I like that when a man says he loves you. He knows he means it and figures you get it. If you are paying attention you do.

I like that when a man works he does it to do a good job, or to provide for his family, not so much to keep up with the jones.

I like that a man can just like sex for sex. Simple, easy, not expecting gifts, or money, or or worrying about how they look, if the baby is awake, or if their mother is in the next room.

I like that a guy can not fake and orgasim.

I like that when a man plays it is all out. To heck with messing up their hair, getting hurt, and will they look good in the uniform.

I like that when a man gets older he doesn't give up the idea that he has something to offer the opposite sex.

I like when a man loves a child it is often not based on biology but on the pure pleasure of being a Dad; not that they had 9 months of co-habitation in the same body or because society forces it the same way it does Moms.

I like that when a man cries it rarely is phoney.

I like that a man can have hair on his body and be sexy.

I like that a man can be five times stronger than I am but can be just as gentle as I am.

All I know is in my experience with many many people struggleing to make it in the world the ones that seem to have the hardest are the soft shades of gray folks that somehow got the idea that they are the exception to rules and boundries.

The ones that think their parents, or novice social workers, will excuse abominable behavior and get them out of the mess they have gotten themselves into with public service, or paying a fine, or attending counseling. And if not that just turning on the charm and pretending to be remorseful. Or being smart enough to not get caught by overly permissive parents that are so confident that their little darlings are golden just because they are smart long enough that they are up to their eyeballs in trouble. Or they volunteer somewhere. That doesn't necessarily show empathy. That is part of upper class strutting and many of the kids know it.

Now days you can't cry your way out of jail or just promise to be good when you get caught. Even if you get off easy you get a record. Young people better be prepared to stay with in the lines on some things. If you can stake your child's future that soft talk will prepare them for a hard world their your kid. I am pretty sure I will be seeing them weather I have any resources, or another job, or another landlord that will rent to them when they are bankrupted, and a little past young and promiseing. Then changeing their understanding of the world is pretty much like spitting into the wind.

Maybe for the same reason so many guys jump out of their britches every time a profile pops up with a girl busting out of her top.

How discourageing.

Having gone to many dress up events the list is too long.

I think if a person has an entitled feeling that they are going to up and down the line of people until they find exactly what they want are going to be dissappointed with what they get.

That attitude attracts only those people who are willing to play with her and dump her or get her to dump them by being a jerk. Players are real good at spotting the "Little Pretty Princesses" and spoiling them just long enough to get what they want.

Perhaps the reason it is tough to attract older men is they are too mature for such selfishness.

IMHO I think you can write whatever you like but I would not push it on my son unless he asks for it. He didn't have choices years ago but he does now. Or twenty years from now.

You made a choice years ago to let his Daddy be his family and raise him and rehashing it now when he is trying to move into his own independence is selfish.

You say you have an amicable relationship and I would count my blessings for that and let him move forward in his life the way he sees fit rather than playing the last act of your divorce. You might not like the final chapter if you force it now.

As a spouse, or Ex, you can't teach a parent how to parent or a Grandparent how to Grandparent.

As for your obligation I would send the Grandparents a polite note to the effect that you "would like the children to honor all the family that they are part of" enclose some photos and if the kids want to enclose a letter or picture fine.

It might take a few efforts because they may see it as just trying to punish them or their son for the divorce.

Grandparents that want a relationship will respond.

Many times they have grieved the loss and do not want to back track and take the risk of being forgotten again.

My experience with this type of charitable concern is it only causes more pain for children who may not complain about the abscence of grandparents but already are aware of it.

I wouldn't use that picture. Pictures should show your interests and your profile shoule tell more about what you want in a relationship.

I don't know spit about horses but it seems strange that someone would come on line after buying a horse and not have enough resources to buy tack and a saddle. Sounds like someone who is looking for a generous cowboy to play a fool for money.

Kind of sad that his passing to drugs really didn't change much in how celebrities can acquire drugs or drug use in general.

Sad that some people can delude themselves to think they are invinceable.

How much do we play into that belief by excuseing inapproriate behavior in celebrities.

I don't know ANY counseling professional that would outline a client situation, identifying features or not, in a on-line forum. Whoever said illegal is right.

Whoever said that the "Advice" was seriously flawed is right. A good counselor might ask the patient if the relationship felt like it was loving ect. but they would not assign the patients actions as love or healthy.

Sounds like someone promoteing their own agenda or seeking attention.

As far as getting the ring first versus having sex by choice as a single woman kind of hinges on wheather I have the where withall to suffer the consequences of that choice or not. Personally from having experienced divorce having kids, so being single with a kid I recommend limiting having kids until you can support them on your own and not count on a ring as all that much protection. It is better than nothing but if you think society is going to take care of you because you "play by the rules" you are deludeing yourself.

Glad to hear you are doing so well. Job sounds awesome. Will keep you in good thoughts.

Be real; while defineing someone as fat or ugly may not be the most tackful terms, everyone has a right to preferences without being labled shallow.

Shallow is people who pretend to have higher ideals and waste people who they are not attracted to time, feelings, and effort building a friendship in hopes that it will "overcome" a basic disinterest.

Tip toeing around responding to someone is cruel. It is much kinder to give a direct prompt response that "I do not consider us a match" and shut up. It is false to suggest you can be friends or wish them luck. At least respect them enough to just get out of the way and let them move on.

I think sometimes parents disable themselves and their children by packing on the pounds. FOr femal children it is a very effective way of keeping them single and dependent. It is possible if you show your mother that there is something that you can share with her besides food and that you want that part of her in your life she will quit tortureing you with food. I think She is punishing herself because she sees you breaking away from her and is afraid of life with you independent.

Real sorry to hear about your situation.

If living with a parent is not healthy for you then it is wise to find somewhere else to live. I would try to be calm and make it a positive move rather than just a reaction you might later regret.

It is pretty evident that your Mom's dietary habits show she is not willing to change her habits; at least not now. That is a tough choice for you but it is not your fault and you can't make her do otherwise until it is her choice. If you do differently maybe she will be motivated to follow. Either way you have to save yourself.

My first thought was just because your living situation needs to change you do not necessarily have to ditch school. Maybe for a semester but not permenently. I wouldn't jump to that conclusion until you know for sure.

Since houseing is a common hurdle for college students I would go talk to a school counselor. Often they can come up with positive suggestions. Maybe house you in a dorm, match you with a room mate. Find you a modest price apartment or room in a boarding house. Often it will increase your need for aid. An on campus job can help work out short falls while you apply for scholarships.

If you can't change your living arrangements immediately you can make arrangements by maybe transferring to a different school. You are a smart woman focus your energy on solving your problems and ignore Mom. That may mean camping out at the school library or student union but that will help you make constructive friendships.

You know you have many here. We are all rooting for you.

I date people not races.

In the USA very few people are truely one race so it is kind of a moot point.

While I think this was a terrible crime I don't know if I would say it is worse than some of the crimes that have been done against multiple children. This crime would have been forgotten if one a celebrity had not been involved or Manson wasn't such a media whore.

If someone gives me a gift as part of a reciprocal relationship then I am going to try to do likewise when it will mean something to that person.

Unfortuneately over time I have learned some gifts come with strings attached. Or as a power play. Those gifts I refuse or simply ignore.

I like to give gifts and often do anonomously because it is just less complicated.

It would definitely creep me out.

Anyone who knows what the word means would know the average person would probably not. It suggests someone who is manipulative and likes unequal power plays. RED FLAG for sure.