Sometimes the best way to find out if someone is on the legit is to ask your friends to see if they know them or can help you check them out.
If someone comes on line and starts pleading poverty and saying "If you really loved me you would help" they are a creep. Someone who has problems and is and adult solves them for themself and doesn't drag you into it.
Report the creep to the site and forget about him.
Sounds like you are a nice woman. Hang in there you will make more friends and they will help you meet someone good.

Maybe it is because you know you are not ready to start something right until you finish what is wrong in your life. Not fair to her or to you. You start out on the wrong foot it can only go south. Doing that in my life scares the heck out of me. So many players out there.

Ditto on no illegal stuff. I am still reeling from the person who said they would abandon two young teens in a former post; I wouldn't leave my kids for anyone. I wouldn't lie for someone either.

Sorry you feel bad. Hope good rest will renew you.

A friend will not a borrower be. ESPECIALLY if it is something I treasure. Oh and no; even if I agreed to it they mess it up I am going to me major ticked. I might forgive but I won't forget so the friendship would pretty much be toast.

Being both divorced and widowed I see how people could have reservations about either. Not everyone who looses a spouse had a good marriage but at least they chose to be in it and that tells me that it is a relationship they feel comfortable to attempt at least once and went the distance. While I know that many people get divorced for a variety of reasons but I have sadly found that for a lot of people there is a good reason they are single. I will say I have much more respect for someone who gives a bad spouse the boot rather than spending years as a victim. People who are multiply divorced sometimes have good reason. Blending families with children is a major challenge. If you add in special needs family members, catesrophic financial hurdles, or even natural disasters it can be more than some can handle.

If your experience in relationships, plural, is that people end up lying to you it sounds like it would be a good idea to take a serious look at what is really important to you, the expectations you project, how you communicate (talk and listen) with people, and what you will tolerate because while some people are just dyed in the wool liars people tend to treat you the way you allow them to.

IMHO most liars are fairly easy to spot if you just take the time to pay attention and not get caught up in the fairy tale. Don't do things that get you too far into think. If sex, comingleing funds, living together is going to make you vunerable to unclear thingking don't do it. It is fine to be happy and let the person you care be human but if you don't like them being themself, trust them without reservation because they have demonstrated in their history and their day to day you are sabatogeing your own happiness as much as they are.

What is the advantage to having matches all over? How realistic is it that you can develope a relationship with someone out of your area? I have and extream low number of ties where I am at but I don't want to totally fall out of my life and go just anywhere. Having lived all over the USA it is not all that different but if you have no lasting day to day relationships it is a lot of stress to start a relationship under. If you just want to date and have fun that is a whole different thing.

So happy your news is so Good! Enjoy! Enjoy! Enjoy!

Great line in a great flick but if you don't learn how to say you're sorry when you invariably flub with the one you care about it won't last very long.

I don't know what the record is but I will be really happy with just one good mutual one.

Seriously looking for a mate; NOT a maid, or someone to pay my bills. or deal with my responsibilities right off the bat. I like the usual stuff but understand you might be more comfortable with something more than a cup of coffee to chat and get to know each other after work. Drop me a note so we can find out what we have in common. Will respond to all.

Pretty lame to blame any of it on the kids. They knew the risks when they did the deed. And they are sure having a lot of perks at the kids expense. I tend to agree with those who say that constantly filming the children is abusive and hope the family courts will put a stop to it. Sad to say the divorce of their parents may be the first time they have a shot at having someone actually looking out for their interests.

Might want to try and find yourself first. Your looks and being a single Dad are the least of your problems.

God's comfort and grace for your friend and you.

I would like to go back to 1972 and accept the art scholarship rather than the MRS. I was offered. I am sure it would have made my life much easier.

A pot charge is serious if you want to get money for education from the state or federal government you are out of luck. The list of employers is growing daily because the cost of being stupid on their insurance is just not worth investing in an employee; especially one they might want to train and promote later but consider a security risk when they checked into you. It is also going to bar you from some special home loan programs and may eventually other credit venues. It will keep you out of public houseing and some retirement communities. Statisticlly it makes you a bad risk for having children with birth defects and early onset COPD and Alzheimers. Has there been definitive research? No but then drug studies are usually funded to prove saftey of drugs that are sold for LEGAL profit. Just the fact that the majority of dope is sold illegally should make you figure you are the one that has the most to loose useing them because you have no protection of the law that you are getting what you pay for.

Not only no but HEL- NO! I don't give a hang what I didn't have but to have two kids and or a family abondoning them would be the farthest thing from my mind. There is not a man on earth more important than my kids. If he isn't willing to come to you he sure isn't worth having. A man that would abandon his kids I wouldn't want either. You can bet if he ditches his kids/family he will ditch you sooner or later.

Know the feeling but there is a nice guy on Mingle not that far from you so hang around and you might find a summer romance.

Happy Birthday! Glad it was a good one.