I was on POF, and three times I found a man who seemed to want what I want; until we met for the first time, and then the follow-up emails came. One sent 62 in one day; the next asked if I would perform very graphic services; the last wanted to watch me have sex with a friend.
Are there any decent men out there??


YES, THEY ARE OUT THERE....AND ITS NOT THAT GREAT ON THIS SIDE OF THE FENCE.

AND WHEN A MAN IS ATTRACTED TO YOU OF COURSE HE WOULD WANT TO SEX WITH

YOU....MEN AND WOMEN DO NOT TAKE INFO THE SAME NOR DO WE PROCESS IT THE

SAME...WE ARE EMOTIONALLY AND PHYSICAL SO DIFFERENT THAT IF WOMEN DID NOT HAVE

THE COOKIE MOST MEN WOULD NOT EVEN BOTHER WITH THEM....IF IT IS COMPANIONSHIP

WE WANT ONLY IT WOULD BE LESS TROUBLE TO GET A GOLDEN RETRIEVER .....YOUR NOT

SEEING THE ILLUSIVE OBVIOUS LIKE THERE VALUE SYSTEM....MOST WOMEN TEST MEN TO

SEE IF THEY ARE WHO THEY CLAIM TO BE AND THEY DO IT OUT OF THERE AWARENESS.

LAST BUT NOT LEAST ''ATTRACTION IS NOT CHOICE '' BECAUSE ITS A EMOTIONAL

CHOICE.........

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Thu 09/01/16 02:55 PM
Edited by sparkyae5 on Thu 09/01/16 03:00 PM

Some females r only like Mony ! Don't need a true love & long serious relashonship ! So what Mony is big on true love ????


our job as man is to PROVIDE AND PROTECT ARE LOVED ONES.....SOMETIMES WE

FORGET THE WOMAN IS THE PRIZE.....SO MY GALS ARE GIVEN UP THERE ALL TO A GUY

WITHOUT HIS COMMITMENT TO HER AND HER WELFARE.....''TRUE LOVE COMES FROM

COMMITMENT OVER TIME'' TO ANOTHER PERSON......A MESSAGE TO GALS: ''MAKE THE BOY

EARN IT''...

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Thu 09/01/16 09:18 AM
Edited by sparkyae5 on Thu 09/01/16 09:23 AM

Time for the normal mourning process. You know, denial, anger, sadness etc. And with time getting over it, recovering and moving on.
Willpower has a lot to do with it. Some ppl remain stuck in one of the phases of the process for the rest of their lives and become eternal sulkers, whingers and whiners. If you are determined to have a happy life, and have enough inner strength to want to feel good, you'll get through it and find happiness again. And happiness doesn't mean a new partner per say. If you can't be happy on your own, you can't be happy with a partner. That's an illusion. Some like to live that illusion, if you do, it'll take forever to get over a relationship.


SO TRUE ABOUT DENIAL....STUCK IN ONES AWARENESS AT THE TIME WILL REALLY STUNT

GROWTH AND HAPPINESS....TAKING CHANCES ON NEW BELIEFS AND BEHAVIORS CAN BE SCARY

FOR SOME...WE KNOW WHAT THE OUTCOME IS IF WE HANG ON TO OLD BELIEFS AND FAVORITE

FEELS AND EMOTIONS BECAUSE THAT'S WHO WE BELIEVE THATS WHO WE ARE.....

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Thu 09/01/16 07:28 AM

Years & years ago... I heard a woman say,
" You can tell alot about a person, by their shoes".

She wasn't kidding. spock
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everything about a person's outside is telling about there inside. even

escapes past there ''persona'' (there protective crust or wall around there real

self )...

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Wed 08/31/16 10:04 AM
Edited by sparkyae5 on Wed 08/31/16 10:05 AM


real men hard to find

Pssssst.
There is a 'real' one inside every unreal one.


TRUE,,JUST LIKE INSIDE EVERY WOMAN IS A BEAUTIFUL LITTLE GIRL.....SOME TIMES

GUYS HAVE TO LEARN TO OPEN OUR EYE'S TO SEE HER....

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Wed 08/31/16 09:59 AM


Is there only old people here ?..

Yes.
What?


life experience is ''A GOOD THING''

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Wed 08/31/16 09:44 AM
Edited by sparkyae5 on Wed 08/31/16 09:55 AM

With my little experience and research,I find out that real men are hard to find and all they care for is sex and money...I guess most will accept this belief with me


reality we make up in our own little heads...so let me see is it ''real men ''

are not interested in money and sex......of course they are They are men, not

women...we are not bad or good just men. just like women are different not good

or bad just ''different'','' PHYSICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY'' .we also take in info

differently and process it differently

UNDERSTANDING THE DIFFERENCES IS A START. :angel: what we have to do is give our

mate what they need so they can give us what we need...''with in reason''. p.s. .

thats not all we care about..!!!!!!YOUR VIEW IS ''SYLLOGISTIC''

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Tue 08/30/16 04:24 PM

Walking along a beach track this morning I found a gorgeous silver dog tag in the shape of a paw with the name Charlie inscribed along with a cellphone number . I contacted the owner and was saddened to hear Charlie died a few years ago . They asked me to dispose of the tag .. They didn't want it back :cry: .. This made me even sadder but I understand ....... I never met Charlie but I just cannot bring myself to throw her tag away in the rubbish . .. Instead I put it in an old antique jar with a solar light and sea shells and hung in a beautiful oak tree overlooking the beach . It did make me think about my own dogs and what i would do .. when their life ends .. wondering what others did in this situation :heart:


THAT WAS A HEART WARMING STORY, YOU HAVE A HEART OF AN ANGEL :angel:

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Tue 08/30/16 03:00 PM
Edited by sparkyae5 on Tue 08/30/16 03:02 PM

I respectfully disagree.

The heart wants what it wants.
But the brain knows what it needs.

Besides.. Just because we love someone, does not mean, we can or should live with them. Or that they are good for us.



FIRST PART ; I respectfully disagree. THE CONSCIOUS BRAIN FOR THE MOST PART DOES

NOT KNOW JACK.....IT DOES NOT MATTER WHAT DISCIPLINE YOU CHOSE THEY WILL AGREE

WITH MY OPINION I AM SURE.....2ND PART : THE PROBLEM IS OUR OWN UNCONSCIOUS

PERSONAL DEFINITION OF LOVE (IMAGO).....