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Ever consider that maybe he has been trying to make the first move with little success, and that maybe he is frustrated? Maybe he wanted to relieve some of that frustration by speaking his mind and getting feedback on it? Online dating can be brutal for someone that lacks patience and expects immediate results. Perhaps the problem isn't confidence but rather patience. "If you can't stand the heat,then stay out of the kitchen", yea internet dating can be brutal but no more than real life where you actually have to talk and make eye contact with a person you are interested in........................ |
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With the new age of dating and all the dating sites out there were you can fine anything from a date to sex it seems that the men always has to make the first move Whats wrong if you like a profile and you see something there in it that you like why not go for it I'll bet you that there are many women out there that don't even get a hit on there profile sooooooooooo whats wrong from them to contact men first When a woman makes the first move; men find her too aggressive and shy away from her. I think its silly personally as it shouldn't matter who makes the first move but alas the fragile male ego.....  Yea not many people can have as big and strong of an Ego as me But when a girl comes on to strong my whordar goes off and I am cautious if she wants anything more than sex but still will give it a shot lol What is too strong? Striking up a conversation with you? Flirting? Asking you out? |
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With the new age of dating and all the dating sites out there were you can fine anything from a date to sex it seems that the men always has to make the first move Whats wrong if you like a profile and you see something there in it that you like why not go for it I'll bet you that there are many women out there that don't even get a hit on there profile sooooooooooo whats wrong from them to contact men first When a woman makes the first move; men find her too aggressive and shy away from her. I think its silly personally as it shouldn't matter who makes the first move but alas the fragile male ego..... Yea not many people can have as big and strong of an Ego as me But when a girl comes on to strong my whordar goes off and I am cautious if she wants anything more than sex but still will give it a shot lol What is too strong? Striking up a conversation with you? Flirting? Asking you out? the one chick, michele, on bachelor this season doesnt care if he talks, in fact, requests that he doesnt(because what he feels or who he is dont matter much apparently) just knows she 'WANTS' him and tells him so every chance she gets while touching him in pretty physically intimate ways if I was a guy,, that would be TOO STRONG.... Id be wondering if she had a strap on waiting for me somewhere,,lol |
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Edited by
actionlynx
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Sat 02/05/11 04:03 PM
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Too strong for me (I've had all of this happen at some point):
laughing too hard at a joke... licking my face and biting my nipples through my shirt... less interested in getting to know me than dragging me out to dance (as in almost zero conversation)... expecting me to buy her drinks before I've even talked to her... giving me neck rubs in a public place without invitation to do so... excessive hugging... Granted, this applies to woman whom I've only just met, and don't know. If I know her to any decent extent, I understand the purpose of what she is doing better, i.e. I get the message. I'm sure I could come up with a few others, but the point is that this behavior doesn't tell me someone likes me. It tells me that she wants something from me, whether it be sex or to get free drinks or simply so she isn't alone. Some guys will try to get the sex. Myself, I've been there and found it wasn't for me. It's just not what I am looking for. |
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I hate hearing this question. When ever I hear it I feel like I want to punch them. Its always the whiny guys that have no confidence and just want a girl to stroke their ego and make them feel better about themselves. That being said I have no problem making the first move. In fact I message a lot more guys than guys who message me. Me too, I message first. I feel like all women need to be actresses; to pretend to be something we aren't so we can make a man feel good. Its pathetic but women that have been married for over 20 years swear by it and doing this they have their men wrapped around their finger. Guess if that is what guys want; who am I to question it. Think I will take some acting classes so I can pretend to be defenseless and dumb. Oh the cute 3-legged buggers don't know what they want - as soon as u do that, they'll decide they like women strong & intelligent 
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With the new age of dating and all the dating sites out there were you can fine anything from a date to sex it seems that the men always has to make the first move Whats wrong if you like a profile and you see something there in it that you like why not go for it I'll bet you that there are many women out there that don't even get a hit on there profile sooooooooooo whats wrong from them to contact men first When a woman makes the first move; men find her too aggressive and shy away from her. I think its silly personally as it shouldn't matter who makes the first move but alas the fragile male ego..... Yea not many people can have as big and strong of an Ego as me But when a girl comes on to strong my whordar goes off and I am cautious if she wants anything more than sex but still will give it a shot lol What is too strong? Striking up a conversation with you? Flirting? Asking you out? the one chick, michele, on bachelor this season doesnt care if he talks, in fact, requests that he doesnt(because what he feels or who he is dont matter much apparently) just knows she 'WANTS' him and tells him so every chance she gets while touching him in pretty physically intimate ways if I was a guy,, that would be TOO STRONG.... Id be wondering if she had a strap on waiting for me somewhere,,lol TV is not reality and hasn't ever been...except for Star Trek, of course |
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 No strong sexy women have asked me out yet! Oh, and I am trying to end the drought! Oh yeah, I can fill a bucket in a minuet!  And if you believe this I got Ocean Front property in Arizona for sale! But as far as strong sexy women asking me out, That part is true! |
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I hate hearing this question. When ever I hear it I feel like I want to punch them. Its always the whiny guys that have no confidence and just want a girl to stroke their ego and make them feel better about themselves. That being said I have no problem making the first move. In fact I message a lot more guys than guys who message me. Me too, I message first. I feel like all women need to be actresses; to pretend to be something we aren't so we can make a man feel good. Its pathetic but women that have been married for over 20 years swear by it and doing this they have their men wrapped around their finger. Guess if that is what guys want; who am I to question it. Think I will take some acting classes so I can pretend to be defenseless and dumb. Oh the cute 3-legged buggers don't know what they want - as soon as u do that, they'll decide they like women strong & intelligent Its no wonder I am still single as I don't know what to do. Help!!! 
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Still single? With legs like that? :)
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My last date was like talking to a magic 8 ball.
I can handle the first move, just not having to make every single move. |
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My last date was like talking to a magic 8 ball. I can handle the first move, just not having to make every single move. You are supposed to shake it. Not talk to it. |
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With the new age of dating and all the dating sites out there were you can fine anything from a date to sex it seems that the men always has to make the first move Whats wrong if you like a profile and you see something there in it that you like why not go for it I'll bet you that there are many women out there that don't even get a hit on there profile sooooooooooo whats wrong from them to contact men first No I think women can make the first move how it sits with a man that is then up to them, they should feel flattered? |
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I will make the first move when I feel there may be a connection. Whether friends or otherwise.
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Edited by
TxsSun
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Sun 02/06/11 10:01 AM
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Oops, wrong thread
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For the most part, I would prefer he make the first move. This doesn't have so much to do with looking for an assertive man as it does with me being a bit shy and unwilling to offend.
That said, on here, if you profile is really interesting, I might message you (online, this counts as a first move, right?). If there's nothing there, I probably wont. I don't talk to people based on their pictures, and I don't say anything if I haven't got anything worth saying. I expect the same out of a guy, which is why my profile is substantial (to give them something to work with). |
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My last date was like talking to a magic 8 ball. I can handle the first move, just not having to make every single move. You are supposed to shake it. Not talk to it. Maybe I'll call her up and see if that works. LOL I'll probably get slapped! |
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My last date was like talking to a magic 8 ball. I can handle the first move, just not having to make every single move. You are supposed to shake it. Not talk to it. Maybe I'll call her up and see if that works. LOL I'll probably get slapped! Got to admit that was a good one Soufie..... Monier, I hear ya I don't mind making some of the decisions but it irritates the hell out of me to make them all........There is nothing worse then to have a partner to sit back and wait for you to make all the moves....or all the decisions about everything...
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Still single? With legs like that? :) Why thank you kind sir. Think I should show more leg to get a date? 
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I'll male a move..
life is too short to kick rocks and wonder what could have been |
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I'll male a move.. life is too short to kick rocks and wonder what could have been I agree with that. I look at it that way. All a guy can say is NO and its not like I haven't heard that before. |
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