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Topic: Living w/bf hes still on dating sites
Lori8989 Joined Thu 01/03/13 Posts: 11	Thu 01/03/13 12:23 PM
Thats my gut feeling also navegirl. Sometimes you just need theadvice of someone you dont know.

AndyBgood Joined Thu 12/25/08 Posts: 12437	Thu 01/03/13 12:25 PM Edited by AndyBgood on Thu 01/03/13 12:26 PM
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navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Thu 01/03/13 12:26 PM
What a load of bull, if someone is on here it's for a meeting with someone else. If you've found the person you leave the site, maybe not straight away but soon, depends how far the new relationship has gone ( I'm not talking sex, DOH) Not always true I have been here for a few years now and I am NOT on here to date anyone. There was a time in the beginning maybe, but I am here STRICTLY for the forums and to enjoy the reads, funny conversations, opposing viewpoints on some topics, and friends I have made over time on here. When you are here longer you will see there are quite a few people in the forums who are here only to socialize and some that are married who have met on Mingle and BOTH stay to keep up with the friends they have made I would agree that some are on here for the forums and friends but this guy is on 4 dating sites; not just this one. Seems fishy to me.

Lori8989 Joined Thu 01/03/13 Posts: 11	Thu 01/03/13 12:27 PM
I do have a problem with that and have told him so. I told him to delete them and quit playing games if that is truely what hes doing. I think he is lying to me and just keeping his options open.Thanks again for all the replys

simpleboy01 Joined Mon 01/30/12 Posts: 37	Thu 01/03/13 12:28 PM
if you guys are looking to take it a step further, both of you have to log off, and keep it that way.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Thu 01/03/13 12:28 PM
Thats my gut feeling also navegirl. Sometimes you just need theadvice of someone you dont know. I went through the same thing with a guy who was on a lot of dating sites. I would have understood if he stayed on maybe one for the forums/friends he has but when they are on 4 or 5 sites; something is definitely wrong.

Lori8989 Joined Thu 01/03/13 Posts: 11	Thu 01/03/13 12:32 PM
Lol. grow up.Im pretty hot for my age.:-)Nothing doggie about me

sybariticguy Joined Thu 09/27/12 Posts: 1639	Thu 01/03/13 12:35 PM
too little information have you asked him to remove himself? Is he offering an explanation that you are comfrotable with? do you have any reason or intuition to not trust him at this point in time? You raise more questions than answers at this point to help!!

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14521	Thu 01/03/13 12:45 PM
My live in by of 1 1/2 still on numous dating sites. wont take them down says I dontne ed to worry. Tellsme hes giving his stalking exsomething to look at. Need your opinion??? Many men date and stay online; keep their connections. Men sometimes need all the women they can get. Not sure why, cause I am a Woman. If you want a serious relationship tell him to stop, if he doesnt move on. Or keep dating a man who is addicted to just dating.

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76377	Thu 01/03/13 12:47 PM
I'm sorry I would have to question why one would get on a site and state they are actually looking for a relationship themselves first. My thoughts are it all depends what the intentions are that both are on the sites? Yes I have dated and stayed on this site but not looking for anyone and just enjoying the forums... For there are many on here just for the forums... But if they are on a site it would make me wonder for sure... Dated a guy that did the same thing and he was not just chatting. He was in fact still looking... It all depends on the intentions... and if in fact they are contacting others for more then just a friendly chat which you can do in the forums ... or facebook..

TawtStrat Joined Fri 11/16/12 Posts: 3581	Thu 01/03/13 01:01 PM
Nah, he just sounds like a liar. What do his profiles say on these sites? I bet he has on them that he's looking to meet women and hence the story about the giving stalking ex something to look at. Does his ex know he's with you? If so then why would he want his ex to think that he's going behind your back talking to women on the internet?

Lori8989 Joined Thu 01/03/13 Posts: 11	Thu 01/03/13 01:02 PM
I just made this site today to see if he was on this one to and he is. Saw the fourm decided to get others opinion. Hes not on theze sites for the fourms from what I see and he tells me.

Rawrr_Girl Joined Sun 10/04/09 Posts: 4431	Thu 01/03/13 01:08 PM
I guess him only being on ONE dating site, wasn't enough to make his ex come running back to him, so he resorts to being on more, to get her running back to him. And what are YOU for him in the mean time? A meal ticket?

Lori8989 Joined Thu 01/03/13 Posts: 11	Thu 01/03/13 01:22 PM
Yes his profiles say single and looking for a relationship. I made sure his ex new he was in a relationship so yes she does now. I know sounds like a big smoke screen with him. Would not be so bad if his sites were not active but they are.I have asked him to take them off and he tells me no.

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Thu 01/03/13 01:24 PM
My live in by of 1 1/2 still on numous dating sites. wont take them down says I dontne ed to worry. Tellsme hes giving his stalking exsomething to look at. Need your opinion??? I don't know all the facts but if i had a gf, why would I be on a dating site?

metalwing Joined Fri 11/14/08 Posts: 26218	Thu 01/03/13 01:25 PM
Trust your gut, Then kick him in his.

Lori8989 Joined Thu 01/03/13 Posts: 11	Thu 01/03/13 01:28 PM
I know raw imopening my eyes to all this. He alzo refuses to pay rent or bills here. He buys minual grocies at time and nessities from time to time. He does pay when we go out.When I ask him for money for rent bills he just ignores me. He has a good job also. So i guess im enabling him to have a fat bank account also. Love makes you over look alot of things for awhile but im know seeing thebig picture with him.Need to kickhim out so i can move on

plastic_pancakes Joined Sun 10/18/09 Posts: 7399	Thu 01/03/13 01:40 PM
I can tell you right now that if you went through the trouble of getting a profile on a website to see if your boyfriend is still active on that website, your relationship is over. The longer it lasts, the more clothing accessories you get to keep. This can be backed by empirical evidence. Also, I don't believe in love, but if I did, I would rank trust as one of the highest qualities of that abstract notion, and without it a relationship basically becomes mutually assured, self-destructive behavior.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Thu 01/03/13 01:53 PM
I know raw imopening my eyes to all this. He alzo refuses to pay rent or bills here. He buys minual grocies at time and nessities from time to time. He does pay when we go out.When I ask him for money for rent bills he just ignores me. He has a good job also. So i guess im enabling him to have a fat bank account also. Love makes you over look alot of things for awhile but im know seeing thebig picture with him.Need to kickhim out so i can move on Yep; it does sound like its time to kick him out. He is using you for a place to stay and pay his bills. I would get rid of him ASAP.

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Thu 01/03/13 01:54 PM
I know raw imopening my eyes to all this. He alzo refuses to pay rent or bills here. He buys minual grocies at time and nessities from time to time. He does pay when we go out.When I ask him for money for rent bills he just ignores me. He has a good job also. So i guess im enabling him to have a fat bank account also. Love makes you over look alot of things for awhile but im know seeing thebig picture with him.Need to kickhim out so i can move on Yep; it does sound like its time to kick him out. He is using you for a place to stay and pay his bills. I would get rid of him ASAP. Follow the good advice!