I'm not interested in talking about sex unless there's a possibility of me actually having sex with the person. But even then, I prefer it be down the line. Anybody can talk about sex; I would assume that most of us greatly enjoy it. But if we can't have an interesting conversation about a variety of other things, we likely won't get to that point. That's why the forums are so great. You can find out a lot about people based on their posts.

so you would get to know someone on this site say for three months before making a move ? is that wright really

I can honestly say that sometimes I'm embarrassed to be a man, with what I have seen, read and heard through the years...

AS long as its not the only thing we are talking about.

hello baby

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My opinion is to follow your truth always. Never sell yourself short or feel intimidated to accept what you are not comfortable with. Wait for a man who you do not feel to question anything about.
What is the need for the information on thoughts of sexuality! Perhaps because we live in such a fast paced world of instant gratification, men forget that the mystery to unfold lies in a process of romancing and dating.... not in a questionnaire....so to speak. Sadly women and men have come to accept what is on the table in front of them and take the best of that, even if it goes against the grain of their truth. Rather wait!

If I know the lady im chatting with and sence she is ready it could be that way but normally i would rather take the time to know her first

Not interested.

So I'm hearing it's bad to ask what color and style panties she is wearing to soon in a chat?

No. It's perfectly acceptable to ask
questions about panty color, if, she
calls from a telemarketer, or, a debt
collection agency.

And, maybe, if she's a former in law.

Don't really see a problem with a sensual content coming in to communications, and probably feels more comfortable on line than face to face... Let's face it to he intimacy of question s on quite genuine sites like UK Cupid is more than mist would feel comfortable with in a old fashioned meeting BUT , does the sensual element become the sole content, or is it alongside plenty of other subjects ?? If a part, and the other content is interesting, shouldn't be a problem. Just give both parties the assurance that they are open minded and comfortable with each other in intimate areas -- pretty important I would think ,!! If anyone wants to discus this further one to one please do .. diy.man69@yahoo.co.uk

On the flip side of this, regarding WOMEN who start to talk with me about sex, that raises a huge red flag for me. Usually, it means that they are setting me up (well, trying to, anyway) for a scam.

If they are talking with me about sex and what they want to do to me in the shower with toys before we have even met for a coffee? That's suss. Then again, the silver lining to the cloud is that it shows they are into cleanliness, I suppose...

Sex can be a very important topic of conversation when handled correctly.

I believe the key is maturity and respect.

I have talked with women that take offense at any mention of anything of a sexual nature. To me it indicates an immature sexual maturity and removes them from my interest.

As adults, chances are anyone I will meet is not a virgin. I certainly am not. I like sex. It isn't my sole reason for being but I expect it with someone I love and if we can't even talk about sex there is something wrong.

Again, I stress, Maturity and Respect. The maturity and respect has to flow both directions.

Sadly, I know from talking to a multitude of women that have to contend with constant assults by men that have no sexual maturity or respect, the reflex is to take offense at anything sexual in nature.

Sexual maturity and respect is very important to me when considering an intimate relationship. The only way to make that determination is to discuss sexual things. There is a difference between discussing and assaulting.

I totally agree with your point of few. Thank you for your post. I wish there were more like you!

I like to put everything on the table. I am not 16 and want to play teen head games. I simply do not want to be lied too. If a man is married, I am not interested at all. But if you are a single man who wants an FWB, I am willing. I believe in putting cards on the lettings things hall where they fall. I am happy to share my political views, religion, lack of interests in most spectator sports, and interests. I want to spend time learning more about a person, not peeling the first layers.

Well said. I am not here looking for a platonic relationship. Sex is a part of the relationship I will have, if I have one at all. So just as I want to discuss hobbies and interests, political and religious views, and other areas of potential incompatibility, I also try to (respectfully and politely) get a sense of sexual interest.

Because someone who one wants sex no more than once a month, or who thinks that laying in missionary position crosswise on the bed is the height of kinkiness, is not someone with whom I'm going to be able to sustain an intimate relationship. And I'd rather not wait until six months of otherwise platonic communicating and dating to discover that we aren't suited for one another.

So I would urge people to think about how to control the sexual conversation. Too intimate, too soon? Tell them, plainly, politely and simply. Trying to get an early sense of sexual awareness and compatibility? Be as upfront as your upbringing allows and close down the conversation until you are willing for more (if you ever are).

Phrases like "I enjoy sex with a committed partner | once I know someone | with any stranger {delete as appropriate} several times a year | month | week | day {delete as appropriate}" can help. If you need to, add on something like "And I'm not willing to talk any more about it at this point." If you are a little more liberated, unusual or kinky then this could be a good time to sound out if your correspondent might also be "open-minded to what goes on in the bedroom."

If you need to wait three months or a year to get to sex ladies.It makes no difference,he will still dump you.The only difference is now you're emotionally involved.

I always wanted to wait for a month but never made it.🤣🤣🤣

I always wanted to wait for a month but never made it.🤣🤣🤣

Hello, great topic. I'm over 50. And looking to share sexual experience. I believe it vital to make this clear in one's profile. Also one must be very sensitive when talking about sex,for example, not using gross sexual words. And to emphasis respect and safety. This is how I'm approaching my new on-line journey. Hope this makes sense.