The mind has multiple layers. The above quotes are about conscious (top layer) reasons for adultery. TexasScoundrel is writing about the subconscious (bottom layer) reasons for adultery. There is a constant subconscious drive to spread your seed, which men find all manner of ways to explain to themselves and others.

Nether line of thinking is technically wrong, but TexasScoundrel is more right than those psychologists you quoted.

In programming terms, those psychologists are describing applications, while TexasScoundrel is describing the OS.

I'm feeling fantastic.

Back on topic, yes, absolutely.

In my experience, love is both real and lasts.

It's implicit in the definition, just as my examples proved.

Absolutely.

If you are infatuated with someone, that feeling will fade, but the memory will stay with you.

Thanks for the help, but I think I've made my point fairly clear.

So...if you experience a taste or smell, it's permanent? When you touch a hot stove, your hand is burning for the rest of your life? You are going to have to think a bit more deeply if you want to keep up.

So love is anything you want it to be? Respectfully, words have meanings. If you want to create a thread about how any word can mean anything, feel free. This thread is predicated on the idea that words have meanings and words should be used in the proper context.

Love is a feeling? Honestly? So you have experienced a temporary love? There is a word for that, it's infatuation. We've all experienced that.

I was simply attempting to elucidate my reasoning, any romantic or poetical overtones were unintentional.

But thank you all the same.

Why?



We aren't born hating, but we are born with the capacity and inclination to hate. Hate is just as natural to the human experience as any other emotion. It's an evolutionary survival tactic and is one of the reasons why we exist today as a species.



Our senses (of which we have far more than 5) allow us to sense the world around us. I don't understand how love could be considered a sense.



How so?

Every morning I wake up and weigh myself and I'm the same weight. Then I check my handy dandy body fat monitor and see that a few more 10ths of a percent of my body fat has been turned into muscle. I'm in the weight loss stage called "Reconfiguration", when my body is burning fat and gaining muscle at almost the same rate, so the scale tells me the same weight every morning. Without a body fat monitor, I would be at risk of losing heart and giving up.

I was going to be offended by that, but then I realized I don't date men. Your generalization could be right. Maybe many men don't want to put the work into a relationship. I honestly don't know. I can say that I'm not that guy. I work my tail off to make a relationship work. If the relationship fails, it won't be for lack of trying on my part.

There has been a lot of discussion about love lately. I feel that my position hasn't been clear, so I'm going to explain where I'm coming from.

Feeling - A temporary experience, which may or may not have an obvious origin.

Emotion - An experience that is deeply rooted in the psyche and exists independent of external stimuli.

Love is not a feeling or an emotion. You don't have to learn how to hate someone or how to be angry or hungry or tired or how to be afraid of spiders. But you have to learn how to love someone and we all do it differently.

Love does have an emotional aspect, but to say that love is an emotion is like saying that Godzilla is a lizard. It's like saying that the Earth is a rock floating in space. It's like saying that a human is a pile of various minerals. While those statements have a grain of truth, they are also so inaccurate as to be shockingly wrong.

Love is so important to human beings, that it's listed only after physiological and safety needs on Maslow's hierarchy of needs. This means that any normal healthy human who has the things he/she needs to live and has shelter from the various dangers of the world, immediately starts to seek out love. Is there any emotion that people seek out? Don't say "happiness", because that's a feeling.

Finally, I would be remiss if I didn't add "Oh baby, don't hurt me, Don't hurt me no more."

I don't believe so. He is talking about basic human instincts. Instincts can be overcome by choosing different behaviors. He is talking about the main motivating factor behind cheating, not generalized behavior which can be applied to all men. While our instincts might try to drive us towards more fertile women, it is our character which causes us to resist.

In the novel "Dune", children were tested with pain, to see how long they could hold their hand in a box. If they held it there long enough, they could be considered human. The idea is simple, a human can control his or her instincts, rather than simply reacting like an animal. It sounds to me like Jon is a human.

There are any number of reasons why he has overcome his natural instincts to be with you. You know him well, right? Why do you think he choose you over a younger woman?

HIV.

Retroviruses only reproduce with any great success from mother to child. HIV is notoriously hard to isolate even in blood, little less semen or saliva. HIV being a retrovirus probably means that Magic Johnson got it from his mother, although there is a slight chance (estimated to be 1 in 500) that he caught it from a sex partner.

I think the estimate is probably high, since it's based on the assumption that HIV is a "new" virus and not just one of the hundreds of retroviruses that live harmlessly within human bodies.

I'm going to assume you are asking me.

HIV is a retro virus. It doesn't kill people, but it's still real.

I don't know the correct term, I do know that to conduct research on HIV, you have to have approval from the "National Institutes of Health", which is part of the Department of Health and Human Services.

No, true love does not exist. Love is a choice.