I'm not exactly sure how you mean this but how it's typed no, not really.

Otherwise I'd start dating dudes, and 4 year olds, and 97 year olds, and chimpanzee's that know sign language.

They all fulfill the criteria of "someone you never dreamed you would like or maybe fall in love with."

Plus I think I would be a real a-hole if I did the whole "well, I never dreamed I would like you, let alone fall in love with you, dating you was purely an experiment to get out of my comfort zone or whatever, or I simply felt sorry for you and to feel like a good person I decided I'd deign to date you, thank god I used you for that! Turned out well, huh."

Otherwise the whole "dating someone you never dreamed you would like or maybe fall in love with" seems to offer a huge danger of "a sure road to settling because you want immediate emotional gratification and a false sense of security, and you're only expanding your horizons because what you were doing wasn't working for you in getting what you want."


IOW there seem to be far more negative possibilities stemming from"dating someone you never dreamed you would like or maybe fall in love with" for the off chance that you hit the super mega powerball love and viable relationship jackpot.

So, no, I wouldn't take the risk dating "someone you never dreamed you would like or maybe fall in love with."


Sometimes the measure of an adult is being prepared for surprises.


What is right for you, or wrong for you, changes throughout your life, it can even change on a day to day, hour to hour, minute to minute, basis.

I think a better leading question would have been something like "do you believe in the immutability of your personality and life, that who you are is who you are, and who you like is who you like, always and forever, that you have a very specific type that is your ideal match. And if so, what would get you to take a risk/chance on dating someone you never dreamed you might like or fall in love with?"


If you don't address the...default mind set...of the people answering your question, the answers are ultimately meaningless.
I say I won't take a chance, but what does that mean to you?
Do you simply read "closed minded?"

Let's say I will date any woman I find attractive between the ages of 28-50, any race, any culture, within the neighborhood of my location, in a city of millions of people.
But I said I won't take a chance.

Then Pete McPetey responds after me that "yeah! I'm changing lately! I'm broadening my horizons! You have to have an open mind to find love! I'm willing to take that chance!"
Only in practical reality that translates to the standard of an attractive woman between the ages of 25-26, blonde, christian, southern american, within the city of 1500 people , but there's this brunette that's 25-26, christian, southern, he's had his eye on and he's thinking of going for.


What meaning did the answers "I won't take/haven't thought about taking a chance" vs. "I would take, do think about taking, a chance!" really provide you?

I'm not exactly sure how you mean this but how it's typed no, not really.

Otherwise I'd start dating dudes, and 4 year olds, and 97 year olds, and chimpanzee's that know sign language.

They all fulfill the criteria of "someone you never dreamed you would like or maybe fall in love with."

Plus I think I would be a real a-hole if I did the whole "well, I never dreamed I would like you, let alone fall in love with you, dating you was purely an experiment to get out of my comfort zone or whatever, or I simply felt sorry for you and to feel like a good person I decided I'd deign to date you, thank god I used you for that! Turned out well, huh."

Otherwise the whole "dating someone you never dreamed you would like or maybe fall in love with" seems to offer a huge danger of "a sure road to settling because you want immediate emotional gratification and a false sense of security, and you're only expanding your horizons because what you were doing wasn't working for you in getting what you want."


IOW there seem to be far more negative possibilities stemming from"dating someone you never dreamed you would like or maybe fall in love with" for the off chance that you hit the super mega powerball love and viable relationship jackpot.

So, no, I wouldn't take the risk dating "someone you never dreamed you would like or maybe fall in love with."


Sometimes the measure of an adult is being prepared for surprises.


What is right for you, or wrong for you, changes throughout your life, it can even change on a day to day, hour to hour, minute to minute, basis.

I think a better leading question would have been something like "do you believe in the immutability of your personality and life, that who you are is who you are, and who you like is who you like, always and forever, that you have a very specific type that is your ideal match. And if so, what would get you to take a risk/chance on dating someone you never dreamed you might like or fall in love with?"


If you don't address the...default mind set...of the people answering your question, the answers are ultimately meaningless.
I say I won't take a chance, but what does that mean to you?
Do you simply read "closed minded?"

Let's say I will date any woman I find attractive between the ages of 28-50, any race, any culture, within the neighborhood of my location, in a city of millions of people.
But I said I won't take a chance.

Then Pete McPetey responds after me that "yeah! I'm changing lately! I'm broadening my horizons! You have to have an open mind to find love! I'm willing to take that chance!"
Only in practical reality that translates to the standard of an attractive woman between the ages of 25-26, blonde, christian, southern american, within the city of 1500 people , but there's this brunette that's 25-26, christian, southern, he's had his eye on and he's thinking of going for.


What meaning did the answers "I won't take/haven't thought about taking a chance" vs. "I would take, do think about taking, a chance!" really provide you?

Now that Abba song is stuck in my head...
Thank you Candi...

I have a feeling a lot of people are going to be able to relate to this so here goes...

I have a best friend, who has been my friend and even more like a sister since we were in elementary school. She knows me better than anyone and her opinion means the world to me.

I, admittedly, am not the best at selecting men for myself. Any guy who was worthy, I scared away somehow and any guy who wasn't got to stick around way longer than I should have let him. My best friend (who I also call my wifey, and no not in a sexual way) likes to tell me after the fact that she never liked the guy or that I'm dumb for letting a good guy get away.

I've decided that since I SUCK at choosing men for myself, I should obtain her approval before getting serious with anyone.

Sounds like a pretty good plan eh?

I agree with your statement and I have met people like this in my my life, I call them" psychic vampires", they suck all the happiness out of a room.Leave them behind, focus on positive energy,you only get one go around in life , be happy.