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Now I will answer the OP's question.
It has been my observation that male Humans and female Humans focus on different things, sometimes to the detriment of all. For example, in the first Sharknado movie, Fin Shepard goes to his ex-wife's house in order to warn everyone there about the sharknado. Upon seeing Fin at her front door, April Wexler (Fin's ex-wife) is too caught up in her personal anger toward Fin, which prevents her from listening to Fin's reason for being there. Fin's daughter is the same way. Only until the daughter's boyfriend is eaten by a shark is the daughter and mother willing to listen to Fin. Likewise, in the animated movie The Incredibles, Lucius Best (a.k.a. Frozone) sees the need for him to respond to the attacking robot, but his wife is too caught up in her desire to dine out with Lucius, which prevents Lucius from putting on his super suit. In each case, the woman is too focused on a particular narrow issue to see the big picture. I have observed such behavior on the part of Human females whenever I am out shopping. All too often, female Humans will be too focused on talking to each or too focused on a particular store item that they don't notice that they are obstructing aisles. Male Human, in general, pay attention to the broad picture and are more courteous to the other shoppers. In short . . . female Humans - narrow focus male Humans - broad focus |
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Edited by
jacktrades
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Mon 01/18/16 06:16 PM
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Now I will answer the OP's question. It has been my observation that male Humans and female Humans focus on different things, sometimes to the detriment of all. For example, in the first Sharknado movie, Fin Shepard goes to his ex-wife's house in order to warn everyone there about the sharknado. Upon seeing Fin at her front door, April Wexler (Fin's ex-wife) is too caught up in her personal anger toward Fin, which prevents her from listening to Fin's reason for being there. Fin's daughter is the same way. Only until the daughter's boyfriend is eaten by a shark is the daughter and mother willing to listen to Fin. Likewise, in the animated movie The Incredibles, Lucius Best (a.k.a. Frozone) sees the need for him to respond to the attacking robot, but his wife is too caught up in her desire to dine out with Lucius, which prevents Lucius from putting on his super suit. In each case, the woman is too focused on a particular narrow issue to see the big picture. I have observed such behavior on the part of Human females whenever I am out shopping. All too often, female Humans will be too focused on talking to each or too focused on a particular store item that they don't notice that they are obstructing aisles. Male Human, in general, pay attention to the broad picture and are more courteous to the other shoppers. In short . . . female Humans - narrow focus male Humans - broad focus Sharknado? My Lord, David where do you come up with this stuff? You just made my night I can't stop laughing... 
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So we all know that gender roles have evolved considerably. In years past, a man"s value in the home/relationship was rooted in his pedominant role as financial provider, physical protector, decision maker and child disciplinarian. With some of those roles having been usurped by women over time, I ask.... 1. What INVALUABLE qualities / services APART FROM SEX and the procreation process, do men have to offer in a relationship /home? 2. In the absence of being the main financial provider, what service do you bring as a man to your home/relationship that makes you feel MOST proud or validated as a man? Miss OP Begging your pardon You would look awful silly wearing one of these.  Thankfully, you have guys like me, for that job. 
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they are direct, they are often times excellent for giving advice they are problem solvers and often have no problem whatsoever with conflict and standing your ground and standing up for yourself if someone is trying to take advantage of you they are quick to tell you if they think there is something going on with your automobile and who to take it to to get it fixed they have no problem if not everyone in the room likes them and will voice their opinions and let the chips fall where they may they can be irate and down right angry with someone on their phone and at the same time pause long enough to open the door for you and let you go in the store first Tmommy. I loooooooooooooooooooooooooove your response IT TOTALLY RESONATES with me. I actually wish the guys who responded so far would have been able/willing to list all their unique qualities they bring to a relationship/family like you did ,instead of trying to be cute lol  1.they are direct, they are often times excellent for giving advice 2.they are problem solvers and often have no problem whatsoever with conflict 3.standing up for us women if people are trying to hurt us/innate protectiveness towards women they love 3.they are quick to tell you if they think there is something going on with your automobile and who to take it to to get it fixed 4. they have no problem if not everyone in the room likes them and show us by example not to be dominated by people's opinion of us 5. and will voice their opinions and let the chips fall where they may unlike many of us women who are wired to obsess over an issue for a decade! lol The other qualities you described? uummm... Not too sure if its the norm but its enviable that it has been your reality. Let's hear it for the boyzzzzz! AMAZING CONTRIBUTION TMOMMY!  it evolved into a wish list of who it is I am looking for 
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Sharknado? My Lord, David where do you come up with this stuff? You just made my night I can't stop laughing... The SYFY Network created the movie Sharknado, along with Sharknado 2 and Sharknado 3. I just report what happens in them. |
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Without men in the world, who is going to design, build, and replace the batteries on all those battery operated boyfriends that will be needed?
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Tmommy. I loooooooooooooooooooooooooove your response IT TOTALLY RESONATES with me. I actually wish the guys who responded so far would have been able/willing to list all their unique qualities they bring to a relationship/family like you did ,instead of trying to be cute lol The other qualities you described? uummm... Not too sure if its the norm but its enviable that it has been your reality. Let's hear it for the boyzzzzz! AMAZING CONTRIBUTION TMOMMY! it evolved into a wish list of who it is I am looking for Thank you TMommy for also documenting a wish list for what A LOT of us women are looking for. Cheers! 
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Knowledge has always developed the gender roles and will continue. The lines have always overlapped with flexibility to the circumstance.
*I have both roles. Alpha male forced by the challenge, single parenting. On the report card would be A+ and a solid B. The B is because they will not see a female cry and how I react and so on. They will have missed the solid contribution that only a women can do, the smell, the sound... As men I hope they find the right one that will understand the weaknesses. * They see me tested continually and in their eyes an example of how to live. (change diapers easy, one hand. Guys work in the sewers!) I hate fountains Maybe I have forgotten the question 
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Hmmmmm. Well other than sexual intercourse, companionship, good cooking skills.....what do I need a woman for? Maybe cause I like em?
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Hmmmmm. Well other than sexual intercourse, companionship, good cooking skills.....what do I need a woman for? Maybe cause I like em? eh! And why do they need you Goofball73 (the joy ) right
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Materially, I bring to a relationship the basic stuff cars, house , cash flow etc...means not a great deal to me. But I also offer loyalty, faithfulness, honesty and above all ...companionship. Hopefully, that will be valued more than anything else. If that is not enough, I will still feel and believe I am the man...just not yours....all I am saying.. FINALLY!!! The men in this thread are stepping up! I like your contribution  When I posted this question I deliberately eliminated financial contributor, sex partner and procreator from the equation because these are the easiest answers to produce . So I was looking for qualities / services that were UNIQUE to men which reflect their invaluable contributions to relationships/families. While loyalty, faithfulness and honesty are not unique qualities to men per say, they are commendable answers to my second question " In the absence of being the main financial provider, what service/quality do you bring as a man to your home/relationship that makes you feel MOST proud or validated as a man?" I am guessing your response to that is Loyalty, faithfulness and honesty? |
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Hmmmmm. Well other than sexual intercourse, companionship, good cooking skills.....what do I need a woman for? Maybe cause I like em? Aaaaawww..... That is so sweet!I am sure all the women here are blushing  But what about my original questions Goofball? What do YOU think apart from sex and procreation are some invaluable contributions that men make to relationships/ family and which of those contributions do you take most pride in?
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I'm still waiting for Japan to perfect the AI companion so that I can finally have something that actually wants to be with me and doesn't constantly want to know why I don't want to have sex with it.
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Hmmmmm. Well other than sexual intercourse, companionship, good cooking skills.....what do I need a woman for? Maybe cause I like em? eh! And why do they need you Goofball73 (the joy ) right Cause I have awesome mechanical skills.
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Edited by
peggy122
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Mon 01/18/16 08:15 PM
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Now I will answer the OP's question. It has been my observation that male Humans and female Humans focus on different things, sometimes to the detriment of all. For example, in the first Sharknado movie, Fin Shepard goes to his ex-wife's house in order to warn everyone there about the sharknado. Upon seeing Fin at her front door, April Wexler (Fin's ex-wife) is too caught up in her personal anger toward Fin, which prevents her from listening to Fin's reason for being there. Fin's daughter is the same way. Only until the daughter's boyfriend is eaten by a shark is the daughter and mother willing to listen to Fin. Likewise, in the animated movie The Incredibles, Lucius Best (a.k.a. Frozone) sees the need for him to respond to the attacking robot, but his wife is too caught up in her desire to dine out with Lucius, which prevents Lucius from putting on his super suit. In each case, the woman is too focused on a particular narrow issue to see the big picture. I have observed such behavior on the part of Human females whenever I am out shopping. All too often, female Humans will be too focused on talking to each or too focused on a particular store item that they don't notice that they are obstructing aisles. Male Human, in general, pay attention to the broad picture and are more courteous to the other shoppers. In short . . . female Humans - narrow focus male Humans - broad focus Dodo ... I very seldom hear you say anything serious... but it was totally worth the wait!!!!!!! Believe it or not, I agree with you and I love your way of illustrating the point Men tend to look at what is relevant in the broader sense unlike us women who sweat the small stuff all damn day!  How would a couple be able to focus on dozens of other important issues when we women remain stuck in a tiny puddle of mud. Men offer an invaluable quality to help us women in that area. Nice contribution Dododavid!
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I'm still waiting for Japan to perfect the AI companion so that I can finally have something that actually wants to be with me and doesn't constantly want to know why I don't want to have sex with it. Wait a minute... Did I misunderstand you dnhblue? Or did you just imply that you DON'T want to have sex with a woman??? (... Shhh.. I know a great doctor who can help you sort that issue out.. Email me ok? )
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For her benefit:
I think a women's true adventure begins (if he will let her) with discovering a mans essence (soul) and the fascination of the unending depth. *This she will only find in a male. (  snack/bath/story/nails cut/kissed/)
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So we all know that gender roles have evolved considerably. In years past, a man"s value in the home/relationship was rooted in his pedominant role as financial provider, physical protector, decision maker and child disciplinarian. With some of those roles having been usurped by women over time, I ask.... 1. What INVALUABLE qualities / services APART FROM SEX and the procreation process, do men have to offer in a relationship /home? 2. In the absence of being the main financial provider, what service do you bring as a man to your home/relationship that makes you feel MOST proud or validated as a man? Peggy, what is your motivation for posing these questions? What makes me and every huMAN valuable is potential. Potential for empathy, humility, compassion, cooperation, generosity etc. You seem to be after tangible characteristics that might be perceived as masculine, that may give some a sense of gender specific worth? |
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"NEED"- No.
"Would Like"-Yes. But qualified with the proviso that the individual[man] could enrich, enhance, & benefit my life. |
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Knowledge has always developed the gender roles and will continue. The lines have always overlapped with flexibility to the circumstance. *I have both roles. Alpha male forced by the challenge, single parenting. On the report card would be A+ and a solid B. The B is because they will not see a female cry and how I react and so on. They will have missed the solid contribution that only a women can do, the smell, the sound... As men I hope they find the right one that will understand the weaknesses. * They see me tested continually and in their eyes an example of how to live. (change diapers easy, one hand. Guys work in the sewers!) I hate fountains Maybe I have forgotten the question Well I was referring to what men in general contribute. Single dads are a specific category, but I will be the first to say that they make a huuuuuuuuuuuuuuuge contribution to the family unit. Way to go Doug!
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