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Topic: Some Things That Put you Off when Looking at Profiles?
soufiehere's photo
Fri 02/08/19 07:40 AM
One thing I absolutely loathe is a profile that seeks people
outside their own age as it bespeaks so many issues.

Like a 50 year old wanting only teenagers, I am sure I set
some sort of land-speed record for getting away from such
profiles.

Dana Selfire's photo
Fri 02/08/19 08:21 AM
Hello, I am one of those people who taken a picture from my bedroom mirror, I wasn't looking to show off, I was cleaning out my makeup chest , I just took the picture . Only problem that I am having is that everyone has to make a big deal out of it . I am about to send another picture to replace the one I have , but I will agree with you one thing , there are no real people who want to date and then a real nice relationship . Thanks for your thoughts, P.S ,, I am only looking for a man to be by my side in life . Plus I am going to live on this dating site for ever . Yours truly Dana Selfire

no photo
Fri 02/08/19 11:41 AM
Again. Perhaps it's just luck or God's divine providence but I have never come across a penis pic on this forum so far. Also don't go for smilers with missing front teeth. Kinda does not set the bar with me at all. I find that folks who use the term "dear" tend to be youngun's pretending to be mty age but to be honest, in my country, older folks use that term when talking to the younger gen. JM2c

Brian H's photo
Fri 02/08/19 12:04 PM
I get tired of seeing 20 somethings in my match list, I'm 53 and single, not 53 and stupid... I actually posted about it.

Here is a thought... Paying members only contact/view paying members....

luv2roknroll's photo
Fri 02/08/19 03:42 PM


No smile=No teeth.tears


mad

Nope.
I have never been a smiler, even as a kid in school pictures.
And I assure you, I have all my teeth.


I wasent talking about woman love..I meant men.flowerforyou blushing

Tom4Uhere's photo
Fri 02/08/19 11:59 PM
When I was searching I didn't really study the profiles that didn't match.
Usually, the top line made me click away because I am extremely specific in my age and distance preferences.

The ones I don't care for are the ones within my age and preference range but are obviously liars in their profile.

When I view a pic(s) on a profile I not only look at her I also take note of what she wears and everything I can see in the picture background.

If I make it to the profile and there is actually interests listed, not only do I take note of her interests but I also consider how she wrote (worded) them.

If I get to her blurb, if I see her writing about things that counter act with what I see in her pic(s) or her interests, It shuts her down.

If she is negative in her blurb about scammers or fakes or gives some ultimatum, I shut her down.

If I read about how she just wants to be happy or loved I realize that she thinks those things come from outside and not within her, I shut her down.

If I manage to get to the bottom I note her statistics and compare them with what I found out above. If it doesn't match or no answer, I shut her down.

At the very end, I look at her mail preferences.
I look for preferences that match me.
If I can't message her to start a conversation, I shut her down.

I must stress that its the first line that eliminates most profiles for me.
But, I did find someone on this site, free, that had nearly nothing in her profile but her first line matched and she expressed and interest and we eventually met face to face.

The 'objective', for me, is to find one that matches my preferences.
If, for some reason she doesn't, I give her no further energy and move to the next.

It was that face-to-face meet that told me what I needed to know and so far its been almost 4 months and we're still 'good'.

Dating sites (apps) are tools.
When you use it as a tool, it works.
If you use the tool improperly you get wrong results.
Right now, I don't need to use that tool.
I come to the forums because I like the discussions.

I'll expand a lil:

If she has 4 pics and each pic has a different hair color - she can't make up her mind or she has a self-esteem issue.

If the picture background items don't match up with her proclaimed details.

Obvious signs of alcohol or drug use. Red-Nosed alcoholic, bloodshot eyes, bad hygiene, appearance of high stress or run down look in their faces.

Anything written that exhibits or implies she doesn't have control of herself. "I just want..."

Anything implying she is looking for a man to do...

A woman that puts her kids, pets or career as a personal priority.
This is a dating profile.
I'm looking to date her, not her kids or her dog or work with her.
The kids, dog and career is something I get with her so should only be mentioned once we get to know each other a bit.
Her profile needs to be about her and me(a match).
If its not all about finding me (potentially), she is looking for someone to use. Someone to raise her kids, walk her dog, take her to work if her car breaks down. All perfectly acceptable but not in a dating profile.
So, her priorities are messed up.

Obvious signs of narcissism.

What I believe is there are very few people (men or women) that know how to write a profile to find someone.
For me, what is important is accuracy and demonstration of intent to actually find someone.

Fill out the profile completely.
Its part of using the tool the right way.
Garbage In = Garbage Out




luv2roknroll's photo
Sat 02/09/19 08:11 AM
Edited by luv2roknroll on Sat 02/09/19 08:14 AM

When I was searching I didn't really study the profiles that didn't match.
Usually, the top line made me click away because I am extremely specific in my age and distance preferences.

The ones I don't care for are the ones within my age and preference range but are obviously liars in their profile.

When I view a pic(s) on a profile I not only look at her I also take note of what she wears and everything I can see in the picture background.

If I make it to the profile and there is actually interests listed, not only do I take note of her interests but I also consider how she wrote (worded) them.

If I get to her blurb, if I see her writing about things that counter act with what I see in her pic(s) or her interests, It shuts her down.

If she is negative in her blurb about scammers or fakes or gives some ultimatum, I shut her down.

If I read about how she just wants to be happy or loved I realize that she thinks those things come from outside and not within her, I shut her down.

If I manage to get to the bottom I note her statistics and compare them with what I found out above. If it doesn't match or no answer, I shut her down.

At the very end, I look at her mail preferences.
I look for preferences that match me.
If I can't message her to start a conversation, I shut her down.

I must stress that its the first line that eliminates most profiles for me.
But, I did find someone on this site, free, that had nearly nothing in her profile but her first line matched and she expressed and interest and we eventually met face to face.

The 'objective', for me, is to find one that matches my preferences.
If, for some reason she doesn't, I give her no further energy and move to the next.

It was that face-to-face meet that told me what I needed to know and so far its been almost 4 months and we're still 'good'.

Dating sites (apps) are tools.
When you use it as a tool, it works.
If you use the tool improperly you get wrong results.
Right now, I don't need to use that tool.
I come to the forums because I like the discussions.

I'll expand a lil:

If she has 4 pics and each pic has a different hair color - she can't make up her mind or she has a self-esteem issue.

If the picture background items don't match up with her proclaimed details.

Obvious signs of alcohol or drug use. Red-Nosed alcoholic, bloodshot eyes, bad hygiene, appearance of high stress or run down look in their faces.

Anything written that exhibits or implies she doesn't have control of herself. "I just want..."

Anything implying she is looking for a man to do...

A woman that puts her kids, pets or career as a personal priority.
This is a dating profile.
I'm looking to date her, not her kids or her dog or work with her.
The kids, dog and career is something I get with her so should only be mentioned once we get to know each other a bit.
Her profile needs to be about her and me(a match).
If its not all about finding me (potentially), she is looking for someone to use. Someone to raise her kids, walk her dog, take her to work if her car breaks down. All perfectly acceptable but not in a dating profile.
So, her priorities are messed up.

Obvious signs of narcissism.

What I believe is there are very few people (men or women) that know how to write a profile to find someone.
For me, what is important is accuracy and demonstration of intent to actually find someone.

Fill out the profile completely.
Its part of using the tool the right way.
Garbage In = Garbage Out




surprised I change my hair color, and my self esteem is just fine!


Toodygirl5's photo
Sat 02/09/19 08:26 AM
Shirtless men
Holding a child
Short man
Blank profile
Marital status : separated/married

msharmony's photo
Sat 02/09/19 01:44 PM


When I was searching I didn't really study the profiles that didn't match.
Usually, the top line made me click away because I am extremely specific in my age and distance preferences.

The ones I don't care for are the ones within my age and preference range but are obviously liars in their profile.

When I view a pic(s) on a profile I not only look at her I also take note of what she wears and everything I can see in the picture background.

If I make it to the profile and there is actually interests listed, not only do I take note of her interests but I also consider how she wrote (worded) them.

If I get to her blurb, if I see her writing about things that counter act with what I see in her pic(s) or her interests, It shuts her down.

If she is negative in her blurb about scammers or fakes or gives some ultimatum, I shut her down.

If I read about how she just wants to be happy or loved I realize that she thinks those things come from outside and not within her, I shut her down.

If I manage to get to the bottom I note her statistics and compare them with what I found out above. If it doesn't match or no answer, I shut her down.

At the very end, I look at her mail preferences.
I look for preferences that match me.
If I can't message her to start a conversation, I shut her down.

I must stress that its the first line that eliminates most profiles for me.
But, I did find someone on this site, free, that had nearly nothing in her profile but her first line matched and she expressed and interest and we eventually met face to face.

The 'objective', for me, is to find one that matches my preferences.
If, for some reason she doesn't, I give her no further energy and move to the next.

It was that face-to-face meet that told me what I needed to know and so far its been almost 4 months and we're still 'good'.

Dating sites (apps) are tools.
When you use it as a tool, it works.
If you use the tool improperly you get wrong results.
Right now, I don't need to use that tool.
I come to the forums because I like the discussions.

I'll expand a lil:

If she has 4 pics and each pic has a different hair color - she can't make up her mind or she has a self-esteem issue.

If the picture background items don't match up with her proclaimed details.

Obvious signs of alcohol or drug use. Red-Nosed alcoholic, bloodshot eyes, bad hygiene, appearance of high stress or run down look in their faces.

Anything written that exhibits or implies she doesn't have control of herself. "I just want..."

Anything implying she is looking for a man to do...

A woman that puts her kids, pets or career as a personal priority.
This is a dating profile.
I'm looking to date her, not her kids or her dog or work with her.
The kids, dog and career is something I get with her so should only be mentioned once we get to know each other a bit.
Her profile needs to be about her and me(a match).
If its not all about finding me (potentially), she is looking for someone to use. Someone to raise her kids, walk her dog, take her to work if her car breaks down. All perfectly acceptable but not in a dating profile.
So, her priorities are messed up.

Obvious signs of narcissism.

What I believe is there are very few people (men or women) that know how to write a profile to find someone.
For me, what is important is accuracy and demonstration of intent to actually find someone.

Fill out the profile completely.
Its part of using the tool the right way.
Garbage In = Garbage Out




surprised I change my hair color, and my self esteem is just fine!



Hey gorgeous! long time waving waving

oops offtopic

FeelYoung's photo
Sat 02/09/19 01:55 PM
for me, saying separated means married and looking for adultery.
Don't pose with your kid or grandchild...say in the profile you have kids and whether they live at home or not.
Distant pics that are blurry, it's like you are ashamed of what you look like up close.

no photo
Sat 02/09/19 03:53 PM
Edited by Unknow on Sat 02/09/19 03:55 PM

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Worst shot is NO profile Pic and NO description of any kind.
Then that means there are DEFINITELY no teeth. scared laugh



Heyyyyy! I have teeth and I paid darned good money for them! Jk.



Back to subject:
1 older men wanting 20 years or more age difference....Yeah good luck with that Skippy
2 sexual references in their title or profile.
3 lying about their age when it's obvious they are a lot older.
3 writing in their profile about how wealthy they are
4 shirtless pics
Oh the list could go on and on ......no ima not on here to date just here for forums .

Freebird Deluxe's photo
Sun 02/10/19 02:25 PM
Pics with cartoon bits on.
Silly faces
Small pics.
Big sunglasses.
Face beauty plastic face shots.
Photoshop altered
Group shots.
Up nostril shots.
Drinks and cigs in pics.
I'll tell you later.
Insects in jars although I have never seen any
Zero profile.
Age lies.



no photo
Sun 02/10/19 03:39 PM
For me its people with no photos. sneaky bastards, certainly hiding something. Not to be trusted.

not me of course, the other ones.

no photo
Sun 02/10/19 03:43 PM
Edited by JOHNN111 on Sun 02/10/19 03:44 PM
Not me neither rofl

no photo
Sun 02/10/19 11:05 PM
Me neither....lol. oh and I change my hair color also because I frickin like to ..

luv2roknroll's photo
Mon 02/11/19 10:30 AM



When I was searching I didn't really study the profiles that didn't match.
Usually, the top line made me click away because I am extremely specific in my age and distance preferences.

The ones I don't care for are the ones within my age and preference range but are obviously liars in their profile.

When I view a pic(s) on a profile I not only look at her I also take note of what she wears and everything I can see in the picture background.

If I make it to the profile and there is actually interests listed, not only do I take note of her interests but I also consider how she wrote (worded) them.

If I get to her blurb, if I see her writing about things that counter act with what I see in her pic(s) or her interests, It shuts her down.

If she is negative in her blurb about scammers or fakes or gives some ultimatum, I shut her down.

If I read about how she just wants to be happy or loved I realize that she thinks those things come from outside and not within her, I shut her down.

If I manage to get to the bottom I note her statistics and compare them with what I found out above. If it doesn't match or no answer, I shut her down.

At the very end, I look at her mail preferences.
I look for preferences that match me.
If I can't message her to start a conversation, I shut her down.

I must stress that its the first line that eliminates most profiles for me.
But, I did find someone on this site, free, that had nearly nothing in her profile but her first line matched and she expressed and interest and we eventually met face to face.

The 'objective', for me, is to find one that matches my preferences.
If, for some reason she doesn't, I give her no further energy and move to the next.

It was that face-to-face meet that told me what I needed to know and so far its been almost 4 months and we're still 'good'.

Dating sites (apps) are tools.
When you use it as a tool, it works.
If you use the tool improperly you get wrong results.
Right now, I don't need to use that tool.
I come to the forums because I like the discussions.

I'll expand a lil:

If she has 4 pics and each pic has a different hair color - she can't make up her mind or she has a self-esteem issue.

If the picture background items don't match up with her proclaimed details.

Obvious signs of alcohol or drug use. Red-Nosed alcoholic, bloodshot eyes, bad hygiene, appearance of high stress or run down look in their faces.

Anything written that exhibits or implies she doesn't have control of herself. "I just want..."

Anything implying she is looking for a man to do...

A woman that puts her kids, pets or career as a personal priority.
This is a dating profile.
I'm looking to date her, not her kids or her dog or work with her.
The kids, dog and career is something I get with her so should only be mentioned once we get to know each other a bit.
Her profile needs to be about her and me(a match).
If its not all about finding me (potentially), she is looking for someone to use. Someone to raise her kids, walk her dog, take her to work if her car breaks down. All perfectly acceptable but not in a dating profile.
So, her priorities are messed up.

Obvious signs of narcissism.

What I believe is there are very few people (men or women) that know how to write a profile to find someone.
For me, what is important is accuracy and demonstration of intent to actually find someone.

Fill out the profile completely.
Its part of using the tool the right way.
Garbage In = Garbage Out




surprised I change my hair color, and my self esteem is just fine!



Hey gorgeous! long time waving waving

oops offtopic
Yassssss good to see my baby girl is still here! flowerforyou

luv2roknroll's photo
Mon 02/11/19 10:43 AM
Edited by luv2roknroll on Mon 02/11/19 10:45 AM


3
Worst shot is NO profile Pic and NO description of any kind.
Then that means there are DEFINITELY no teeth. scared laugh



Heyyyyy! I have teeth and I paid darned good money for them! Jk.



Back to subject:
1 older men wanting 20 years or more age difference....Yeah good luck with that Skippy
2 sexual references in their title or profile.
3 lying about their age when it's obvious they are a lot older.
3 writing in their profile about how wealthy they are
4 shirtless pics
Oh the list could go on and on ......no ima not on here to date just here for forums .

False teeth are fine. It shows you at least care.

I meant people that have lost their teeth, due to possible drug use, or bad hygiene. If you dont care for your body, that tells me alot. I know there are exceptions. That some people are born with bad teeth, but they could still be clean, yanno.

And they dont have to be straight, but they cant be like this.surprised

That gets me running...away!laugh laugh


Poetrywriter's photo
Mon 02/11/19 11:15 AM



3
Worst shot is NO profile Pic and NO description of any kind.
Then that means there are DEFINITELY no teeth. scared laugh



Heyyyyy! I have teeth and I paid darned good money for them! Jk.



Back to subject:
1 older men wanting 20 years or more age difference....Yeah good luck with that Skippy
2 sexual references in their title or profile.
3 lying about their age when it's obvious they are a lot older.
3 writing in their profile about how wealthy they are
4 shirtless pics
Oh the list could go on and on ......no ima not on here to date just here for forums .

False teeth are fine. It shows you at least care.

I meant people that have lost their teeth, due to possible drug use, or bad hygiene. If you dont care for your body, that tells me alot. I know there are exceptions. That some people are born with bad teeth, but they could still be clean, yanno.

And they dont have to be straight, but they cant be like this.surprised

That gets me running...away!laugh laugh




luv2 how did you get a photo of my mouth? laugh

luv2roknroll's photo
Mon 02/11/19 11:16 AM

When I was searching I didn't really study the profiles that didn't match.
Usually, the top line made me click away because I am extremely specific in my age and distance preferences.

The ones I don't care for are the ones within my age and preference range but are obviously liars in their profile.

When I view a pic(s) on a profile I not only look at her I also take note of what she wears and everything I can see in the picture background.

If I make it to the profile and there is actually interests listed, not only do I take note of her interests but I also consider how she wrote (worded) them.

If I get to her blurb, if I see her writing about things that counter act with what I see in her pic(s) or her interests, It shuts her down.

If she is negative in her blurb about scammers or fakes or gives some ultimatum, I shut her down.

If I read about how she just wants to be happy or loved I realize that she thinks those things come from outside and not within her, I shut her down.

If I manage to get to the bottom I note her statistics and compare them with what I found out above. If it doesn't match or no answer, I shut her down.

At the very end, I look at her mail preferences.
I look for preferences that match me.
If I can't message her to start a conversation, I shut her down.

I must stress that its the first line that eliminates most profiles for me.
But, I did find someone on this site, free, that had nearly nothing in her profile but her first line matched and she expressed and interest and we eventually met face to face.

The 'objective', for me, is to find one that matches my preferences.
If, for some reason she doesn't, I give her no further energy and move to the next.

It was that face-to-face meet that told me what I needed to know and so far its been almost 4 months and we're still 'good'.

Dating sites (apps) are tools.
When you use it as a tool, it works.
If you use the tool improperly you get wrong results.
Right now, I don't need to use that tool.
I come to the forums because I like the discussions.

I'll expand a lil:

If she has 4 pics and each pic has a different hair color - she can't make up her mind or she has a self-esteem issue.

If the picture background items don't match up with her proclaimed details.

Obvious signs of alcohol or drug use. Red-Nosed alcoholic, bloodshot eyes, bad hygiene, appearance of high stress or run down look in their faces.

Anything written that exhibits or implies she doesn't have control of herself. "I just want..."

Anything implying she is looking for a man to do...

A woman that puts her kids, pets or career as a personal priority.
This is a dating profile.
I'm looking to date her, not her kids or her dog or work with her.
The kids, dog and career is something I get with her so should only be mentioned once we get to know each other a bit.
Her profile needs to be about her and me(a match).
If its not all about finding me (potentially), she is looking for someone to use. Someone to raise her kids, walk her dog, take her to work if her car breaks down. All perfectly acceptable but not in a dating profile.
So, her priorities are messed up.

Obvious signs of narcissism.

What I believe is there are very few people (men or women) that know how to write a profile to find someone.
For me, what is important is accuracy and demonstration of intent to actually find someone.

Fill out the profile completely.
Its part of using the tool the right way.
Garbage In = Garbage Out




I think what your looking for is perfection.

Good luck finding that girl.

I_love_bluegrass's photo
Mon 02/11/19 11:23 AM


When I was searching I didn't really study the profiles that didn't match.
Usually, the top line made me click away because I am extremely specific in my age and distance preferences.

The ones I don't care for are the ones within my age and preference range but are obviously liars in their profile.

When I view a pic(s) on a profile I not only look at her I also take note of what she wears and everything I can see in the picture background.

If I make it to the profile and there is actually interests listed, not only do I take note of her interests but I also consider how she wrote (worded) them.

If I get to her blurb, if I see her writing about things that counter act with what I see in her pic(s) or her interests, It shuts her down.

If she is negative in her blurb about scammers or fakes or gives some ultimatum, I shut her down.

If I read about how she just wants to be happy or loved I realize that she thinks those things come from outside and not within her, I shut her down.

If I manage to get to the bottom I note her statistics and compare them with what I found out above. If it doesn't match or no answer, I shut her down.

At the very end, I look at her mail preferences.
I look for preferences that match me.
If I can't message her to start a conversation, I shut her down.

I must stress that its the first line that eliminates most profiles for me.
But, I did find someone on this site, free, that had nearly nothing in her profile but her first line matched and she expressed and interest and we eventually met face to face.

The 'objective', for me, is to find one that matches my preferences.
If, for some reason she doesn't, I give her no further energy and move to the next.

It was that face-to-face meet that told me what I needed to know and so far its been almost 4 months and we're still 'good'.

Dating sites (apps) are tools.
When you use it as a tool, it works.
If you use the tool improperly you get wrong results.
Right now, I don't need to use that tool.
I come to the forums because I like the discussions.

I'll expand a lil:

If she has 4 pics and each pic has a different hair color - she can't make up her mind or she has a self-esteem issue.

If the picture background items don't match up with her proclaimed details.

Obvious signs of alcohol or drug use. Red-Nosed alcoholic, bloodshot eyes, bad hygiene, appearance of high stress or run down look in their faces.

Anything written that exhibits or implies she doesn't have control of herself. "I just want..."

Anything implying she is looking for a man to do...

A woman that puts her kids, pets or career as a personal priority.
This is a dating profile.
I'm looking to date her, not her kids or her dog or work with her.
The kids, dog and career is something I get with her so should only be mentioned once we get to know each other a bit.
Her profile needs to be about her and me(a match).
If its not all about finding me (potentially), she is looking for someone to use. Someone to raise her kids, walk her dog, take her to work if her car breaks down. All perfectly acceptable but not in a dating profile.
So, her priorities are messed up.

Obvious signs of narcissism.

What I believe is there are very few people (men or women) that know how to write a profile to find someone.
For me, what is important is accuracy and demonstration of intent to actually find someone.

Fill out the profile completely.
Its part of using the tool the right way.
Garbage In = Garbage Out




I think what your looking for is perfection.

Good luck finding that girl.


Ummm..he already *did* find someone.....LOL

Just because someone's criteria is different than yours doesn't mean they are looking for "perfection"....


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