IM HAVING FANTASIES ABOUT MY MAN WITH ANOTHER WOMAN AND SOMETIMES I WANT TO ACT UPON IT BUT IM VERY JEALOUS. WE HAVE HAD A THREESOME BEFORE BUT IT WAS TERRIBLE AND IM AFRAID THAT IF I DO IT AGAIN THAT THE SEME THING MIGHT HAPPEN? WHAT SHOULD I DO?

If your a very jealous personality, then a thresome may not be a great idea. I'm assuming that after the first time, there was hurt feelings. Maybe the best solution is to buy one of those "real dolls" and then there shoudlnt; be any jealous feelings.
See I couldn't handle a threesome with another girl, way too jealous and protective of my guy (when I have one). I don't think I could do that objectively.
Good Luck with whatever your decisions is.
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You could develop a split personality, then your partner can have sex with that other personality and still technically be with you. That way, you'll only get jealous with yourself.

That's a really tough situaion. those fantasies can really getcha! So, you have two conflicting impulses. Jealousy and sexual curiosity. You must reconcile these before taking action. I would be the last person to pass judgment on this. I've pretty much done it all. My only advice is that your first priority is you. What's the risk-reward ratio? Would it be worth it? Only you can answer that.

Fantasy is just that.
Meant to be envisioned, not acted upon.
You already stepped over that line and
did not like it.
Keep the fantasy, lose the reality.

curiousbutshy20: Have you discussed the issue with your man? I don't agree that it's something you definitely shouldn't act upon, but it's certainly something to be approached with caution. You don't tell what was terrible about the threesome, so it's difficult to tell how you might avoid a repeat of a bad experience in the future. If it were jealousy alone that caused problems, then that's a good indication that you won't be capable of realizing your fantasy. If it was terrible because the sex was bad or your man was too nervous to perform, etc., then there's hope for you — and it starts with open, honest discussion with your partner. If the problem had to do with the encounter leading to emotional attachment between your partner and the guest, perhaps the key is to be careful that your guest be someone with whom you currently have no close ties (and be careful to maintain distance outside the bedroom after, or between, encounters).

Sometimes fantasies are best left to the deep recesses of your mind, and sometimes it's healthy to explore them. Even if you don't invite another woman into your bed, perhaps you and your partner can role play and discuss these fantasies during intimate moments. You might be able to fulfill your fantasy through some creative storytelling.

Good luck!

simply put on a wig and play like you are another woman ...

Buy a blow up doll?????

Just get you all drunk honey and blame it on the tequila.

Also, have to considered two guys and you. Talk about being worshipped! No jealousy issues unless its on his side.

I support this theory.

i say dump the guy, and have your fantasy with another guy that won't make you jealous... (hint, hint)

Hhmm.. That's a tough one...

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