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Ok soppose you are right and marriage and having kids is the whole deal. What are you suppose to do if you have had a good marriage and the kids are grown and gone and your spouse has died? Throw in the towel and just curl up and die somewheres? I don't think so.
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Spidey is back !!!!!!!!
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The heels are a give away...no man would wear "stacks" ...it is no longer the 70's.... I rest my case. 
Dang, nice boots!!  There are women that would beat him up for those boots. 
Yea but he has that terrible disease noassatall! Legs maybe but no buns. Can't get worked up about that. |
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School Supply Lists
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Many schools and agency's do have assistance programs for low income families.
Talk to your school counselor, local Inner Faith Council, Jaycee's, Scouting Councils, Masonic Temple's, United Way, Salvation Army, and even Food Banks. If your child qualifys for federally funded school lunches they also get federal bucks to buy their school supplies and pay their fees. Also children that need glasses can get assistance from the Lions Club. Children needing school physical's can talk to a social worker at the county health offices for free clinincs or health fairs. I will remind all parents to get their flu & pneumonia & other vacines or boosters shots at the local county clinic or health department. This is accutely necessary if you have a medically fragile child. I remind you that it is against federal law to require a child's family to pay for any mandated expenses above what is required for all children just because of a special need related to a disability. Schools are suppose to actively project their special needs student budgets and their failure to do so is not your problem when federal funds are out there. Protection and Advocacy at your state level can help you interceed legally if they refuse to at no cost to your family. Protection and Advocacy is usually funded under the Mental Health and Mental Retardation wing of your States budget. All States have a Developeental Disabilities Council that can be of great assistance. |
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So what do you think of this
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Hm, all I know about long term long distance relationships is.. People can really fool you. I have sat, and had 12 hour long visits, and convos online with the man I married, I had seen him in person several times, I had asked, and probed every question in the book, I reasearched and spoke with his friends, I had spoken with his parents. I spoke with him SEVERAL times a day, cam, and mic chatted with him, allll the time AT LENGTH. When he came over finally from the UK, and finally married me, I found. Hee had poor hygene. He rarely spoke. He was lazy as hell. Rarely changed his clothes. Spent alot of his time chatting with other women online.. (which he hid) Was an alcaholic. Was physically abusive. Mentally abusive. Verbally abusive. He refused to get off his *** and get a job. And his family were elated to be rid of him. He wasnt anything he made himself out to be. So I would say.. be careful with the long distance thing. People are not always what they say they are. You really need to know first hand how people live their life. AND THEN SOME. 
[/quote I think every person who considers meeting someone from another area especially another country needs to have to copy this 100 times so they really get the risk they are taking. If you do not go and spend time with them in their environment, meet their friends and family this is exactly what you can end up with. When I suggest going to a new place I am not suggesting jusmping out of the skillet into the fire. You have to plan and be smart. |
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So what do you think of this
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Go back to what I said earlier. What do you feel about this person? Are you just romatisizing a fantasy or do you have real feelings? There is something to be said for what feels like "home" in a person. Many people do return to old friends later in life and have lasting relationships in their mid and later life.
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To all the Cuckoos on mingle
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Sweet Dreams Party Poop! lol J/K
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I would check and make sure your tetnus and hepatitis vacines are up to date.
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Edited by
PacificStar48
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Thu 08/27/09 11:43 PM
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Fishing something some dumbass flushed down the sewer line.
Probably save yourself a bucket load of money on the plumber. lol |
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So what do you think of this
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Think you have to decide how you really feel about this person. What is the quality of life you have exchangeing with this person on an intimate level? I am not necessarily talking about sex because believe it or not that does wear out and the relationship/friendship is what is left. Things can be replaced, new jobs can be found. How "empty" is your life alone? Will your true friends and family abandon you because you change location? Will you cease to be who you are living near someone that gives you joy and comfort and meaning to your life? Personally I would move just about anywhere for that. These walls do not hold me, comfort me, love me. I could walk away and most would not even really notice.
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This is all I got.... 
I live at the end of the road. I am kind of surprised it ended up here. A skinney kid tossed around by the system. The one with all the potential I was suppose to be the the Liza Doolittle passing for the American Dream. A few more lumps and brusies and a couple of kids the gypsie military life was more of a forced march than any great adventure. The American highway sounds a lot more romantic on the morning news. Honor be damed the country left us scrambeling to survive. The bank eventually sold the house to a speculator. What the movers didn't steal ended here. It is behind a fence that really doesn't keep anyone out. Maybe my children. They hate to admit that we are left behind here. Sometimes they brag to their friends about the pool and the clubhouse that keeps raiseing the rent. Me, I am taking care of my Dad. It is ok I spent my whole lives pushing mine up the ladder to get out of this kind of neighborhood. I want them to go and be more. That is what Mother's do. It is not their fault that the job is bounceing them here and their. Hopefully they will hang on to enough to keep a roof over their head. This place just marks where, when, the money ran out. To tell you the truth I didn't expect to get past thirty or this many miles. I was of the generation that grew up before microwaves, cell phnes, and PC's. I am tired and don't mind the rest. Music is a luxery I am begining to allow myself. And the confidence that what I have experienced has value. It doesn't mean that I am not afraid. I was told to hide under our desk when the bomb came so having a kid and making it to my midlife still has me wondering. I am trying to compete in and world economy. To realize that a world culture may be what I leave the next generation. I am not sure I fit into that culture but who really knows. But behind the fence most think we don't have anything more to offer. Most of the criminals don't even bother to come here. Our lives are out of date. And so are our possessions. It's ok because even though they are familiar it is just something more to clean around. The kids won't come and get them. Sometimes we shame the politicians into polite appearances. Wouldn't hurt to learn the power of the vote. Or what it costs not bothering to vote. But you can tell the time most people come here. The old cars in the driveway will give you an idea of the time give or take. It is a joke here there is cash for clunkers just not the human variety. When my legs give out I will look for a scooter until the battery wears out or I can't get out of the house at all. Working on concrete floors and heels play hell on your knees girls so ditch the phoney vanity. Don't kid yourself old age is not for sissies. Most people don't want to see that but it is true. I am feeling more and more it is for the lonely. For a while longer I will keep the pharmacy open, the fire department comeing out if somebody stops breathing, then the coroner. It is not as bad as it seems. They will toast and post me to be buried with the last love of my life. Then the flowers will die away. The weeds will grow up. The windows will get covered with grime. Eventually the box of my life will be pulled away from where I live at the end of the road. |
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If You Don't Trust Someone
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If I get a vibe I can not trust someone I end the relationship.
Experience has taught me if I hang around until I can define why I feel that way I am trowing good time after bad. Whenever I trust my instincts about a situation I have never failed to be right sooner or later. Does it always mean it is a really bad person? Not always. But what it has always meant when I did stay was dragging out the enevitable and everyone involved suffering for it. If you do not feel safe and that you can trust the person you are with you are not going to be a good partner for that person. Same goes if they don't trust you. No matter how hard you try to build their confidence in you the more paranoid and controlling they are going to become. While I have never cheated on someone I have gotten so fed up that it was so over, by the time I left them, that I didn't want to have a time out. I was ready to move on. |
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HELP!
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It really comes down to what you are willing to risk.
Since you only know what he wants you to know I would consider that risk level VERY high. My word what can you possible know about this guy in that short of time? If he does not care about your safety to reveal himself in a public and safe enviornment I have to wonder how commited he is to your future. Or what he is hiding. No offense to you but he sounds a little desperate and stupid to invite a total stranger into his life so easily. He doesn't know if you are married, being pimped, an addict, or even a convict. I kind of doubt you are going to let him pat you down for a weapon but he is as much at risk as you are if he gets in a car with you. Has he told you his full name, address, and possibly sent a photo ID? Those are basic precautions you demand to cash a check isn't your future at least as important. If he has nothing to hide what is going to be so bad about googleing him to see if he has a police record, a job, a residence, a license? That doesn't even get into the whole thing of them having other relationships, addictions, no insurance, no spending money, or a terrible personality. In a car is a real bad time to find out this kind of information. Because you hopefully have never had to endure a robbery, beating, sexual assault, or someone attempting to take your life it is not likely that you can really assess the threat. How it will effect your sense of self, the ability to relax, or even maybe recover. Much less keep a job, possibly drive, marry, and or have children. It is not likely that you have seen the degree of injuries that are possible. The most severe survivors tend to become homebound or even instituionalized. The less severe survivors often keep it "secret"; sometimes slipping into addictions in an attempt to escape the painful memories, shame, and self hatred. Victims rarely plan to be victims. I might add being a victim previously does not somehow make you immune to being a victim again. That you maybe have had and "unpleasant" experience can not prepare you for a more violent attack. Never kid yourself lightening can strike twice. Something to consider is how will a laisa fair attitude be taken by someone making a judgement about you. No one probably wants to pretend to be. or even be, totally scared that all men are going to be able to over power them and do terrible things to them but guys know how many sleezy guys are out there; that don't take no for and answer, and talk about women like dogs. They have seen the stats. Most have probably seen a situation where some woman has been taken advantage of. Do you want them to think you are so caught up in the fairy tale Princess Charming scene that you refuse to be smart enough to acknowledge the facts. Stupid is not attractive. I would recommend a smart decesion to say "I think you are so sexy you make my teeth sweat but I am going to respect us both and stay within some boundries." A good man will respect that. Even if he is so horn*y he's about to climb the wall. Or do you think (this is retorical not personal) that you can walk on the wild side and then settle down and find a nice guy after you have had a little fun with a bad boy? Believe me someone will Rat you out. |
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hair on a girls legs
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It is amuseing how so many seem to dislike the body they have. Shaveing, bleaching, roasting (tanning), sanding, chemically burning, sliceing, sucking, and various bindings while they strain, run to exhaustion, rub on stuff, snort, smoke, and swallow things never ment for human consumption.
I don't know if they think they can out run the ageing process or that somehow removeing hair is going to make them sweat/smell less or wrinkle less. Hair is a natural protection of the skin and delicate body tissues. If it is not shaved it generally remains light and softer. It has a necessary purpose and shaving it can create a host of health issues. Not all men and woman see American beauty standards as appealing or even normal. The way some women and men strip their body hair is eerily reminencent of what was done to Natzi POW's and by Skinheads and gang members to submit to the expected persona. What is interesting is up until as little as forty years ago for American women to shave their legs; especially above the knee was considered only something prisoner's and prostitutes did to prevent transference of STD's and body parasites or to look younger. This is a beauty ideal that was largely promoted by television and a cosmetic industry. So rather than what you like and find sexy is pretty much what you have been brainwashed to like. |
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Girls making the first move.
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This has Jerry Springer Episode for your future written all over it.
And experienced older "player" will use you for a post divorce play toy, knock you up, and probably get you fired from your job with the same jerks who are telling you his sob story now. Grow up and quit playing with fire before you get burned. |
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seems like it would be better to just fix the system we have than to make a whole new one half of those 15% can afford health insurance; they just choose not to Many of the people who are NOT insured became uninsured through no fault of their own. A spouse died or divorced them, a company folded, ststes and cities reduce them to part-time temporary employees without benifits, a child or parent becomes dependent for 24/7 care and they are forced to quit work with no benifits, they are injured and loose their employment do to car accidents or crime, and or they are not covered when they age out of their parents insurance with PRE_EXISTING conditiona that no amount of money spent on insurance will cover. |
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It seems to me that a lot of waste would be relieved if patients were given their records. If there was a paper trail behind ineffectual treatment and procedures that are done more to protect doctors and hospitals from litigation than treat patients costs would go down.
If Insurance companies could not force specialists into requireing referrals more patients would be getting the approriate level of care to start with. If mental health caregivers, nutritionists, medical doctor's, and dentists worked on a "whole patient" approach more patients would be able to do better. If we applied the same energy on the war on drugs as we have on terrorism we could reduce addiction with it's horrendous social costs and the funding that drugs provide terrorism would dry up. If we developed a more pleaseing and effective male birth control we could drasticlly reduce unwanted pregnancy. |
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Edited by
PacificStar48
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Thu 08/27/09 11:56 AM
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Anything but a John Deer. Just seeing one makes me sick to my stomache. Years ago the magnito exploded caught my husband's hand and arm on fire; terrible burns. Never forget his screams. Thank God he had on a fire retardent shirt. Probably saved his life. If you have a loved one that likes to mechanic they are worth their weight in gold.
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What does it mean ???
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Good. You seem nice. Just because it's old timer's place does not mean they are harmless. Take Care of yourself Gal.
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What does it mean ???
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It is just one more tired line that guys in bars use all the time.
If you are a bar-fly you know the people who hang out all the time so when and outsider walks in you get noticed. Sometimes it is a subtle warning but most of the time it is just to get some "new meat" to talk to them. There is a vague pecking order in regulars and the first "regular" that can get you to talk usually gets a little "grace" to "work the new Virgin". You can pretty much count on them telling everyone else whatever they find out later. I would recommend not being all that friendly to guys hanging around outside of a bar. They may be watching out because things you would not want to be a part of are going on inside. Would hate for you to get hurt in the cross fire. Or dragged inside. Or found dead because someone worries you might have seen something you are not suppose to. |
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The prey
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It depends on which sites you use. I have found that some of the paid sites are little more than sites for sex perverts. If they have a sexual profile you can be pretty sure you will get a lot of garbage.
The free servers seem to have more scammers and perverts too but reporting sometimes helps. Unfortuneately most of the BBW sites tend to attract perverts. Some sites are better than others about dropping members that get blocked too often by people. What many sites don't tell you is if you fill out a profile and don't modify it it stays on the net for a long time. When they write, don't get a response, then find you other place they send you "Stinker" mail. It also not unheard of for people who want to dis you will put up a bogus profile more or less identical elsewhere mentioning they can find you on other sites. Folks who are into cyber sex are usually obsessed with the idea and it is expensive to talk to pay bots so they take there chances someone will walk on the "Wild Side". It must work because if it didn't I think they would give up. |
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