I have earned my red wings. Have you?

I have walked on eggshells trying to not p*ss off my pmsing lover. Have you?

I have quietly cleaned up the mess while reasuring her that she is still wonderful and desireable. Have you?

No offense doll. I have earned my right to say my piece.

Hey all! I haven't used mingle2 in quite some time now and am very drunk at the moment, but I promise I will check back and see what people have to say to this. I am in the midst of an ethical dilemma, as you have probably guessed from the title.

One of my best friends was dating a girl for about five weeks. For the first two and a half weeks, all I heard was complaints about her. Then she met me. She spent the first night unable to take her eyes off me. I didn't realize what was going on because quite frankly for a girl to show such strong interest in me right off the bat is extremely unusual. About two weeks ago we went to karaoke together (the three of us, of course) and she got very drunk. And proceeded to the point where she put her hand down my shirt and asked to see my dick. In front of my friend who was also her date.

They have since broken things off and I ASKED him if I could make a move since she's obviously been interested since day one. He has not spoken to me since I asked and I am wondering if I REALLY did something so egregious that it warrants a halt of communication. I value my friends and would not typically put a girl first who I am only interested in having sex with. But he made it VERY obvious he held no emotional attachment.

The reason why I have posted this on mingle is that every friend I've had has given me a different answer. One thinks I did nothing wrong and should go for it. One thinks I did EVERYTHING wrong and try to make amends. One thinks I should have screwed her and told him nothing, both of us moving past her like it hadn't happened. And I've gotten still other variations.

I'm curious to hear what you think. If nothing else, I should give the mingle community something entertaining to debate. I apologize to the moderators in case something unacceptable has made it through my inebriated haze. I would rather any cursing be altered or omitted than my post be revoked. I intend no offense. I am genuinely curious about this, it has created problems for the last several weeks and I'd really like to know what you think.

One addendum: I need to mention I made ZERO moves on her until after she and my friend had split, and I STILL waited for her to take the initiative. Walking out on somebody is not likely to be construed as a come on. My loyalties to my true friends are the rocks on which I stand and I would do nothing to harm them intentionally.

Please speak your mind and don't be afraid of hurt feelings. I need blunt honesty on this one if I'm going to figure out where I stand. I am not easily swayed and will not be convinced with anything less than an outstanding argument.

Peace :D

i am 18 and i have never cheated on anyone and im proud to say that

I'm talking about the inside. If you are strong enough to not let it mess with you....then is that abuse?

Who calls you back when you hang up on them.

When you're 20, everything is that funny....

In 1970, when Dr. Edgar Berman said women’s hormones during menstruation and menopause could have a detrimental influence on women’s decision making, feminists were outraged. He was soon served up as the quintessential example of medical male chauvinism. But by the 1980s, some feminists were saying that PMS was the reason a woman who deliberately killed a man should go free. In England, the PMS defense freed Christine English after confessed to killing her boyfriend by deliberately ramming him into a utility pole with her car; and after killing a co-worker, Sandie Smith was put on probation – with one condition: she must report monthly for injections of progesterone to control symptoms of PMS. By the 1990s, the PMS defense paved the way for other hormonal defenses.

Sheryl Lynn Massip could place her 6-month-old son under a car, run over him repeatedly, and then, uncertain he was dead, do it again, then claim postpartum depression and be given outpatient medical help. No feminist protested.

I've always been of the opinion that any woman, that isn't insane, can control her emotions and her reactions to others. However the above statement suggests otherwise. If a woman can clam PMS as a defense for murder I have to question voting for any woman in an election.

I know. And I have cut a huge amount out totally. Winter is worse for me, as iced tea just doesn't have the same mental feel, and I usually keep that stocked in the fridge. Hot tea is great except it makes me sleepy. The only time I like water is when I've been outside working hard.

The "code of conduct" is stronger amongst women than it is between men... In general, Women tend to stick together and expose the cheating males(even on dating sites ). That being said,

A different tangent here. Purely hypothetical. You're a woman, your boyfriend or husband cheats on you with another man. Would you feel better or worse than if it was a woman he cheated with? Maybe no difference. You're a man. Your girlfriend or wife cheats on you with another woman. Better or worse? No difference? Or perhaps a double standard?

21. their spouses might not be interested in doing the sexual things the men want to try out (e.g. oral, greek, 3-ways, etc.) or even afraid or morally against such kinks.

where on earth do you find this funny

now I am totally confused...