"i don't even wanna date ppl i know let alone ppl, i don't "

Know that feeling for sure.

I love Atomic Fireballs but you'all are making me "Tater Crazy"! Must be the Irish in me.

I find that and interesting habit but it is old as time that people pretend to be someone they are not so that they would do it on line does not surprize me. I have a hard time just keeping up being one person so I don't know where they get the energy.

Finding out your child has a serious medical condition really rocks your world.

Part of the process is going through a series of emotional stages that in two short days is pretty tough to cover. Denial or minimalization is part of that. Once parents collect themselves they persue necessary treatment.

Since it is unlikely if immenent care was needed that the doctor would not have the infant admited; even if he had to call in social services to do it.

His MOTHER has every right to seek a second opinon or in many cases to refuse treatments. Cat scans and MRI's on infants is not a minor procedure. Neither will be what I would expect to be catestrophic brain surgery. Surgery that might have a very poor prognosis. Some parents choose to spare their their infants heroic measures and try to enjoy whatever quality of life they have without procedures.

I understand the significant bond you have with this child and how terribly upseting it must be fore you. If you want to learn accurate information the Muesella foundation can probably tell you where to look and how to access accurate information. Since it is possible for Mental Retardation to result from this condition I am sure your States Developemental Disabilities Council (often called the D.D. Council) under Mental Health and Mental Retardation (Listed in the Blue pages of the phone directory) can direct you to all kinds of resources as extended family and her to resouches geared for parents.

What is most needed now is for you to support your Sister with kindness and undertanding and not second guest her thinking.

I don't know if this is considered a rare disorder but the National Order of Rare Disorder NORD can help you with a lot of hard copu for a ver minimum amount (Usually postage).

Good Luck. Sounds like a lucky baby already to have two people who care so much,

If they would have had it available when my children were driving I would have used it then so absolutely yes in today's world.

I would not do it in secret though. I would explain it is for their saftey and if they are good on their word they have nothing to worry about. Even if it were their car I would require it if not OnStar.

I am really surprized parents don't require it on school buses.

From what I know of the maturity of teenagers I would not let them ride with a teen driver or be a solo teen driver until they have at least logged 1000 hours driving time with a parent or driving teacher and were at least 17.

One thing I would make clear is if they are not rested or under the influence for any reason if they need me to come get them I will no questions asked.

I would also make it clear that eating or useing a cell driveing the car would revoke the priviledge of driving.

My deepest sympathys for your loss.

There is a group called Compassionate Friends that can give you a great deal of emotional support. It is very important for your health and the health of your surviving child. Any maternity hospital can refer you. There groups are free.

If you contact your local Planned Parenthood they can help you find the needed post partum medical care to recover safely without complications.

It is important if you have not made arrangements to pay for your outstanding hospital bill that you do so to protect your credit. Since I am assumeing you don't make over $55,000 a year you will want to ask for the federally funded Hill Burton Act to pay up to 80% of the bill.

Then you can request, in writing, that the hospital forgive hopefully up to 10% of the bill.

If the balance is greater than 5% of your annual income you can offer to make equal payments up to that figure over the year usually up to three years. The advantage to this is by making and keeping written agreement you can save yourself interest charges and collection fees. Resist the the pressure to use a credit card.

If you apply and are denied Medical it is possible that by doing a financial spin-down that you would qualify. You will have to request and appeal for the denial in writing.

If you don't feel like you can manage all this paperwork or the situation overall you can call the local United Way.

Or the local Methodist Church and ask for a Stephen's Ministry mentor. Both services are free.

I will keep you in our prayers.

Once a couple knows enough about each other to come to the conclusion they want to marry I think they should become formally engaged. At that point it makes sense to me to start developeing a family relationship. Very few people fall in love suddenly or feel comfortable living with a stranger. I think it is only fair to a child to give them time to become accustom to the idea.

Once you have been burned on line it is pretty scary.
The thing that builds trust is consistency and time.

Because most women know that giving out a phone number will virtually unlock and extensive amount of information about them they are not real eager to give you that. Even if you give her your number she has to call you from somewhere. If you have been stalked by phone it is very difficult to get past it.

Since she was not going to be home for a while it makes sense that she would not want to advertise her address.

A month is really not a long time to talk to someone on line. Even if you are talking frequently and many hours. Relax and enjoy the attention.

If it is just friends or a mutual budding romance is hard to tell. It is important for you to be honest about your feelings. Don't over state them or understate them. If you look forward to talking to her tell her. Don't pretend to only think of her as a friend if you are thinking of more.

If you think it is possible that you are going to be in her area I would tell her and see if she asks to meet you. Likely that she will think it is a lie until you give her a flight number to check. Since it is easy to research almost any area with google you might want to suggest meeting at a public but upscale place such as a nice resturant or museum.

I think it is only fair to warn you that if she strings you along a lot longer you might be dissappointed.

He's thinking "That da-n poddle is in my food dish again!!!"

Ok did I miss something?

This woman was mature enough to tell you from the very beginning that she had NO INTEREST in a relationship but if you wanted to be friends fine.

She made no sexual ovatures towards you. Clearly a plutonic relationship from what you describe.

She introduced you to her family and friends as a friend only.

When you enjoyed being with her she did not take advantage of you and reciprocated your friendship and included you in her interests and as a guest to her home. Yes as a friend even confided to you like a loyal friend would.

Sounds like she let you hang around because you asked to or just wouldn't take no for and answer. Maybe she thought you were lonely. If you could not find one day to entertain yourself on your own it sounds like it.

What do you expect her parents to say to you when you are constantly there and sucking up to them with gifts and invitations? And keeping their daughter out of there hair or at least too busy to be available for her Ex.

Were you not the one who lied about the relationship? You told her you were willing to be friends and for weeks you have been lobbying to entrench yourself in her life if I understand what you said.

Then when she was not suspecting what you were doing because you had not tried it or even mention it you want to turn the tables.

Personaly I think she has made herself crystal clear. She told you to get lost. She is ignoreing your calls.

And just because you want it otherwise isn't going to make it so. You can infer whatever you want about being a gentleman but it doesn't qualify.

Since this girl doesn't sound like the type to put up with a lot you might want to take a chill pill. Or rather than whineing on the computer you are lible to find yourself in front of a judge.

And that crap about a kiss by a set number of dates is baloney. If a woman is interested in you she will tell you. She shouldn't have to prove anything.

Wheather you grow up enough to have and honest relationship is your choice. What you can count on if you don't is when the woman figures you out you are going to get dumped over and over again.

Is she a Yorkie? They make wonderful pets. Little fragile but so loving. She looks like a little Puff so I would name her after the remarkable woman Estee' Lauder because she is going to be a great luxery in your life.

When someone wants me to do something I have learned to tell them I will think about it and get back with them. If I still want to do it after 24 hours I still make it very clear what the boundries are and ask a lot of questions. If I don't like the answers I say no.

99% of the time someone asks you to do something at the last minute it was their responsibility and they found out it was a pain or impossible and they don't want to get stuck holding the bag.

Stand your ground. The longer you enable his helplessness the more you harm him. Every day he gets older fewer opportunities exist. I know it seems mean but the longer he is allowed NOT to work the less likely he ever is to be hired. There will come a time his youth and looks and strength will be gone and no one will care if he survives.

I know as a mother the hardest thing in the world is to let a child fall down and suffer his own decisions. Being and adult is so hard.

If you want to give him a ride to a shelter so be it. You want to give him a warm coat and a decent pair of work boots and gloves fine. He will probably curse you for it if it isn't cold.

It is sad to tell you but if He has not taken a job in six months he has found a way to have money. The likelyhood it is drugs, theft, or some form of violence is very good. Probably living off of some woman; maybe even stealing from you and you don't know it.

You let him in your house you are going to find out how. If you rent your house you can pretty much expect to be evicted when the drama starts up. How you would be any good to him then. Likelyhood is your kids at home are going to be too old for family shelters and if you don't have minor age children the shelters are not going to take you. Then by some small miracle he decides to turn around you won't be able to encourage him. If the stress and strain does you in he will have to carry the shame he destroyed his Momma.

There are jobs out there. They may not be glamorous and they may not pay a lot but it is better than the zero he is putting in his pocket. Or put in his room-mates pocket. He has to learn that when you cheat people there are consequences. If you don't teach him others will.

No matter what he tells you if he has a felony on his record someone has offered him resources. That he is just too hard-headed, too lazy to do the work required, or too selfish to follow the rules he has chosen not to pulled himself up. Would it be easy? No. Would he have to sacrifice some of his false pride that he is something special because he doesn't work? Yes Will he always be behind? Yes but at least you are not helping him get further behind.

I am so sorry you have to suffer through this. I have no doubt many people have contributed to this terrible waste. And the way the laws are written your hands are tied behind your back.

It is possible you can have him arrested and or committed to mental health but the likely hood it will only be a matter of days. The upside is a hospital social worker might co-ordinate aftercare and houseing placement. If he refuses he will be discharged to the street. Maybe if you make enough noise with your state senator or congressman they will help you find resources. If he has learning problems or disabilities maybe Division of Vocational Rehabilitation will help. If he is addicted you can try rehab. They are not all created equal. Some are throwing your money out the window.

Will keep you in my prayers. If you hit a snag send me and email and we can brainstorm.

I find texting exceedingly rude. It seems like an impatient child who does not have the good manners or maturity to wait their turn to speak. It is almost as offensive and intrusive as those cell phone users that can not unplug long enough to complete the simplest tasks. Employers that micro manage and enslave their employees this way seem to be failing to recruite or train leadership.

Part of it might be that people work such irregular hours that the general tradition of the normal times for conversation are sucked up.

That and most people would rather sit engaged with the TV than a human being in the evenings.

I also believe that many older people find the offensive language that has come into popular use is so distracting that they just rather not speak.

That might be true but there is something special about New York that makes even a minute memorable. (I LOVE NEW YORK!!!)

If people have and idea I wish they would back it up with reasons and examples. If someone else disagrees same standard.

I really don't see that calling names, or profanity, or vulgarities persuades anyone to think anything.

I can follow a person who explains there feelings have influenced their decisions or choices. I do have a hard time with people who try to use fear, guilt, anger, or shame to persuade.

If they act like useing Mingle is just too difficult to use and want you to down load their ISP user or write them at another email address they are just collecting address' to sell or info to rip you off.

Normal guys are not going to get real friendly real fast.

Don't remember the old version but seems like you are making a fair effort to let a date have a idea what you are about.

Be a little easier to read if you would organize it into one general idea per paragraph.

Somehow the photo you lead with doesn't jive with the text. A guy that likes to make people laugh can break loose with a smile. The football picture is great. That smile is very Carismatic.

Good luck. Think you will find some friends.

A guy that simple would bore me to tears.

I really think if that was all I offered a man he would be gone in a New York minute.

Don't most men find that kind of comment really offensive?