Below is an interesting article describing the one trait women find attractive in a man. It's not lengthy so read and discuss.


http://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/relationships/the-supernumber1-trait-women-find-attractive-in-men/ar-BBp4VIL?ocid=spartanntp

i call BS on that article.. it has some truth to it, but the attractive ahole guys will always get more than the nice guys, no matter how many cats he saves...

The article does state that women who look for a short-term guy find the generous guy less appealing.

oh... i missed that part...not so BS then, huh..

I can kinda agree that when I was younger and my biological clock was ticking, when choosing the father of my children, that one is attracted to the generosity, caring, their goals and their looks..
As the years go on, I've learned that their looks are less important than the other traits..

The #1 Trait Women Find Attractive In Men

Nice eyes and a sense of humor are great, but it turns out what will really lock her in for life is how generous you are, according to a new study in Evolutionary Psychology.

Researchers from the University of Worcester in the UK showed more than 200 women pictures of the same two men—one more attractive, one less—in different scenarios. Some portrayed the more handsome guy being altruistic, while others favored the less attractive guy.

As expected, the physically attractive men were rated higher than the less handsome guys in general, and this was only amplified when they were shown rescuing a kitten from a tree. But it was actually the charitable chaps who were consistently rated as more desirable for long-term relationships—regardless of how good looking they were.

“Possibly most interestingly, we found that if a women could choose only one of these traits for a long term partner, then it would be more likely that he was altruistic than physically attractive,” says study author Daniel Farrelly, Ph.D., senior lecturer in Psychology at the University of Worcester. In their study, ladies opted for a less attractive fellow if he was generous over a hot-but-selfish guy.

Why? Female mate preference has evolved to where women are more choosey in what they look for in a partner who will potentially father their offspring, Farrally explains. “One thing that is important in mate selection are signals that a long-term partner has the necessary psychological characteristics to indicate that he will be a good father, including kindness, generosity, and an altruistic nature,” he adds.

Interestingly, the opposite was actually true for one-night stands—women found giving guys specifically less attractive when considering short-term relationships.

So are you screwed if you don’t volunteer at a soup kitchen? Not so much. You can show her your charitable side with anything where there is clearly a cost involved, Farrally says. You have a few options:

• Financial philanthropy, like giving a dollar to a homeless guy or adopting an endangered animal in the local zoo.

• Giving your time, like volunteering or helping out in a local charity shop.

• Enduring physical costs, like donating blood or bone marrow.

• Any heroic act (think less throwing yourself in front of a bus and more that rescuing a stranded kitten from up a tree).

I don't understand (or believe), 'female mate preference had evolved'. Hhhaaa.

IMO..
Men are men & women are women.
Woman look for a good provider if they want a family.

And an attractive man if they just want sex. (Just like men).

It seems the researchers gave women certain choices.

I wonder if they gave the woman no choices what the most answers would be.

I tend to think like Kitty, if I was asked the same thing about women my answers from when I was 18 to now would be different I think.

Wow women psychology is strange..but I guess you guys know that gals in different places have different thinking and behavior. So I won`t say it will hold true everywhere but it sounds logically.

I can only speak for me. I have met many attractive men who I have never been tempted to sleep with . Attractive doesn't always translate into intelligent, interesting , or even sexy. As for altruism, I find it deceptive at times. Some of the most abusive or criminally inclined minds have compensated very heavily in the area of charitable works to the church and community .

I suspect that women generally do like a sweet guy , but the reason why they get side-lined to the friend-zone is because women are often bored by a one-dimensionsal guy. I could be wrong, but I think many women are turned on by the element of surprise. Unfortunately, many of the "good guys" are overlooked because they are considered one-trick ponies. They are too predictable . And although it is probably not the smartest move, many women are inclined to.choose unpredictability or multi-layeredness over emotional security. Oh yeah.. And CONFIDENCE! Women are really drawn to that . When a man is truly confident , that aura practically precedes his entrance into a room.

Young women are more interested in what designer clothes a guy wears and the car he drives, and then the older woman is more interested in the work he does and the house he lives in. These seem much more likely in the hierarchy of requirements. If he is out of work and lives with his mother he has no chance of a date in my opinion , no matter how handsome he is, or isn't, and no matter how many cats he has rescued.

CONFIDENCE! Women are really drawn to that . When a man is truly confident , that aura practically precedes his entrance into a room.


Not being a woman myself, I have had many female friends throughout my life. Some turned into more than friendships, but almost always in a conversation about what they were looking for in a guy was confidence. No one really wants a lay down pansy that always questions why. Confidence in one's self is by far the best asset you can have. Looks fade.....so do memories.....money can always be made. But to truly be happy, one MUST have self confidence that they can do, achieve whatever it is that is on their mind. Sometimes we fail....but to go back at it and not let the failure hold you back.....that is what they said they wanted. A man who go for it with confidence. Mind you to leave the arrogance At the door and you will be much better for it. And bragging about one's accomplishments can be intrusive and a turn off. Correct me if I am wrong.

For me it has always been a smile that lights up their eyes and a great personality... that will attract me from the beginning..

Then of course a man that has his stuff together... I have never went for a man that is all over the map or has no clue about life.. No matter what they look like or how much money they make...

There is a time to be serious and then there is those times you just want someone to have a sense of humor..

And yes Confidence can make or break a situation.. If they are a whiner and always down then sorry they will hit the friend zone for those type never have their stuff together..

As far as money honestly as long as they have a job and can provide for themselves that is all I have ever asked for.. Due to I have always worked and expect the same from the next person..

I do not care for those that expect others to do for them.. I would rather have someone that can stand on their own two feet.. and happy where they are in life and with themselves....

Confident....with a side of a pinch of cokiness right?

I think cockiness appeals to some women. I think it might even have been thrilling to me in my youth, but now it's a complete turn-off for me.

Here is my thought on this. I do think a lot of women love a man who is charitable. Now, if he is boring, or is all about himself when it comes to a relationship, then yeah...turn off city. I feel women just want a man to be just that...a man. He works hard, does the right thing most of the time, can admit when he is wrong, will ask for directions and takes care of himself. When a dude falls for a woman and he totally commits to it, he doesn't have to think twice about being his woman's man. It will mean the world to him.

damn thought this was an opinion poll

was gonna list employment

I agree with you, but I will add one thing. As women get older, they generally crave companionship, and that's where ALOT of men fall short. From what I have seen thus far, men are great problem solvers , lovers and partners when it comes to executing tasks... but I have seen very few men that are committed to cuddling, really listening to a woman when she is feeling low, and taking the woman out for "one- on -one " time ,outside of the bedroom. I've actually only met 2 men in my romantic life who did it , And the part I enjoyed the most about them was that neither of them were gay!!!

Not being a woman myself, I have had many female friends throughout my life. Some turned into more than friendships, but almost always in a conversation about what they were looking for in a guy was confidence. No one really wants a lay down pansy that always questions why. Confidence in one's self is by far the best asset you can have. Looks fade.....so do memories.....money can always be made. But to truly be happy, one MUST have self confidence that they can do, achieve whatever it is that is on their mind. Sometimes we fail....but to go back at it and not let the failure hold you back.....that is what they said they wanted. A man who go for it with confidence. Mind you to leave the arrogance At the door and you will be much better for it. And bragging about one's accomplishments can be intrusive and a turn off. Correct me if I am wrong.


My Uncle was a playa back in the day. He is three years older than me so he has always been like a brother to me. Anyways, when I was 14 I asked him how he always got the girl he wanted. His trick was that if he truly wanted a girl he simply would never give up until she was his. He was confident even when he failed....and low and behold the girls always responded to his persistence. Now...he is married and is a total wuss.

My Uncle was a playa back in the day. He is three years older than me so he has always been like a brother to me. Anyways, when I was 14 I asked him how he always got the girl he wanted. His trick was that if he truly wanted a girl he simply would never give up until she was his. He was confident even when he failed....and low and behold the girls always responded to his persistence. Now...he is married and is a total wuss.



Well it really does depend on the women when it comes to wooing strategies. If I don't show interest in a man after 2 or 3 of his advances and he still continues to pursue me, I will grow sick of him really fast. There is a fine line between persistence and being a pest.I don't think clingyness/desperation is attractive to most people, male or female.