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It does amaze you the things that come out of peoples mouths sometimes eh? I hear the N word around my area sometimes too. Usually it's when a group of old men are talking. I also cannot stand it the way people use short bus etc. jokes all the time (it's rampant on mingle). To me, it's just as bad, but has somehow become acceptable. I saw that, and you called him on it too!!! 
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It does amaze you the things that come out of peoples mouths sometimes eh? I hear the N word around my area sometimes too. Usually it's when a group of old men are talking. I also cannot stand it the way people use short bus etc. jokes all the time (it's rampant on mingle). To me, it's just as bad, but has somehow become acceptable. I saw that, and you called him on it too!!! Sometimes you just feel the need to say it out loud, ya know? |
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Edited by
Winx
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Sat 07/11/09 04:03 PM
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It does amaze you the things that come out of peoples mouths sometimes eh? I hear the N word around my area sometimes too. Usually it's when a group of old men are talking. I also cannot stand it the way people use short bus etc. jokes all the time (it's rampant on mingle). To me, it's just as bad, but has somehow become acceptable. I saw that, and you called him on it too!!! Sometimes you just feel the need to say it out loud, ya know? You have to do what's right for you.  |
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I've been a Christian for 15 years, I go to non-denominational churches, and that I'm aware of, none of my friends or pastors would speak or even think that derogatorily of others. As a matter of fact, at the church I went to while I lived in Maryland, there were a pretty significant number of interracial couples, especially for being a relatively small church (only a few hundred members).
However, the type of behavior and thought process is just as repugnant when it happens the other way. Case in point ... Jeremiah Wright. The highly inflammatory statements he has made over the years do not help any more than the attitude of the OP's former "friend". |
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my cousin has 6 months old and hes half black black and hes the most precious thing in the world to me!its said when people hide behind the bible or ignorance!so many wonderful people they are missing out on!
race doest make you a bad person,its how you think and how ignorant you are that can screw you up in life and hurt you! |
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Watch out for those self-professed "good Christians"--I think they might be atoning for something in their past! lol But seriously, that is a disgusting word and an even more disgusting belief system. What gives anyone the right to believe they are better than anyone else?  Watch out for all religious types!!! :-o |
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there are however self confessed nwords out there
black men calling each other nword in life and in music and film as a white man i wont ever use the word but in the words of a famouse black man it aint black men robbing my house...... its nwords |
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there will always be prejudices...whether race, gender, sexual preference, ideologies, age, appearance, etc
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I'm not racist...I hate everyone equally
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Someone actually used the "N" word to me today! There is a guy I have been talking to online for a few weeks now. He seemed like a nice guy and made such a big deal out of being a Christian who attends church every Sunday, and all the ways he volunteers his time and his dedication to his family, etc. I was thinking he was a pretty nice guy. So today we were talking on the phone, and somehow his last girlfriend came up, and I asked him why they broke up. He told me that it was because she had dated a black guy before him. He said that when he told her he was completely against white women dating black men, she got upset with him. And so I was like, "I have to be missing something here" and I tried to get him to clarify. I asked him "You're saying you ENDED a relationship with this woman because she has dated black guys in the past?" and he said no, he didn't end it because of that, he was just very vocal about his disapproval of her dating black men and SHE did not like the way he was acting about it and would not let it go. So I asked him what it was that he had a problem with. And he said that black people are in a completely different class than white people because of the cultural differences. He said that 90% of them are doing drugs and committing crimes and getting pregnant as teenagers. I told him to be careful about making such broad, sweeping generalizations and that I have had completely different experiences than him. I know many AMAZING people of all races, and that he should base his opinions of people on an individual basis rather than on any particular group as a whole. Then he told me that one of his best friends is a gay black man with aids. He said he's a really nice man. But THEN he went on to say, "But I tell you what...he completely changes when he gets around other black people. When two black men get together that's when they start to act like NI*%&RS."  I could NOT believe he said that! How completely ignorant! I was horrified and very offended. I guess I naiively thought that people just don't talk that way anymore. Needless to say, I will not be speaking to that fellow again. 
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Edited by
Tootsweet13
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Sat 07/11/09 06:07 PM
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I'm not racist...I hate everyone equally And we hate you! Ahhh...balance and harmony in the universe! Totally feng shui.  KIDDING!
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I'm not racist...I hate everyone equally An equal opportunity offender |
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Okay I have to ask this first of all you quit talking to someone cause they used the N word that in fact had quit dating a girl due to she had dated someone black in the past. This same guy has a friend that is not only black but gay as well.
Is that correct so far? Now the only reason you quit seeing him is because he used the N word is that correct? I must say that I myself do not use the N word and my kids were raised the same way. But..............I live in Texas I actually met a guy several years ago that I became involved with that did use the N word he was from Alabama. Let me tell you the way he used it was due to he was totally raised different then I was. Even though we were the same age to him those he called by the N word was not always black they were those that were lazy and thought that the world owed them and many times they were white when he called them the N word. Yeah I did take the time to explain to him the way I took the N word. What happen is he had enough respect to understand the way I felt about the N word and did understand my feelings about that word. All I can is he stopped seeing someone because she dated a black man and you quit seeing someone because he used the N word where does it stop. When no one is willing to give another a chance for something they did or said? Just a thought of mine. 
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Someone actually used the "N" word to me today! There is a guy I have been talking to online for a few weeks now. He seemed like a nice guy and made such a big deal out of being a Christian who attends church every Sunday, and all the ways he volunteers his time and his dedication to his family, etc. I was thinking he was a pretty nice guy. So today we were talking on the phone, and somehow his last girlfriend came up, and I asked him why they broke up. He told me that it was because she had dated a black guy before him. He said that when he told her he was completely against white women dating black men, she got upset with him. And so I was like, "I have to be missing something here" and I tried to get him to clarify. I asked him "You're saying you ENDED a relationship with this woman because she has dated black guys in the past?" and he said no, he didn't end it because of that, he was just very vocal about his disapproval of her dating black men and SHE did not like the way he was acting about it and would not let it go. So I asked him what it was that he had a problem with. And he said that black people are in a completely different class than white people because of the cultural differences. He said that 90% of them are doing drugs and committing crimes and getting pregnant as teenagers. I told him to be careful about making such broad, sweeping generalizations and that I have had completely different experiences than him. I know many AMAZING people of all races, and that he should base his opinions of people on an individual basis rather than on any particular group as a whole. Then he told me that one of his best friends is a gay black man with aids. He said he's a really nice man. But THEN he went on to say, "But I tell you what...he completely changes when he gets around other black people. When two black men get together that's when they start to act like NI*%&RS." I could NOT believe he said that! How completely ignorant! I was horrified and very offended. I guess I naiively thought that people just don't talk that way anymore. Needless to say, I will not be speaking to that fellow again. you do realize that the klan claims to be a christian group and they use the N word all the time. people can claim to be religious and be really far from it. IMO . . . |
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O man. I dunno, Im christian, and I believe in progress, and not perfection. Noone is perfect. I disagree with the guys behavior, thats not someone id want around me, Id be sure Id let him know thats not very nice, and that its not very christ like to act, and speak like that. Maybe you can help educate him of his ignorance, or stupidity, and inspire him to understand how that is a wrong, and hurtful thing, and how it is socially unacceptable. 
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Edited by
earthytaurus76
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Sun 07/12/09 12:17 AM
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It does amaze you the things that come out of peoples mouths sometimes eh? I hear the N word around my area sometimes too. Usually it's when a group of old men are talking. I also cannot stand it the way people use short bus etc. jokes all the time (it's rampant on mingle). To me, it's just as bad, but has somehow become acceptable. I saw that, and you called him on it too!!! Yeah the short bus jokes just show how ignorant and low people are to pick on people less fortunate than themselves. Especially picking on children. |
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Rather ironic....people will spout off at the mouth and say they will say that whether they agree with it or not, they will defend another person's right to fly their country's flag upside down (under the guise of the First Amendment -- Freedom of Speech), yet they will get all bent out of shape over someone using a certain word or words.
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Edited by
RealityMan
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Sun 07/12/09 05:54 AM
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Someone actually used the "N" word to me today!    I am IN SHOCK!!!!!!!!!!!!! If there's anything I can do for you in your time of crisis PLEASE let me know! |
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Prejudice is not born. It is bred.
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Edited by
justme659
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Sun 07/12/09 06:03 AM
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I have heard that word used a lot. My oldest son's best friend in highschool was a black boy. And he used the word a lot untill I asked him not to in my presence. Respectfully he told me why he uses that word and also agreed to my wishes.
Having said that, I agree that as a group of intellegent people we humans as a whole have become very unforgiving of others mistakes. ( I am not talking of murder or robbery here ) Yes, I am talking about the spelling police, profile police, word police and so on. And we do it rather rudely at times under the guise of a joke. What ever happened to the addage of " Do un to others as you would do un to yourself."? And just treat folks that make a mistake with a certain degree of decorum and manners and help them learn from such mistakes. And not berate them in public. |
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