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Topic: ever feel like you are too picky????
johnbrenden's photo
Thu 03/10/11 08:28 PM
Hi,

My name is John and I (probably like a lot of people) think I am a good catch. I am college educated, ambitious, funny, loyal & easy to get a long with. I do not do drugs and never been married. I think life is precious and should be cherished. I come from a very loving family and have four beautiful sisters.

Bad qualities; I am spoiled lol. I am the youngest of the kids and also the only boy. I was born on my mom's b-day and can honestly say I was spoiled growing up. I live in Vegas and friends constantly are visiting. That means some weekends I play black jack and drink more than I should. However, I am always a happy/fun drinker. But, I really want to get back in shape and doing 12 once curls does not help too much lol.

What I am looking for; it seems most girls that are interested in me I am not interested in them. I want someone that I am not only physically attractive to but also can carry on a conversation. I have never cheated on an ex-girlfriend and strongly believe in trust and loyality. I tend too like girls that are slender/athlectic and in general happy with their lives. I never met anyone off the computer and I am a little skeptical but growing sick of the bar scene. Once in awhile, especially when sport watching it is ok but it does get old. Sometimes I feel that I expect too much. However, when I do find the right one I plan on spending the rest of my life with them and having many beautiful/happy years together.

Simonedemidova's photo
Thu 03/10/11 09:13 PM
Good luck to you...

Lili_M's photo
Thu 03/10/11 09:51 PM
offtopic I know this is off topic so what...

What are 12oz curls?

GravelRidgeBoy's photo
Thu 03/10/11 10:02 PM

offtopic I know this is off topic so what...

What are 12oz curls?
12 oz (ounce) curls is a joke about drinking beer, curling the 12 oz to your mouth...

Sleepless_nights_78's photo
Thu 03/10/11 10:48 PM
Hi John, welcome to Mingle. :)
I don't think there is such a thing as being picky, as individuals we all have our own likes and dislikes. When we find what we like, usually we want to find out more about that person , even what we may see as a fault, at first, usually turns into a unique quality that the person has. Good luck with your search, hope you find who you are looking for.

Monier's photo
Thu 03/10/11 11:06 PM
One girl that I was talking to said that I was being too emotional for laughing at something I thought was funny and stopped talking to me.

She had told me before that she did'nt know how to handle emotional people. I joked and asked, 'you mean like human beings?'. She did'nt think that was very funny.

Just don't become too unrealistically picky like that girl.

It's okay to expect alot in a potential girlfriend, but stay humble. I get the vibe from you that you may feel entitled to it, for whatever reason.

no photo
Fri 03/11/11 07:32 AM
I dont think u are being picky,i just think u havent met the right woman for you,cz if u do,her weak points wont b screaming for you to leave but for you to stay n help.

no photo
Fri 03/11/11 02:50 PM
Im very picky...and I pick Jeana!love

Goofball73's photo
Fri 03/11/11 07:27 PM
I feel a lot of people have unrealistic expectations, and they set there mind to these expectations at a young age. Then, when they want to find a person to be with long term and they go awhile (talking years here) without finding that person, they become desperate and settle for what they feel is "close enough" to what they wanted. The reality here is that these two situations are both negatives. You really shouldn't set unrealistic expectations nor should you just settle for someone who is close enough to what you want.

Being picky isn't a bad thing. But setting the bar so high that you leave yourself a small percent chance to finding a person who meets all your criteria? Yeah..I feel that is a bad thing. A guy isn't always gonna be a "Prince Charming". He will have days when he is an a-hole. A chick won't always be loving and caring. She will have days when she is a biatch. But what you should focus on is how he/she treats you, respects you, is there for you, and vice versa. You never know who you are gonna fall in love with. And it may be out of that "idea" you have in your head of who the perfect person for you is. Just my two cents though.

wux's photo
Fri 03/11/11 08:33 PM
"ever feel like you are too picky????"

Well... yes. It's my only good feature.

wux's photo
Fri 03/11/11 08:35 PM
Edited by wux on Fri 03/11/11 08:36 PM

It's okay to expect alot in a potential girlfriend, but stay humble,

...and don't give the girl a reason to think that it's fine for her also to be expecing.

no photo
Fri 03/11/11 08:36 PM
I prefer to think of it as "unconscionably selective."

EquusDancer's photo
Sat 03/12/11 10:28 AM
Only if you consider yourself too picky.

I personally don't consider myself too picky, but I know most guys reading my profile do, and some are nasty enough to gripe about it, and I do mean nastily.

But then, I've learned if I don't stay picky and true to myself, I'm miserable in a relationship anyways.

soufiehere's photo
Sat 03/12/11 11:50 AM
Relationships are the biggest decisions
of your entire life.
All others will depend upon it.
Good time to be picky.

stephanie_chicago's photo
Sat 03/12/11 12:08 PM
i am not picky about a persons job, neighborhood (which is a big thing in Chicago), height, weight.

but good grooming is essential

Boss911's photo
Sat 03/12/11 12:18 PM
wanna go back to sex and intimacy...Im waiting for ya :thumbsup:

stephanie_chicago's photo
Sat 03/12/11 12:20 PM

wanna go back to sex and intimacy...Im waiting for ya :thumbsup:



hmmmmm, ok you sweet talked me into it

Boss911's photo
Sat 03/12/11 12:22 PM

Hi,

My name is John and I (probably like a lot of people) think I am a good catch. I am college educated, ambitious, funny, loyal & easy to get a long with. I do not do drugs and never been married. I think life is precious and should be cherished. I come from a very loving family and have four beautiful sisters.

Bad qualities; I am spoiled lol. I am the youngest of the kids and also the only boy. I was born on my mom's b-day and can honestly say I was spoiled growing up. I live in Vegas and friends constantly are visiting. That means some weekends I play black jack and drink more than I should. However, I am always a happy/fun drinker. But, I really want to get back in shape and doing 12 once curls does not help too much lol.

What I am looking for; it seems most girls that are interested in me I am not interested in them. I want someone that I am not only physically attractive to but also can carry on a conversation. I have never cheated on an ex-girlfriend and strongly believe in trust and loyality. I tend too like girls that are slender/athlectic and in general happy with their lives. I never met anyone off the computer and I am a little skeptical but growing sick of the bar scene. Once in awhile, especially when sport watching it is ok but it does get old. Sometimes I feel that I expect too much. However, when I do find the right one I plan on spending the rest of my life with them and having many beautiful/happy years together.


Just put that on your profile description and your golden !

msharmony's photo
Sat 03/12/11 12:23 PM

i am not picky about a persons job, neighborhood (which is a big thing in Chicago), height, weight.

but good grooming is essential




I agree, one has to be honest about what is important to them and set those things as standards,,,,unless they just want a mate to avoid 'being alone',,,and then it makes no sense to be picky

ur options are endless

hiddenmeaning's photo
Sat 03/12/11 01:51 PM
normaly im not a picky guy but after my last relationship died i whent very very picky. in the end i found a woman that ticks 99 ot of 100 boxes with me (yes i made that many likes disslikes options for my next date) and i must say im very happy now i will say yes some compramise will be needed trust me but dont sell out completely

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