There no two ways to love! It is either you do it straight from your heart and go all the way OR it simply isn't love!

While we sometimes get disappointed with our expectations of love, I'd still think we still hold on dear to some of the things we saw in the other person at first :-) Regarding the number of times we can fall in love, i'd say it will remain countless as long as we've not met the final right person. Though i don't discount those who deceive themselves and say they've given up! However deep this self deception goes, they'd still feel a tingling in their heart when some warm heart looks lovingly at them :-) So, for me, as long as i have not yet met HER, i'm still liable to fall in love headlong as many times as i have the opportunity :-)

Hmmm...let's see. There was the girl I loved but didn't realize that's what it was at the time. There is the girl I loved, but really just liked the idea of it all, no real love there. There was the girl I thought, and fully convinced myself, I loved. Then there was the real deal, and that was it for me.

So, as for how many times we can fall in love, just the once and there is no retreat.

Good or bad, she still has my heart and always will. Hell, I didn't even know I had one, until she made it beat. Now it only beats for her, and I've been dead for years.

I fell in love 3 times with 3 different women over the years. I still carry a fondness for them in my heart, although they did not return my love. Would I take them back now? NO, I am in love with women that do not exist anymore, their memories.


EDIT: Hopefully the fourth time will be the charm.

personally,i dont have an idea how many times..its just that when you "fall",it isnt planned,so i dont have total control of the matter,but hey...am not complaining..being in love and have someone love you back,(even if it doesnt end up in rings),is the greatest experience a person can have..so,am okay with falling again and again and again and again and again.................;-D

I find it very easy to love,
I still love all my ex's. Well at least I still love the men I thought I thought I loved, I may not love what they did, but I dont think you just fall out of love.

So I think you can love many times, each one special, each one different.

I don't know why, but when I read through all the posts here, I kept thinking back to middle school. You ask a girl to be your girlfriend, she says yes, and then both you and her write "I love so and so" on your book covers, folders, etc. And you thought (back then) that it was all true love. And then you tell your parents about her and say how much you and her are in love and that it will last forever, but then it lasts for like three weeks. And then comes the heartache cause you think that you'll never love again. I mean, it's funny looking back at that now, but when it happens you have the ultimate high and then ultimate low.

Anyways, I watch adults do this same thing. They get with someone and "think" it is love. Maybe they just want so desperately to love (and to be loved) that they will project it into any and all relationships. I don't find that very healthy. As was mentioned, when these people are happy, they are extremely happy and life is good. But when it crashes, man......watch it. They hit bottom and they hit it hard. I believe that since I have witnessed a few people I knew go through this it has made me realize that while falling in love is a great thing, it can also have the adverse affect.

As for me, I won't date someone unless I feel something is there. You can go out on a date, get to know a person, and when the date ends you just know that there is either something there or there isn't. You could go on a date, thinking you will spend a couple of hours but end up spending six hours. And then when you go to leave, you just feel something good has happened and you want to know more. You just feel it. Or, you can go on a date and within thrity minutes you are hoping that your date gets a call and has to leave (or you get a call and have to leave).

When a date goes so well, you start to feel something for that person. Now comes the tricky part. This is where some people begin to input "I am in love with this person" because hey!.....it feels right and isn't that a good sign that this is love? It's hard to not think of love when you meet someone special. However, that person could be just a friend (short term or long term). Or, I should say that they end up becoming a friend. And that leads us to that ultimate, almost unanswerable question of...."How do you know"?

As for me, even though I am a romantic, I am also a realist when it comes to love. I know that while I care for and do love all my ex's, two of these women I was in love with. If it does happen for me again, it will take a lot of convincing to do. I have become stubborn when it comes to being in love.

I am not sure I have ever fallen in love; it always seemed more like infactuation.

I really like your answer

Well I must say, "I am in LOVE with all your answers" They all represent true feelings.

LOVE produces such great endorphins you want to believe it so bad and then yet you recall all those times in the past, like goofball said you "thought" you were in love.

LOOKIN4HOME: Great answer as well. I guess we just keep falling until we finally get to that right person and realize our past mistakes.

I don't think I have ever fallen in love,instead I walked into slowly and with both feet on the ground getting to really know the person first, or at least thinking I did.

S.D!


I loved them all! From one good thing to the other. I loved "something" about them if they consumed my thoughts(at the time), even if for a short while... There was something about them that I wanted/needed/respected and appreciated.


I "thought" I was in love.... and I was!


Life ain't no dress rehearsal... LOVE LOTS!

Sweet thoughts!

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I've tried that too, I think that is the scary part, when you have taken your time and find out you are all wrong all along, I think I'd rather just ride the coaster until it stops....

Always throw spilt salt
over your left shoulder

Kept rosemary
by your garden gate

Plant lavender for luck

And, fall in love
whenever you can.

I think all loves are different. I think you can keep falling in love till your brain doesn't work anymore. I also think they don't really have a lot to do with each other other than the sex component (lust) which may play a greater or lesser role in each relationship. Many people require different types of glue to stay together. Likewise, there are many different types of solvents that break the bonds that have been made or are in the process of forming. Solvents can be many things like lies, lack of interest in the partner, cheating, or just lack of respect. Everyone is different so all relationships are going to consist of a different set of happy memories, lust, hormones, and compatibilities. Sadly, the same old solvents can dissolve them all unless the cultural differences negate the solvent. For example a culture with multiple wives or absolute male dominance won't be affected as much by cheating or being dominant as it is then the norm.

I think the ability to love is endless and each have their seperate source.

But it does wear a road through you eventually. Wheather it is smooth and comfortable road or one that twists and turns you inside out kind of determins how much stamina you have for the journey.

Kind of helps to have a map but sometimes the best journeys are the ones you do by the seat of your pants and you have no where to go but up.

I don't think any love deep or minor leaves you completely and the traces on your soul will be help make you a better person.

I think you can fall in love as many
times as you can sustain an open heart
and a willingness to do so.
This is more difficult than it sounds.

yeah...but sometimes it was great ride while it lasted

I saw this beautiful younger woman at the mall.
My old heart just started busting at the seams.
She was pregnant.
Looked about 8 & 1/2 months along and had the most awesome profile.
And the way she moved, moved me.
I fell in love.
I went over and told her how beautiful and graceful I found her.
She told me she was honored and my comment made her day.
She gave me a big hug and we walked away.
It's possible to fall in love every day.