Topic: Living w/bf hes still on dating sites
notsoincognito's photo
Thu 01/03/13 02:06 PM

Simple solution really..... Kick his *** to the curb! You deserve better than what he's dishing out!!!

Lori8989's photo
Thu 01/03/13 02:22 PM
Your right. Trust is the most important. Iv enown in my heart I need to this guy go

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Thu 01/03/13 04:45 PM
Sorry for sounding slightly Oprah Winfrey about it, just that I hate seeing people used, or taken for granted. Even my own mum has asked me for advice at times, which may seem bizarre, as she is older than me, and had more experience than me. I know what I would do, if I was in your shoe's. You deserve a guy AS GOOD AS you, not LOWER than you. I wonder why he is so hung up on this ex of his. If he had really moved on, he wouldn't even consider trying to make her jealous. Instead of getting on with his life, he is messing you and her around like hell knows what. He needs a good firm kick up the butt. He'd be out of my house with his belongings like a shot, because I may be a sweet person, but boy do I take no prisoners. I won't take ANYONE'S crap, no matter who it may be. flowerforyou.

AndyBgood's photo
Thu 01/03/13 05:44 PM
Lori, do yourself a favor and dump his dumb ***! He thinks he is a fisherman and has you hooked good. You are being used for a door mat by this clown. You need to put distance between this loose and yourself. He is lying to your face. I bet he has his nose up some other woman's backside already and I would bet she is fat and ugly but loose as a sewer pipe!!!

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Thu 01/03/13 05:55 PM
Edited by Jeanniebean on Thu 01/03/13 05:57 PM

I know raw imopening my eyes to all this. He alzo refuses to pay rent or bills here. He buys minual grocies at time and nessities from time to time. He does pay when we go out.When I ask him for money for rent bills he just ignores me. He has a good job also. So i guess im enabling him to have a fat bank account also. Love makes you over look alot of things for awhile but im know seeing thebig picture with him.Need to kickhim out so i can move on



This is an easy problem to solve. WIZE UP. Get rid of him as soon as possible. Damn. frustrated frustrated

If you don't, don't whine about your problems, they are easy to solve.

Then start working on your self esteem issues because you must have them to put up with a moocher like that.

AndyBgood's photo
Thu 01/03/13 08:20 PM


I know raw imopening my eyes to all this. He alzo refuses to pay rent or bills here. He buys minual grocies at time and nessities from time to time. He does pay when we go out.When I ask him for money for rent bills he just ignores me. He has a good job also. So i guess im enabling him to have a fat bank account also. Love makes you over look alot of things for awhile but im know seeing thebig picture with him.Need to kickhim out so i can move on



This is an easy problem to solve. WIZE UP. Get rid of him as soon as possible. Damn. frustrated frustrated

If you don't, don't whine about your problems, they are easy to solve.

Then start working on your self esteem issues because you must have them to put up with a moocher like that.



AMEN!

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Thu 01/03/13 09:55 PM
Sadly, I know many women put up with dog crap for men because they are LONELY. They are afraid to be alone. It's a human condition. I wouldn't be so hard on the OP. This has happened to the best of us. When you become emotionally involved with someone, it is very difficult to move on, even when you know better mentally. It's heart over mind.

msharmony's photo
Thu 01/03/13 11:52 PM


What a load of bull, if someone is on here it's for a meeting with someone else. If you've found the person you leave the site, maybe not straight away but soon, depends how far the new relationship has gone ( I'm not talking sex, DOH)


Not always trueslaphead I have been here for a few years now and I am NOT on here to date anyone. There was a time in the beginning maybe, but I am here STRICTLY for the forums and to enjoy the reads, funny conversations, opposing viewpoints on some topics, and friends I have made over time on here. When you are here longer you will see there are quite a few people in the forums who are here only to socialize and some that are married who have met on Mingle and BOTH stay to keep up with the friends they have made drinker




this^^

believe it or not , people form a certain NETWORK of friends/acquaintances that arent predicated on anything physical at all


and if they enjoy that communication, I think the best thing is to join them and maybe begin participating as a couple

I dont think its necessary for a person to let go of their previous acquaintances when they get in a relationship UNLESS those acquaintances are of a romantic nature

Kaleijoscope's photo
Fri 01/04/13 12:22 AM
Lori... It's the new year, time for some good change...start within yourself...goodluck with your lovelife.

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Fri 01/04/13 02:38 AM

My live in by of 1 1/2 still on numous dating sites. wont take them down says I dontne ed to worry. Tellsme hes giving his stalking exsomething to look at. Need your opinion???


he's a total headcase

navygirl's photo
Fri 01/04/13 01:26 PM
Lori; please keep us updated and let us know when you finally toss this free loader out.

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Fri 01/04/13 01:33 PM
Edited by Jeanniebean on Fri 01/04/13 01:34 PM

Sadly, I know many women put up with dog crap for men because they are LONELY. They are afraid to be alone. It's a human condition. I wouldn't be so hard on the OP. This has happened to the best of us. When you become emotionally involved with someone, it is very difficult to move on, even when you know better mentally. It's heart over mind.



I understand that but from experience... and I am 63 so I do have some experience.... I have learned that being alone is sometimes a lot easier than being with someone... especially if that someone is taking your money, or being abusive.

I found "alone" to be a good thing. Preferable.



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Fri 01/04/13 01:54 PM
when one finds a partner a companion a lover a helpmate then one has absolutely NO EXCUSE for visiting dating sites. that translates into yes, i have you but i am NOT fully satisfied. wake up, dont allow anyone to de-value or under-appreciate you.

ujGearhead's photo
Fri 01/04/13 01:59 PM


My live in by of 1 1/2 still on numous dating sites. wont take them down says I dontne ed to worry. Tellsme hes giving his stalking exsomething to look at. Need your opinion???



I don't know all the facts but if i had a gf, why would I be on a dating site?


I stay here for the free beer. Oh, and cause I'm still waiting on my free T-shirt!

Toodygirl5's photo
Fri 01/04/13 02:28 PM

when one finds a partner a companion a lover a helpmate then one has absolutely NO EXCUSE for visiting dating sites. that translates into yes, i have you but i am NOT fully satisfied. wake up, dont allow anyone to de-value or under-appreciate you.


AMEN!!!

Hikerjohn's photo
Sat 01/05/13 06:22 AM
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Lori... It's the new year, time for some good change...start within yourself...goodluck with your lovelife.


:thumbsup:

It looks like you were looking for validation to decisions you had already contemplated and you got plenty of support.

My advice. Don't move in with a guy you have not known long enough to have already developed a trust with.

If you are truly dating a user, they will run if they figure out they cannot use you. Just know when they run its because of themselves and it is not about you.

Happy new year.

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Sat 01/05/13 09:43 AM



This is a dating website, what are YOU doing here?

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Sat 01/05/13 11:53 AM




This is a dating website, what are YOU doing here?


That was explained earlier. Keep up!

Dodo_David's photo
Sat 01/05/13 09:04 PM

Yes just made this account to see if he was on here and he is. That makes 4 dating sites hes on. We have been living together at my place for a year. I feel he looking for something better and using me until then.Ty for your opion


Whatever gave you the idea that a man has made a permanent commitment to you if he just lives with you?

willing2's photo
Sun 01/06/13 02:11 PM
Kick him to da' coib.

Post a pic and put yer sweet self back on the butcher block, Baby!smokin