My bf tells me he loves me but yet he is talking to other women in ways he should only talk to me. His friends tell him he is a fool for doing that . I am a very loyal person and I'm trying to get him to get off these sites. Why would a man who has a good women who would do anything for him betray the person they say they love ? I have tried everything to get him off these things and to stop talking to other women the way he does? Someone plz help give me some ideas PLZ

I'm really so sad dear friend. U know all person is not same

Yet YOU are on dating site.

And you come to a dating/social site?

Hummm yet you are on these sites too???

I seem to recall everyone calling that sitaution as "a pot calling the kettle black." back in the day.

My friend, you need to move on. He won’t change, find someone better.

Ignore some of the replies, you are on a free forum, so entitled to be here for some helpful advice.

cause you let him
boot his azz and move on
best wishes on your hunt

The only real answers are his to tell.

I’ve always felt the key to honesty in a relationship isn’t in the telling or the hearing, but in a partner’s desire to truly understand one another. No matter what.

The man has to want to get off dating. Sites. He decides not you.

There is not enough info really. What kind of 'talking'? And what constitutes 'bf'? and does he consider you his 'gf'?

These are all easily cleared up by communicating expectations with each other. Could be disrespect on his part, or it could be that he does not perceive the relationship in the same place you do, it could be he still feels he is getting to build a relationship with you and not sure what boundaries he is interested in having.

In whatever case, its probably best to ask him where you are and where he would like you to be. If I were you, I would use 'we' alot instead of you or me ... as in

So are 'we' free to still flirt with other people? (sometimes they havent thought about it in the terms of the shoe on the other foot either, and that helps them to be clear about where the relationship is, for both of your sakes)

If he knows you are not ok with him talking to other girls but he still does, then I do think it’s a red flag. On the other hand if both of you are clear about being in love but no commitments which is usually what happens on line I think you are just both being realistic. You should talk to him and clear out what you both want and if you’re not on the same page then it’s just really a waste of time. If you’re relationship is not on line and real from the very start he should be wanting to spend time with you, be with you and talking to only you . Ask him why does he need to talk to someone else? maybe he’s not secure with you? If discussions end in a negative way and you both can’t meet in the middle and letting go is the easiest way, maybe it was not love after all. Good luck to you

Dump him.

Find a new BF.

Then go online and whine.

There are three sides to every story.
Her side
His side,
and truth, somewhere in the middle.


Perhaps, the guy really is a thoughtless douche.
OR,
Perhaps you're doing something, even unknowingly,
to bring about the behavior from your guy.

Hi, To begin with I usually do not do this, but.... If he is on sites doing as you say... Then, he is doing what he wants.... with no regard for you or your opinion or anything.... He is just into himself....

Please, just reflect.... Think, i mean really think... about his actions and his behavior towards you and your relationship.... Look into yourself, your answer is there.... I know, it may hurt, but better that you seek it in your heart.... Your heart and intuition will not fail you.... I understand your pain.... yes, so many of us have been hurt, but, do not let this moment in time, define you and your life..... you are loved and cherished by others.... some of which you do not even realize....

As others have said on here in the past, 'Cheating' takes many forms, and he is cheating on you by talking intimately with other women, and even when he knows it hurts you he still continues. There is only one course of action in my opinion, that is to break up with him, unless you want to be his door mat until he eventually finds another woman to replace you.

Welcome to Mingle2.

Well I would Start off telling him what you essentially want and why it is important to you, (being of one flesh or some other thing ). Also tell him what the rules are that way if he breaks them it is ACTUALLY cheating and you can justify the break up with him, (like connecting with another woman).

Common understanding should help, to do that one would use nonjudgmental communication. Tell him it is none of your business if he WANTS to connect with another woman, but that you just want to talk about it to understand him. Make sure he knows can talk about it safely, ( just like you want your relationship safe from cheating). Hear him out, don’t hold him in contempt. Love him as he is.

Tell him what you want. Don’t try to control him, hopefully he will turn from his lust towards a fulfillment with you. But if he breaks a rule, then leave.

Many men talk to several women at a time sometimes, on dating sites.

Thousands of people available to talk and there are dozens of sites out there.

How do you know what he is saying to these women? I’ve known people in committed relationships who socialize on this site and don’t believe they were using the site to foo around on their partner.

On the other hand, not being mindful of your partners feelings about it is a concern, and may say something about the relationship.

I understand you seeking outside opinions before raising hell with him, because you don’t want to overreact to something he may consider normal by anyone else’s standards. But in the end, a discussion about expectations and boundaries would probably be advisable so you can continue on the same page in the future.